Troubled Teen or Broken System?

Good morning. My name is Tony Rhoton, and I have a question I want to ask you. Do you have a broken family system?

I have been helping so many people for many years, and one of the things that I’ve realized is so many people don’t recognize or identify what they want. Even myself, when I started this journey, it began with a desire to help youth.

What’s interesting is as I was going down this journey to help teens and young adults, and I’m still in this adventure because it’s not over. It’s a commitment. It’s a longterm adventure. I had all my marketing materials targeting teens, there were edgier, more cutting edge, abstract and a lot more playful. Then I received some inspiration to help the women, specifically mothers.

This is how it came about, the inspiration was,

“if you want to help the youth, you have to help their mothers feel worthy and validated themselves. If a mom is struggling with depression, anxiety, suicide, etc., they cannot help their child.”

Help the Mothers

A well mother is powerful!

The inspiration I received was to help the mothers become well. If the mother is well she can help her child.

I immediately changed my website, everything I had to target women precisely. As I’ve been going down this path, abused and neglected men have started to come into my life asking for help. Whether you’re a man or a woman, the principles are the same.

This is what I’m realizing, “no matter what we do, life is a journey; however, it’s a family journey and you’ll be guided as you desire to be your best.”

Now, it may not be like a traditional family like a mother, father, and a child, It could be a grandparent and a child, or it could be friends and associations that form your family. Your family system needs to be well for you to be well. If your system is sick, even if you start feeling better, a lot of times you begin to feel sick again. What we have to do is get ourselves in a position that we are so well that you are not affected by your system anymore. You have taken the time to build up your emotional, mental and spiritual barriers. You’re not going to allow negative influences to make you sick anymore.

Children Repeating Negative Behaviors

I have seen so many children go to residential treatment. Residential treatment costs you $30,000 on average, some are more and some are less. Parents and loved ones spend $30,000 a month to help a child get well. Unfortunately, within six months they will most likely relapse. The relapse will be so severe that several of them end up back in the hospital or regretfully, don’t make it out.

Several of these young boys and girls feel worthless. They feel like, my family, just spent a lot of money on me and here I am again, I’m useless. The cycle of going to a rehab facility repeats.

Step back a moment and look at other things, this repeated negative behavior is telling you that there’s something wrong. Something is not working within the system. They have a broken family system, not the person, the system.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up!

Don’t beat yourself up. Every system is broken in some way or another. There is not a perfect system that is also part of the journey but realize that if our child is repeating the same behaviors over and over and over again,