But How Though? And other spiritual conundrums

Season Finale:

Portia felt like her life was pretty normal, until it took a sharp turn in a very difficult direction when she went to prison on a real estate charge. While there she felt, well, imprisoned. But not just physically. She knew there was a way to free herself, mentally and emotionally, but she didn't know how. One day a courageous soul in Portia's treatment program shared a shockingly honest moral inventory with the group and Portia knew it was her way out. Turns out owning your past is the key to unlocking your future, but it's way easier said than done.

Sometimes a door closes, like, right in our faces. Maybe it was a job, an audition, or some blessing we thought was totally happening, and didn't. Sometimes we feel like we got ripped off by that door closing, and it feels like a missed opportunity that SHOULD have been ours. That hurts. But Team Universe doesn't operate on missed opportunities. So how do we learn to shift our gaze from the closed door we wish would open back up, to the other doors in our path that are, in fact, opening?

A crisis of faith can feel super scary and disorienting. It can feel like you're unbecoming everything you thought you were. But then, what if that process is necessary to your faith becoming as grown-up and strong as it can be? By opening your mind to what answers your questions might bring, you can start with the basics in a whole new way.

In the final episode of our Modesty series we examine how modesty is an actual super-power. We can use it as a way to build self-love, trust, and confidence in our abilities to show up and give, no matter how anyone else views us or our gifts.

Welcome to our second of three modesty topics, modesty in speech. We'll examine how we use our speech, whether through stories, conversations, or specific word choice. The language we use has power to connect us or divide us, build us, or tear us down. Modesty in speech is a great tool to keep us connected and full of love.

Modesty: it's a pretty loaded topic. We're going to spend a couple episodes on it so we can really get into how its true power in dress, speech, and behavior. Widely misunderstood and often misused, modesty is a tool we have a tendency to underutilize. Once we understand what it isn't, we can finally take advantage of what it IS.

The word "repentance" can sometimes carry some complicated connotations. That word may make us feel grateful and relieved, maybe. But for some, even thinking of the word creates feelings of shame or defensiveness that make us want to turn away from, rather than to, Team Universe.

Jesus took the stigma out of "repentance" in one powerful analogy, though, and if we can learn to see it like the healing it is, repentance might be one of the most empowering tools we ever have the privilege of using.

We all experience friction in our relationships at home, at work, in our social circles. And SOMETIMES that friction shows up in patterns, returning over and over in similar ways. We find ourselves facing the same types of problems with different faces and different scenarios. We may not necessarily want to look too deeply at that, because in all those friction patterns, we're the constant in a sea of variables, so what would that mean about us?

It means we're part of the problem.

One of the biggest issues is the running narrative we're telling ourselves about the world and others in it. If we're playing out a storyline that isn't serving us, our deep-rooted-and-often-unhelpful beliefs about ourselves and others drive our emotions, thought-patterns, and behaviors in every single interaction.

This week's episode is an interview between Rachel and Dr. Alli Mangrum. Dr. Mangrum helps point out the unhelpful stories we sometimes tell ourselves, and gives us ideas and tools to better let go of them. Enjoy!

We've heard the stuff about forgiveness: Forgive and you'll be forgiven. Forgiveness is for the victim. Forgiveness is Divine. But, how do you let go of anger, resentment and pain, when you feel like those feelings are the only things tying you to justice? Trying to let go can feel like you're giving the person who harmed you a pass, as if you're saying it doesn't matter, and that's why you're letting go. The parable of the unforgiving debtor can shed some light on the process of forgiveness, and if we learn to see it as a process, instead of a prize or destination, maybe we can use it as the beautiful tool for the harmed and broken that it's meant to be.

Welcome to our Valentine's episode! Don't get too excited, this episode might feel UNCOMFY. Romantic love is not for the faint of heart. When you're talking about building a life together, we've got to understand each other--and ourselves-- DEEP to really make that work in a healthy way....which may come only after years of trying to make it work in unhealthy ways. Or maybe it's just me.