Accountability is uncomfortable. It’s messy. And let’s be honest, most of us aren’t great at it. In this episode, we’re breaking down why accountability feels so hard in today’s world, especially in relationships and online, and how avoiding it is quietly destroying our connections.

We dive into:

• Why cancel culture and social media have made true accountability rare.

• How ego, pride, and fear keep us from owning our mistakes.

• The questions we all need to ask ourselves if we want healthier relationships.

• Our personal stories of failing (and learning) to take accountability aka, the times we had to eat humble pie.

Whether it’s in your marriage, friendships, or the way you show up online, accountability changes everything. This one might sting a little… but in the best way possible.

 Listen now and let’s get real.

In this episode, we open up about the weight of religious shame, family dysfunction, and unspoken grief.. and how it shaped our marriage in ways we didn't even realize. I talk about growing up in a home where silence was survival, where divorce was never an option, and where my voice often felt too small to be heard. We dive into how my parents' toxic patterns and the church expectations made me hard, made me the "strong one", and made is nearly impossible to trust anyone, including Brentt.This isn't just about faith. It's about the ways we were both shaped by what we didn't talk about, loss, pain, love and leadership, and how we're now learning to break those cycles for ourselves and our kids.If you've ever felt trapped by family expectations, faith, or silence.... this conversation will feel like a deep breath you didn't know you needed. Talking about this about grief, shame, and everything we’ve carried, reminds me just how hard it is to stay connected when life gets heavy.If you’re listening and thinking, “I don’t even know where to start with my partner,” we built something just for you.We created an eBook called Married-ish: The 30-Day Reconnection Plan, it’s packed with simple, daily steps and conversations that helped us find our way back to each other.If you’ve felt distant, stuck, or like the spark is gone… this is your starting place. We’re not promising perfect, we’re just giving you the tools we wish we had when everything felt broken.You can grab it using this link Itsbrittneelee.com/30-dayBecause connection doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen when you show up, even for 10 minutes a day.

In this episode, we're peeling back the layers of how childhood trauma, emotional abandonment, and survival mode shaped the way we showed up in love.

We discuss what happens when the woman becomes the provider, the protector, and the emotional anchor until she doesn't recognize herself anymore.

This is a raw conversation about inner child wounds, mismatched roles, and the resentment that builds when softness doesn't feel safe. We unpack how our pasts played out in our partnership, and how we're unlearning those patterns in real time.

If you've ever felt like the strong one who's secretly breaking... this one's for you.

Everyone talks about healing like it’s a glow-up.

Like you wake up one day with perfect boundaries, green smoothies, and a healed nervous system.

But no one really talks about the nights you’re crying on the bathroom floor, questioning if you were the toxic one…

Or the mornings you’re staring at a text you could send, but don’t…

This episode is about the work no one saw. The version of us that broke apart. The time we spent in silence, questioning everything.

And the work… the slow, humiliating, beautiful, un-Instagrammable work… of figuring out who we actually are without each other.

And what happened when we finally met again, this time as different people.

In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on the moment everything changed. We talk about the shift, emotionally, mentally, relationally, that led to science, separation, and the unraveling of what we thought we had.

It wasn't one fight. It wasn't just a bad season. It was a slow buildup of everything unspoken, finally demanding to be dealt with.

This is the part no one saw. The part that hurt the most.

And the part that, in hindsight, might've saved us.

Chatting about the negatives we experienced full timing.

Brentt asks Brittnee all the questions he normally ask people at the bar.

How we stay focused on our marriage with kids, work and homeschooling.

Brentt & Brittnee chat about intimacy in the RV and moving into a sticks and bricks home.