BABY TALK IS YOUR SUPER POWER 💪🏻
If you were able to spy on other couples, you would probably see them communicating in a way that’s all too familiar, but rarely acknowledged: with high pitched, cutesy wootsy, “I wuv yew” baby voices.
IS “BABY TALK” A SIGN OF DEEP OR SHALLOW LOVE?
Genuinely curious about this communication phenomenon I decided to do some research; weighting in on the pros and cons of how this communication style can affect our relationships. For those unfamiliar with it, “baby talk” encompasses any sort of communication that resembles the way you speak to a baby, child or even pet. Maybe it includes endearing nicknames, exaggerated playful emotions, a shift in tone or demeanor or a jump to a higher octave. Sometimes it consists of affectionate verbal exchanges, sometimes it’s legit coo-ing, and sometimes it sounds like complete gibberish.
“Baby talk signals closeness, is a method of 'mirroring' to evoke positive emotions, and fosters secure attachment with one another,” says Dr. Hall - a famous NY couple’s therapist. It indicates a desire to nurture your partner and the bond between you two.”
She went on to explain that this way of communicating replicates that very first bonding experience we have in this world — usually with our primary caregivers. When a parent speaks this way to their child, it’s a way to establish love, bonding, affection and a sense of security. The same is true when it comes to adult romantic partnerships. Speaking like this is innate and universal to all humans, notes Hall.
CREATE A STRONGER BOND THROUGH NEW EXPERIENCES
Either by learning a new skill together or building a home, there is no material ”gift” that can replace the gift of a partner that brings out the best in YOU. Creating lasting memories attached to strong emotions such as courage, loss, failure, joy, ambition, love helps you build unbreakable intimacy. So go out there and find a hobby you both enjoy or something exciting that you can practice as a couple. Doing this consistently enough will leave you ingrained in your partner’s subconscious, making YOU a part of his/hers biochemistry. How magical is that right? To have yourself present inside of your lover’s mind & soul no matter what.
BECOME THE LOVER YOUR PARTNER NEEDS
Do you know how you learned to love, fight, win, lose as a child? How about your partner? It is important to navigate his/hers childhood wounds in order to GIVE the right kind of encouragement, passion, affection, communication, etc... But remember; you can’t give what you don’t have. Make sure you understand who you are and what makes you happy before you try to do the same for others.
HAVE FUN TOGETHER
Not only through pain & hardships but also through fun & joy we bring our love one closer. A vibrant, entertaining relationship is also a sign of a strong bond. Having fun together will keep the “spark” alive and will entice you to be more benevolent to your partner’s needs.
