btchfest

Plus, they’re joined by a guest who lives this work daily—international BDSM model and educator Ariel Anderssen—who shares how submission is anything but weak, and how embracing kink helped her take control of her body, her voice, and her power.

This episode is for anyone who's ever struggled to say what they want, questioned if they were “too much,” or felt shame for exploring their desires. Tune in, take notes, and maybe even start your own sexual revolution.

From the “Madonna/Whore” dichotomy to the rise of terms like “girlboss,” we explore how language can box women into impossible binaries and create competition instead of community. We also discuss how social media and cancel culture amplify these issues—and how comedians and creators are pushing back by reclaiming the words once used against them.

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In this week's episode Sami and Ami sit down with Hailey Grandchamp, founder of WOAT – Women of All Terrain – to unpack the toxic roots of diet culture and the insidious ways it still shows up in our lives today. From early Hollywood ideals to the ‘90s supermodel era and today’s #WhatIEatInADay culture, we explore how unrealistic beauty standards have shaped our relationships with food, fitness, and our bodies for generations.

Hailey shares her personal story of recovering from years of restriction and body shame—starting from her time as a young gymnast to becoming a powerhouse coach helping over 700 women rediscover strength, confidence, and joy through movement and reconnection, not restriction.

We talk about:

The real origins of diet culture (spoiler: it’s not about health)

The billion-dollar industry that profits off your shame

Social media’s role in reinforcing toxic messages—and how to resist

What it means to actually heal your relationship with your body

🎉 Special offer for listeners! Hailey is offering 10% off her coaching program for our audience. Book a call at go.becomingallterrain.com/welcome and mention btchfest!

Together, we unpack what it’s like to start telling the truth out loud, only to realize that staying feels more embarrassing than leaving. Nicole reflects on the turning point when shame became fuel for accountability, and the powerful steps she took to finally break free.

If you’ve ever been in it, are in it, or love someone who is—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we dive into the history and cultural legacy of the tomboy: where the term came from, how it shaped generations, and what it says about gender expectations. We unpack media influences, personal childhood memories, and shifting societal norms—with help from a very special guest: Julie, Ami’s mom(!), who shares her own reflections on girlhood, identity, and raising kids in a more inclusive world.

From gendered clothing to playground politics, this conversation explores whether “tomboy” empowered authenticity or reinforced a narrow view of what girls were “allowed” to be. We ask: what’s the modern alternative to this label, and how do we raise the next generation with more freedom to be exactly who they are?

It’s time to shift the narrative—and the responsibility—away from women, for good.

Hosts Sami and Ami sit down with Danielle Mashuda, founder of Keystone Artist Connect and a total powerhouse in the music and events world, to explore the forces that have shaped women’s timelines—from historical gender roles and the myth of the “biological clock” to cultural narratives, family expectations, and shame around aging. Danielle shares her own path, the freedom she’s found in rejecting traditional expectations, and the clarity that comes when you stop doing what you should do and start doing what you want to do.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt behind, stuck, or like they missed some invisible deadline. (Spoiler alert: you didn’t.)

It’s a lingering Double standard. Men aren’t labeled as “working dads” because it’s assumed that their career remains uninterrupted by parenthood. So…why is this label still applied to mothers?

What happens when a woman stops chasing productivity and starts prioritizing presence? In this week's episode, we dive into the outdated but persistent choice fallacy—the idea that women must choose between career and motherhood—and the emotional labor and mental load that often accompany both. From media narratives like Mr. Mom and I Don’t Know How She Does It, to workplace policies that claim to support working parents (but often penalize mothers), we explore how societal structures are—or aren’t—set up for modern motherhood.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt the pressure to be everything, do everything, and smile through it. Let’s unpack the unspoken expectations—and imagine something better.

Alongside her husband Jeff Crocker, Andy creates live experiences designed to delight audiences and turn strangers into pals through their partnership Mister & Mischief. They have created award-winning interactive productions that have captivated audiences at Universal Studios, IndieCade, and beyond. Their projects, like Escape from Godot, 40 Watts from Nowhere, and The Apple Avenue Detective Agency, have been hailed by The Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, and Broadway World, and they’ve even earned a spot among Blooloop’s Top 50 Immersive Influencers.

Andy’s work is truly rooted in sparking curiosity, play, and connection and we’re thrilled to have her here today to talk about her journey, the magic of immersive experiences, and what’s next for Mister & Mischief.