Last week I wrote about some of the best and worst things about being single. And you have to admit some of those things are pretty good. But still, sometimes you just get tired of being single.

On the whole, being single is not the worst thing in the world. If you’re doing it right, that is if you have your sex drive under control, have learned to be self-sufficient, have learned to be content, have enough quality people in your life to not be constantly lonely, and have learned to thrive as a single, it can be a great life.

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And right now, via our virtual connection enhanced by cutting edge technology co-developed by Microsoft, Google, and Facebook, I can actually hear some of you thinking, “yeah, I know, I know, but I’m tired of being single, I want to get married.”

I hear you. As my single years piled up, I felt the same way at times. My apartment and my bed felt empty. My sex drive was almost unbearable. And, I know some of you have been single longer than I was. There’s no denying it. As good as single life can be, it gets old sometimes.

Reality: You Are Single

But, right now, the reality is that you are single. And, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but unless you’re engaged right now, you probably will be single for quite a while longer.

The Good News

The good news is that you will be okay. Because you’re going to do singleness the right way, you will thrive. By that I mean you will stay pure, date wisely, become more and more physically and emotionally attractive, and grow as a person. And, you will not compromise your convictions, rush into a relationship, act desperate, or settle for someone who does not meet your well thought out criteria.

You, my friend, will be doing the things that help you move from single to married – not just sitting at home wishing you were married. Wishing you were married is about as helpful as wishing you had won the last Powerball lottery. The good news is that finding a good spouse is a lot easier than winning millions of dollars in the lottery.

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And, here is more good news. Statistics tell us that most people who want to get married or remarried do – eventually. Which brings us to the bad news …

The Bad News

The bad news is it may take longer than you hoped.

In addition to being the last one in my group of friends to marry, I also went through almost seven years of second singleness. And when I say that, I know some of you are thinking oh My God it’s been two years for me and I’m already sick of it. And, others of you are thinking, big deal I’ve been single twice that long. While other of you are thinking, well at least you were married, I’ve never been married.

In the end, I don’t know why I had to be single so long. And, I don’t know why you’ve been single so long or how long you will be single. I just know that whether it’s been two years, twenty years, or your life so far, to you it sometimes just feels like it has been way too long.

And, it’s okay to have those feelings. Every single person has them from time to time. Just don’t let those feelings drive you to do dumb things. Don’t jet those feelings push you into compromising your ...