Podcast description:
Andrea and I learned early on in parenthood that distraction is a great child management tool.
Scenario 1 – in the park.
Child: I want an ice cream
Mum: You can’t have an ice cream.
Child: But I want an ice cream now!
Mum: But you just had your dinner
Child: Ice cream.
Mum: You just had your dinner and you had a big chocolate pudding. You must be full up.
Child: Please can I have an ice cream?
Mum: You’ll be sick
Child: I said pleeeease?
Mum: Do you want to be sick all over your buggy?
Child: No, I just want an ice cream.
Mum: Daddy, do you think an ice cream is a good idea?
Dad: Wha? Sorry? I don’t know. Er. (Tunes in, sees mum’s expression) No. Ice cream makes you fat.
Child: Has daddy had an ice cream?
Scenario 2 – in the park.
Child: I want an ice cream.
Mum: Oh look! There’s a slide and some swings!
Dad: Oh yes! They look amazing!
Child: (being taken away from the ice cream van) I want an ice cream.
Dad: I wonder how high I can push you on that swing.
Mum: Careful darling.
Child: Swing!
Dad: Come on then! (pushes child high on swing)
Child: I feel sick.
Mum: You won’t want an ice cream then will you.
Child: Ice cream!
A distraction is a thing that prevents someone from focusing on something else. The example above is a good use of distraction to help stay away from unhealthy options, but to the untamed mind, distractions come in all shapes and forms and can hold us back and drag us down.
There are, then, two elements involved:
A desired focus (e.g. exercise)
An undesired focus that has got in the way (e.g. café with donuts next door to the gym)
We can be distracted from work, exercise, healthy relationships, study.
And we can be distracted by anything that looks more appealing at the time, usually something that brings quicker but less helpful results.
All this is familiar to all of us and we never grow out of it. We all have desires that can get in the way of good things.
But it’s not just us who are aware of this. God has plenty for us to focus on but much of it reaps rewards that we can’t instantly see. And our spiritual enemy the devil has got plenty of distractions up his sleeve that are intended to eventually throw us off course altogether.
So, what is God’s desired focus for us?
Last week I mentioned God’s playbook and our role in it. It was really simplified but gave us a good overview of what God’s up to in the grand scheme of things.
Save humanity
Come back to earth
Punish the devil
Reign forever with those who believed in him
Then I said that our role in all this was
Love God
Love people
Make disciples
But if I could distil it down and risk even oversimplifying it further, I’d say the desired focus is summed up by Jesus in Matthew 6:33
“Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness,”
Seek first - there isn’t a ‘second’, unlike the greatest commandment where God gave a second too. Seek his kingdom first. For everything else you have two options – put it second or throw it out altogether.
You brought nothing into the world, and you cannot take anything with you when you die. You may have heard the joke about the man who tried to bring some gold to heaven when he died. When he got to the gates of heaven St Peter asked him what he had with him. The man replied, I pleaded with God before I died, and he let me bring this to heaven. Peter asked what was so special about a lump of pavement. In reality, you can’t take anything with you. But some things you do are of eternal value. You can store treasures in heaven by seeking his kingdom first. But you can only do that if you’ve had a forensically thorough declutter of the whole of your life and decide if everything you do has a kingdom attitude about it and if everything else you seek is secondary. Otherwise it’s a distraction.
Distraction from
Here’s what seeking the kingdom first looks like.