Bump with Steph & Laura

Professor Leah Ruppanner is a Professor of Sociology at the University of Melbourne and author of the book ‘Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More’. You might recognise Leah’s name from when we had her on the podcast last year speaking about traditional gender roles and the manosphere (link below if you missed it!).

This week Leah is back to speak about the mental load. We all think we know what the mental load is but in this conversation, Leah describes to Laura the 8 different types of mental load that we could be carrying at any one time, as well as recognising where your mental load energy is being spent, and how to better distribute this energy.

If you’re currently drowning in the mental load, we hope this episode helps you.

WE MENTIONED

Find out more about Leah https://www.leahruppanner.com/ 

Lighten Lab is the website Leah mentioned https://www.lightenlab.com/

Read Leah’s book https://www.dymocks.com.au/drained-by-leah-ruppanner-9781761471957  

Listen to Leah’s podcast ‘Miss Perceived’ https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/missperceived/id1744434731 

Our first episode with Leah is called ‘Money, work & traditional gender roles - Am I Equal? a miniseries with Laura Henshaw’ and you can listen here https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/money-work-traditional-gender-roles-am-i-equal-a/id1457667995?i=1000712323533 

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We’re bringing you something a little different this week!! We’ve had a few messages from you guys asking us for the baby products we recommend buying and the ones that aren’t worth spending money on. So! We both wrote a list of our ‘must-buy’ items, our ‘nice to have but not essential’ items, and the items we never used. We also recommend which ones you should buy new vs the ones you could get second-hand.

WE MENTIONED

The episode where Steph talks about spying on the baby monitor is called ‘Spying over the home cameras & mice problems!’. You can listen here https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/spying-over-the-home-cameras-mice-problems/id1457667995?i=1000579353378 

PRODUCTS WE MENTIONED

These are the products that we specifically mentioned. For all other items - we don’t recommend a specific brand name

Monitor from Cubo https://au.getcubo.com/ 

Sleep slacks from ergoPouch https://www.ergopouch.com.au/ and Love To Dream https://lovetodream.com.au/ 

Steriliser from Tommee Tippee https://www.tommeetippee.com/en-au/shop/bottle-feeding/sterilising 

Room thermometer  https://www.tommeetippee.com/en-au/product/gro-egg2-ambient-room-thermometer 

SNOO https://www.happiestbaby.com.au/products/snoo-smart-bassinet 

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Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
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We’ve both been on holidays and now we’re back and ready to recap!! Steph shares about her family’s daytrip to Movie World, what she learned about baby seat laws in different states, and also opens up about some of the challenges she’s facing with emotional regulation.

Meanwhile, Laura & Dalton took 7-month-old Atlas all the way to Europe! She shares some of the things that helped make their first overseas holiday together a lot easier.

SPECIAL SHARES

• Steph: Normal lubricant https://itsnormal.com/products/water-based-lube-v2-normal  
• Laura: Matrescence by Lucy Jones https://www.penguin.com.au/books/matrescence-9781802061307  

WE MENTIONED

The Bugaboo travel pram https://www.bugaboo.com/au-en/prams/bugaboo-butterfly/ 

The travel cot https://thememo.com.au/products/journey-2-in-1-travel-cot-black 

Tommee Tippee bottles https://www.tommeetippee.com/en-au/collections/baby-bottles 

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

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KICPod @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
KIC @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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Mathew Carter hosts the podcast ‘The Secret Life of Dads’ alongside his co-host Lawrence. Earlier this year, they launched their event ‘Pints & Ponytails’ where they invite dads to pubs to learn how to style female hairstyles so they can do their daughters’ hair. 

Mathew is dad to five-year-old daughter Rae and he & his wife Chessie King is expecting their second bub. We’ve had Chessie on the podcast before and we were so excited to have Mathew on too!

In this episode, Steph chats with Mathew about his experience with postpartum depression after Rae was born, how he’s feeling mentally ahead of baby number two, going through IVF, and the feedback he’s getting from dads who attend their Pints & Ponytails events.

Trigger warning: we briefly touch on suicide in this episode. If that brings up anything for you, Lifeline is available 24 hours a day on 13 11 14.

FIND OUT MORE

Follow Mat @mathewlcarter

Listen to Mat’s podcast ‘The Secret Life of Dads’ https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-secret-life-of-dads-podcast/id1734215110 

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

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KICPOD @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
Kic @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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Alice Bleathman is a dietitian and creator based near Byron Bay. Alice gave birth to her bub Tide over a year ago - only a few weeks before Steph gave birth to Billie. 

Steph connected with Alice online over their shared struggles with sleep and we were so excited to have her in the studio <3 

In this episode, Steph sits down with Alice to speak about the things she has changed her mind about in parenting, including sleep training, and daycare, as well as the judgment she has copped online for doing these things.

