Inna Neal – Show Notes

Personal definition of resilience – having the ability to pause, to reflect, and to take 100% responsibility.  Not from the place of finding fault in yourself but more from a place of "how can I make this better, how can I find a solution?"

She used to look at life as if it was happening to her.  Adversities, sadness, depression.  Woke up thinking "is this it?"

Three years ago, "I just can't do this anymore" and remember hearing her own voice which came from deep inside "what if you're doing this all wrong?" 

Wayne Dyer – You'll See It When You Believe It

She had not read the book but she knew what it meant.  You must start to believe what you want, you must start to ask yourself open ended questions – "how can I find solutions, what do I want from my life?"

The mind is a beautiful machine.  It loves to stay in the comfort zone. 

She began to get uncomfortable and ask herself "what is my purpose here?"  From the smaller perspective "how do I want to raise my children, how do I want to show up, what thoughts do I want to have?"  She became more and more comfortable with the uncomfortable.  "What can I do and what are my solutions?"

Came home after that morning and watched Wayne Dyer on You Tube for hours.  Began to listen, read, explore. 

She was constantly on auto pilot and the auto pilot was not very pretty.  Things began to change.  She began to take responsibility for herself.  She began to ask herself the questions.  And learn through podcasts, books, masters and teachers.  She began taking the action.  She also began to love herself as well which was very big for her.  It was a year into the process where she began to show up for her family and it was magic. 

Then she asked "how do I teach this to my children?"

She trusted that the right answer would show up for her.  She saw an ad on Facebook called Adventures in Wisdom.  It was exactly what she was looking for.  It was exactly what she wanted to teach.  It was for children and it was through story telling.  27 different skills. 

She had just graduated with a diploma in mental health and had decided to go further and do child psychology but something wasn't sitting right with her.  When she saw this certification she knew this was it. 

She began practicing with her own and her friend's children.  Then wondered how to teach on a bigger scale.  Went to the public library and asked if they would like her to do a workshop on self-confidence.  They looked at her and said "we have been waiting for a person like you."  Doors began to open, she began to meet incredible people – parents and kids.

Adults are harder to teach.  It isn't so much about teaching.  We can learn through information and we can take it in this intellectual level but we need to have those "ah ha" moments.  With children it is not like I am teaching them something new, it is like I am reminding them.  They have less auto pilot.  They live more in the moment.  They know innately what feels right to them.  Children are born innately knowing what they need.  Then they grow up and they are put in an environment where a lot of adults are telling them what to do.  And they begin to forget that they have a guidance system inside of them. 

She teaches 27 different skills broken up into five different programmes.   Including - finding their guidance system, finding their core values, honouring who they are, honouring their own uniqueness, what self-talk looks like.

A lot of visualisation.  She teaches meditation.  She teaches them that they are in charge of their thoughts.  How their thoughts are connected to their feelings.  Managing fear, mistakes, failure, overcoming change.  How to set goals, how to create the life that you love.

Parents are given a take home sheet where they get to use the same language.  Parents need to become present and aware.  And that will change the way they speak to their children.

Begin to pay attention to what you are thinking.  It isn't easy.  The mind wants to go back to the autopilot.  Set intentions about how you want to show up for your children.  Ask yourself, "what do I want in this moment?  What is my purpose now?"

When we teach it is not what we say, it is what we feel and what we do that teaches them how to be.

The results are pretty much instant.  After teaching one or two skills she is getting emails "my child is blossoming, this programme has changed our lives." 

After a year she is noticing incredible changes and shifts in the children. 

Personal tool for resilience – setting intentions.  Getting ahead of the story that we repeat in our minds.  Stop, pause, and set a clear intention of how you want your moment to go, how you want your day to go.  Get yourself a journal and write those intentions down.  There is a lot of power in writing.  Start small and start simple.