If we are trying to overcome a bad habit, a vice or even an addiction, we should consider adding the word “preference” to our spiritual vocabulary. Because of our fallen human condition, we tragically, and unknowingly, function out of a fearful orientation that pits us against just about everything we come into contact with; thus, when we want to change our relationship with food, alcohol, sex, another person, or even ourselves, we automatically go into fighting mode. Such extreme behavior not only reinforces a faulty anthropology, but is existentially unsound and we end up in a circle of confusion which just makes matters worse. We can try this new line of thinking instead: I like food! Food miraculously grows from the earth and not only nourishes my body, but meets a psychological need that I have for connection. Sometimes, when I overeat, however, my other needs, like connection with other people, physical health, and savings in my bank account get compromised. Just for today, I prefer the greater good of eating in moderation. Once we have accepted the truth that everything in life is in fact good, our choices will simply become preferences that gradually lead us into the source of all goodness who has been preferring us, with unwavering love, from the very beginning. Ave Crux, Spes Unica.
