Jessica Zonneveld – Show Notes

Growth mindset – Carol S Dweck, coined the term growth mindset along with fixed mindset.  We have both of them.  We all have moments when we get stuck.  A growth mindset is a mindset aimed at growth – it is getting beyond the "I can't do this" "I'm not a math student".  We all have the ability to go beyond where we are now, we can all improve.  Our brain is like a muscle.

Adults often have beliefs that they haven't challenged themselves on and they don't know where they have come from. 

You can stretch yourself a little bit outside your comfort zone but don't go too far or else you won't be in the right place for learning.  Take small steps.  Build on the skills you already have and go from there. 

We are all born to be resilient.  Resilience is about bouncing back from life's challenges. 

Limiting beliefs can stop us from being resilient.

Jessica is drawn to work with children because children needs allies.  It takes a village to raise a child.  She wanted to help them learn but also with their confidence and personal growth.  In her own childhood she could have done with a coach herself.  She didn't have the most optimum conditions. 

Talked about the difference between psychology and life coaching.

How her teaching has helped her in her life coaching.  Understands developmental stages.  Also worked a lot with parents and can incorporate that into her coaching.

Talked about Third Culture Kids; children brought up in a country outside of their birth country or their culture.  They draw a lot from relationships rather than a particular place.

Discussed whether there is more anxiety amongst children now. 

How to raise children in a village.  When it is appropriate to help teach a child who is not your own.

Talk about how children are raised in Holland.  They are some of the happiest children in the world.  They have quite free-range lifestyles.  They are encouraged to have an opinion.  They know who they are. 

Personal tool – journaling.  Getting stuff out of your head.  Allows you to process things better. 

Bounce back principles – bad times don't last, things always get better, stay optimistic.  Everybody experiences sadness, hurt, failure and rejection sometimes, it is a normal part of life, try not to personalise it, accept the things you cannot change but work with the things that you can.