FIND OUT MORE

Follow Alice @alicebleathman_

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

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Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
KIC @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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Hi!!! This week Laura shares how she went spending two nights away from Atlas for the first time, including an interstate breastfeeding debacle. 

Plus - a parental preference win for Steph & Josh, and a vent about fear-mongering content online. 

SPECIAL SHARE

Steph: The Somewhere Co Toy Story collection https://thesomewhereco.com/collections/toy-story 

Laura: Portable breast milk cooler bottle https://www.amazon.com.au/Portable-360%C2%B0Cooling-Technology-Capacity-Breastmilk/dp/B0FWK8VXZ5?th=1 

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

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KICPod @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
KIC @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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It’s our OB Dr Amanda Ward! Long time listeners will know that she was the Obstetrician for both Steph when she had Harvey & Billie, and Laura with Atlas.

We love Amanda and we know you guys love her too, so we asked you for your birth questions! 

What do I need to consider if I’m having a C-section? Why do so many OBs not support VBACs? How long do I need to wait between having C-sections? Is it possible to have vaginal birth after multiple endo surgeries? When you can’t have an epidural? And lots more! 

FIND OUT MORE

Find out more about Dr Amanda Ward https://www.dramandaward.com.au/

Follow Dr Amanda Ward @dramandajward

We mentioned our episode with Domenica. It’s called ‘Domenica Calarco’s pregnancy & birth story - KICBUMP’ and you can listen here https://pod.fo/e/3868c8 

Amanda is on KICPod tomorrow! You can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. 

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KICPOD @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
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This week Laura celebrates Atlas sleeping through the night for the first time and how she & Dalton did it, and Steph is struggling with her sleep.

Plus! The little white lies you tell your kids.

WE MENTIONED

This is the Catchy https://catchyandcrew.com.au/products/catchy-the-food-catcher-for-high-chairs? 

SPECIAL SHARE

Steph: Oi Frog https://www.dymocks.com.au/oi-frog-by-kes-gray-and-jim-field-9781444974300 

Laura: Twilight Red Light Beacon Light https://www.blockbluelight.com.au/products/twilight-red-light-beacon-light 

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

FOLLOW US & GET INVOLVED 

KICPod @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
KIC @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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Big week of updates this week, y’all! Steph is loving a new way of connecting with Billie and investigating some medical things with Harvey. Laura feels like a mixed berry smoothie and she’d love to be deconstructed, please. Plus - Laura & Dalton’s have some new calendar invites.

And! We open the mailbox and hear Angelica’s bub’s transition to the cot.

SPECIAL SHARES

Steph: this TikTok from Ethan Lapierre

 https://www.tiktok.com/@withethanlap/video/7626086697985445151 

Laura: Le Puree powders https://lepuree.com.au/products/first-bites-x-baby-s-first-allergens 

WE MENTIONED

We mentioned a couple of episodes we’ve done with Dr Kavita. Listen here…

Busting breastfeeding myths - KICBUMP with Dr Kavita https://pod.fo/e/38871b 

Is pumping for everyone? KICBUMP with Lactation Consultant Dr Kavita https://pod.fo/e/3868ca 

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

FOLLOW US & GET INVOLVED 

KICPod @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
KIC @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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Kris Byrnes became a step-parent when she was 24, before she’d had children of her own. Now Kris & her husband are raising 4 children together - two from her husband’s previous relationship and two of their own. 

Kris has taken everything she has learned from step-parents and now offers coaching to others who are navigating blended families. 

In all the years of making KICBump, we’ve never dedicated an episode to step-parents, so we were thrilled to cross paths with Kris! 

In this episode Steph sits down with Kris to learn more about her experience becoming a step-parent at 24, her & her husband’s decision to have children of their own, and the challenges that Kris encounters in her coaching work - including deciding whether or not step-parenting is for you, parental alienation, what step-parenting does to your romantic relationship, and more.

FIND OUT MORE

Work with Kris https://thestepparentcoach.com/ 

Follow Kris on Instagram @stepparentcoach

Listen to Kris’ podcast Step Parent Podcast

WANT MORE?

We would love to have Kris back for another episode!! If you have questions about step-parenting that you would like answered on the podcast, slide into our DMs @kicpod or email us at [email protected]

KICPod PODCAST

Looking for our other podcast? It’s called KICPod and you can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. We publish episodes there on Mondays & Wednesdays. 

FOLLOW US & GET INVOLVED 

KICPOD @kicpod on Instagram - DM us with questions or ideas! Not on Instagram? Email us at [email protected]
Steph Claire Smith @stephclairesmith on Instagram & @steph_claire_smith on TikTok
Laura Henshaw @laura.henshaw on Instagram & @laura.henshaw on Tiktok
Kic @kic on Instagram & @kic on TikTok and kicwellness.com or download the app from the App Store and Google Play Store

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