Welcome to Chapter Three!

In this episode of Burning Butterflies, hosts Amanda, Melissa, and Brandi delve into the tumultuous history of pastoral leadership at the Come As You Are Church. Founded by Tom in 1998, the church has seen a steady stream of pastors come and go, each chosen solely based on Tom's authority, with little formal training and no vetting process.

Join the ladies as they uncover the stories behind these ever-changing leaders, explore the impact of this instability on the congregation, and discuss the arrival of Pastor Young Gun in 2015, who brought a new dynamic to the church.

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Welcome to Chapter Three! 

"Ruins to Redemption" 

This chapter covers the years 2015-2016, which are some of the darkest times in the lives of Melissa, Amanda and Brandi. 

In this mini episode, the ladies wrap up some loose ends from Chapter 2 and give you a sneak peek into Chapter 3. 

In this final episode of Chapter 2, the ladies take a reflective journey through their experiences with Christmas Eve services at "Come As You Are."

Melissa shares the immense pressure she felt to constantly outdo herself, striving for perfection under Pastor Tom's watchful eye. Meanwhile, Brandi opens up about the challenges of making sure the children are seen but never heard in these "family" services. In a rare act of boundary setting, Amanda shares that she never attended a single Christmas Eve service—an action that shocks her friends and challenges the church community's norms.

Join Melissa, Amanda, and Brandi as they unpack the complexities of holiday traditions, faith, and expectations.

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Join Melissa, Amanda, and Brandi as they dive deep into the complexities of the 401 class at "Come As You Are." The fall campaign had everyone buzzing with anticipation, but what ensued was a tangled web of manipulation, misplaced priorities, and unexpected challenges.

Brandi opens up about her experience, recounting how she found herself in a group where camaraderie revolved more around drinking than delving into the course material. Meanwhile, Amanda shares her struggle with being pushed out of the group with her friends and being forced into taking on a group in her home. And Melissa's story takes a poignant turn as she describes her reluctant role in supporting Froggy, all while wearing a forced smile.

Join the trio as they unpack the intricacies of how churches use small groups and large church campaigns to breed control.

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In this gripping episode of Burning Butterflies, Melissa shares her story of domestic abuse, revealing the hidden layers of pain and manipulation she endured within her marriage.

But the story doesn't end there. Melissa shares how the toxic environment of "Come As You Are" exacerbated the abuse. Despite the signs of distress, she was convinced that God would perform a miracle, mending the fractures in her relationship.

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In this eye-opening episode, the ladies of the Burning Butterflies Podcast sit down to discuss the unique challenges faced by wives and mothers at "Come As You Are"

With an expectation for women to be stay at home mothers, many find themselves depressed and overwhelmed. The proposed solution? Mom's group. But what happens in an environment where friendships are forced, mental health is off-limits, and the only common thread is sharing birth stories?

Tune in as we explore the impact on relationships, the struggle for genuine connection, and the quest for real support in a setting where superficiality reigns. Don't miss this candid conversation!

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In this episode, the ladies sit down to discuss the aftermath of Agency D3 VBS and how Brandi was sucked in to "Come As You Are" so quickly. 

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Join Melissa, Amanda, and Brandi as they  revisit the chaos of their first VBS together, just 2 short weeks after Brandi first walked in the doors! In this episode, the ladies reminisce about the unforgettable experience with "Agency D3," the most engaging curriculum the church had ever used.

Despite the excitement, the event quickly spiraled into comedic disarray. From the pastor's grand illusions of saving the entire community, to the overwhelming unpreparedness for over 300 energetic kids, every mishap became a catalyst for uproarious chaos.

Get ready for a rollercoaster ride in this revealing episode about the VBS that became the stuff of legend at Come as You Are!

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Brandi shared the first half of her origin story with us last week and man alive! In this episode, Amanda sits down with Brandi to get the second half of her story. From moving to Oregon and starting a business, to nearly losing everything, to starting over in Colorado, to finally arriving at "Come As You Are." 

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The long awaited addition to the podcast - Brandi has entered the chat! With Melissa on vacation, Amanda sits down with Brandi as she shares her origin story. From being a private school kid in Orange County, to traveling with the grateful dead, to becoming a "trad wife" in a high control group, this first half of Brandi's origin story will leave you on the edge of your seat!

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