Do you ever put on a brave front while feeling stressed, wrecked, and broken inside? That was Dermot Whelan. On the surface, he was thriving — a TV show, a hit radio gig, and a rising stand-up career — but behind it all, he was anxious, exhausted, sleepless, and struggling with self-belief. Alcohol became his go-to coping tool until a panic attack and a drunken fall forced him to change. He had heard about meditation, decided to give it a shot, and has never looked back! In this episode, Dermot opens up about how anxiety shaped his early life, why performers chase the “flow state,” and how alcohol became an unhealthy comfort. With humour and practical wisdom, he shares how he rebuilt his nervous system, reconnected with his values, embraced silence, and started following his gut instinct toward change. If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or burned out, this conversation is packed with simple, grounded insights to manage stress, break unhelpful habits, make clearer decisions, and finally get unstuck.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Introductions

01:12 – Dermot’s lowest moment: the fall, concussion & the wake-up call

05:04 – Exhaustion, drinking culture & risky behaviour in Ireland
08:40 – Anxiety without awareness: recognising it only in hindsight

11:58 – Turning points, shame & the fear of being judged

15:46 – Alcohol programming, generational patterns & why we reach for numbing

19:33 – Addiction as a temporary solution: reframing judgment

23:27 – Finding space: noticing breath, gaps & the nervous system
26:55 – The recurring golf-ball dream & discovering “pockets of space”

30:42 – Performers, anxiety & chasing the flow state

34:14 – People-pleasing, responsibility & becoming the mood-setter

38:28 – Leaving Irish radio after 20 years: fear, risk & identity

42:15 – Catastrophic thinking: journaling the inner critic

45:58 – Recklessness, childhood patterns & family beliefs

49:21 – Life changes, side hustles & starting small

52:47 – The Indiana Jones moment: how to know when to jump

56:18 – Busy & wrecked: how busyness becomes avoidance

59:33 – The power of silence: why insights show up in the shower or car

1:03:09 – Values changing over time: realigning your inner compass

1:06:44 – Updating your “inner platoon”: communicating new values to yourself

1:10:12 – Inner peace, energy & recognising friction in your life

1:13:28 – Creating space to ask “What do I want now?”

1:16:22 – Final reflections & closing messages

Follow Dermot: Dermot Whelan is a broadcaster and meditation teacher who was, for more than two decades, co-host of Today FM’s breakfast show, Dermot & Dave. He retired from radio in 2023 to commit fully to his wellness brand, Mind Full, with its live shows, podcast and book of the same name.

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