Bulldog Mindset with John Sonmez

John answers the question of how to get a girl to like you, and starts by dropping two ideas: that there is a tactic, and that the goal is one specific girl. He explains that chasing her approval shows up as neediness, using a job offer that keeps chasing you as the comparison. He says to build an abundance mindset instead. The real answer is becoming a man worth the women you want: finding a purpose, setting business, money, fitness, and mental goals, and improving social skills. He closes with a Dwayne Johnson quote about earning what you get.

This week, set one goal that has nothing to do with women, and take the first action today.

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John breaks modern dating into four groups: the top 10 percent of men, the bottom 90 percent, women under 28, and women 28 and older. He explains how social media and dating apps magnify choice, why many women chase the same few men, and why those men stay uncommitted. He says the one thing anyone can control is themselves, and he points the bottom 90 percent toward improving mindset, finances, fitness, and social skills, with finances first. He tells top 10 percent men to be selective about who they commit to.

This week, pick one area, money, fitness, or social skills, and take one concrete step on it instead of complaining about how dating works.

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John follows up on his incel video by reading a comment from a viewer who tried approaching women four months ago, got rejected, and cried on the walk home. John says he understands, because he was once there himself. He explains that three or eight approaches is a very small sample, that building the skill takes thousands, and that 30 approaches for one date is a realistic start. He compares it to door-to-door vacuum sales, and says the men you envy simply talk to far more women than you realize.

This week, ask a man who gets results how many women he talks to in a night. Then reset your own expectations.

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John interviews Todd V, a dating coach he trusts. Todd tells how he walked a mall for four hours without one approach, then got going with a friend pushing him, and how fear fades as you get used to it. They discuss the black pill belief that looks decide everything, and why believing change is impossible helps no one. Todd lays out a simple structure: open, set the premise, show you are selective, build a story, and close. They also cover poker lessons about judging decisions instead of results, and a few book picks.

This week, take Todd's advice and lower the bar: say hello to one new person, then ask for contact information if it goes well.

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John gives the third assignment in his eye contact series. If you did the first two, holding an intense, unsmiling stare and then adding a smirk, you now combine them to see if you can make a woman blush. He explains the reasons behind all three: building self-confidence, getting comfortable controlling frame with your eyes, and learning to be the one who stays comfortable when a moment feels uncomfortable. He says it is not a trick to win someone on the street, and he warns about trying it on men.

This week, practice the first two steps in public until holding eye contact feels normal. Notice who looks away first and how you feel staying steady.

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