A year ago, Tami Jorden hit record without knowing whether anyone would listen. Fifty five episodes and twenty three remarkable women later, she is not doing a highlight reel. She is handing you the map.

In this first anniversary solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami names the five lodestars from year one: the fixed points of light that showed up in her solos and in every guest conversation, over and over. Earned wisdom is currency, and you are the most equipped you have ever been. Memento mori clarifies purpose, because a finite window is exactly what makes this chapter matter. Amor fati upgrades your experience the moment you stop grieving the life you thought you would get. Contribution compounds, because what feels effortless to you is remarkable to somebody else. And kinship sustains, because you were never meant to do any of this alone.

Sister, if you have been waiting for permission to build something bold in your second half, this is it.

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Memento mori. Remember that you will one day die. It sounds grim until you have sat in the room where it actually happens, and then it turns into the clearest instruction anybody ever gave you.

In this one year anniversary mashup of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden pulls together what her favorite guests have taught her about living like the clock is real. Abbe Large explains the difference between a buffalo and a cow, and why it changes how you handle every hard conversation you have been avoiding. Aree Bly refuses to spend a single day feeling bad about being fifty three. Dr. Mary Alice Mina names the hamster wheel we run on when we are frightened of aging. Theo Boyd asks why we put a gag order on grief, and what stories people will tell when you are gone. Lindsey Goldstein says keep your eye on the prize. Christine Despres reminds us we can impact this life no matter the cards we're dealt. Erin Trier sagely observes the value of slowing down & focusing on what matters most. Anissa Hudak was frank to say we don't have to live just stay stuck, we've still years to rise! And Margaret Pasquesi, who brings live harp to the bedside of the dying, says the line Tami calls the spine of this entire show: our power is in our presence, not our productivity.

Sister, if you have been postponing the conversation, the apology, the trip, or the truth, this is the episode Tami says she would keep if she could keep only one.

🦋 Connect with Abbe Large: Lenox Advisors & LinkedIn

🦋 Connect with Aree Bly: Website, Book: The Sustainable Brain & LinkedIn

🦋 Connect with Lindsey Goldstein: Website, Book: Gap Year, Substack, Instagram & Threads

🦋 Connect with Erin Trier: Website, Empowered in Health Podcast, Instagram & LinkedIn

🦋 Connect with Dr. Mary Alice Mina: Website, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn & The Skin Real App

🦋 Connect with Margaret Pasquesi: Website, LinkedIn, Facebook & Music-Thanatology Association International

🦋 Connect with Theo Boyd: Website, Book: My Grief Is Not Like Yours, Book: Hope All the Way, Podcast, Instagram & Facebook

🦋 Connect with Christine Despres: Website, Brain Health Quiz & Instagram

🦋 Connect with Anissa Hudak: Speaking, Phoenix Women Healing, LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram & Facebook

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Aging parents. Adult children who still need you. And you somewhere in the middle, holding all of it together. If that is your life right now, you already know that nobody handed you a manual.

This is part of the one year anniversary of Butterfly Days, and it is the most practical hour this show has produced. Nicole J. Smith describes becoming a caregiver as learning four new languages at once, under duress, with life and death consequences. Kirsten Mau gives you the sentence that actually gets a parent to accept help. Abbe Large has a golden idea for how to think about dealing with parental finances & arrangements. Anna Giannone names what our children really need from us. And you will learn exactly what to say to a friend who is drowning in it, instead of the useless let me know if you need anything. And Lauren Bayne reminds us the power of honoring your parents.

Tami Jorden is a certified death doula, and she will tell you plainly what she sees at the end: the families who talk early are not spared the grief. They are spared the regret. Those are two different things, and only one of them is optional. Sister, if you are living the sandwich years right now, or you are about to be, this one is for you.

🦋 Connect with Nicole J. Smith: Website, Book, LinkedIn, Instagram & Daughterhood 🦋

🦋 Connect with Kirsten Mau: Website, Substack, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone: Website, Books, Instagram, LinkedIn & YouTube 🦋

🦋 Connect with Lauren Bayne: Website, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋 🦋 Connect with Abbe Large: Lenox Advisors, Linked In

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You can't make new old friends. Tami Jorden says it as a warning, not a poem, because the friendships that will carry you through your seventies and beyond are being built or neglected right now. And most of us are far too busy to notice.

In this one year anniversary episode of Butterfly Days, Tami brings back the guests who taught her the most about finding your people. Florence Ann Romano, author of Build Your Village, hands you the six villagers every woman needs and shows you how to recast a friendship instead of ending it. Theo Boyd introduces her fairy blonde mothers, the women who appeared when her whole world came apart. And Anna Giannone shows what it looks like to build a family on purpose, including her husband's ex-wife.

Loneliness is not a soft subject. For women who tend to outlive our partners, this is infrastructure. Sister, if your circle has gotten quiet and you have no idea where to start, this is the encouragement you need.

🦋 Connect with Florence Ann Romano: Website, Book, Instagram, Facebook & TikTok 🦋

🦋 Connect with Theo Boyd: Website, Book: My Grief Is Not Like Yours, Book: Hope All the Way, Podcast, Speaking, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok & Threads 🦋

🦋 Connect with Alison Nazarowski: Website, LinkedIn & Food for Thought 🦋

🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone: Website, Books, Instagram, LinkedIn & YouTube 🦋

🦋 Connect with Lauren Bayne: Website, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Lindsey Goldstein: Website, Book, Substack, Instagram & Threads 🦋

🦋 Connect with Lisa Copeland: Website, Free Guide: 35 First Date Questions, Book, YouTube, Facebook, Pinterest, LinkedIn & Instagram 🦋

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A financial coach. A somatic healer. A therapist. A co-parenting expert. A dating coach. And a woman who teaches boundaries for a living. Different fields, different decades, same wound.

In this one year anniversary episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden pulls together the moments from a full year of conversations where guest after guest said a version of the same thing: nobody taught me I was allowed to matter. She revisits where the doormat ended up, the gremlin voice that thinks it is protecting you, the rule book you never agreed to, and the gut check question to ask before you walk away from a one-sided relationship.

This episode is about worth, and the boundaries that come from finally having some. Sister, if you have spent your whole life coming last on your own list, this one is for you.

🦋 Connect with Simone Knego: Website, Book, Podcast, Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Shawna Marie Bryant: Website, Book, Podcast, Instagram & LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Johanna Danaher: Website & LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman: Website, Books, Instagram, Facebook & YouTube 🦋

🦋 Connect with Carla Calderas: Website, Book, Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Florence Ann Romano: Website, Book, Instagram, Facebook & TikTok 🦋

🦋 Connect with Anna Giannone: Website, Books, Instagram, LinkedIn & YouTube 🦋

🦋 Connect with Anissa Hudak: Speaking, Phoenix Women Healing, LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram, Threads, Facebook & X 🦋

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Ever catch your reflection and think you are the faded version of the girl you used to be? Copy of a copy of a copy, each one a little fainter than the last. That ache is real, and almost nobody says it out loud.

In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden takes apart the lie hiding inside it. Every version of you, the girl, the young woman figuring it out, the one who built the career and the family, the one who crashed and had to rise from the ashes, was a brand new original. A first edition, every single time. And there are versions of you still coming. Tami talks about the knapsack you have been packing your whole life, why the gifts that come easiest are the ones you have written off as nothing, and how knowing your time is finite is exactly what lets you build the next version on purpose instead of on autopilot.

She tells the story of Ganna Walska, who chased a singing career that never played to her strengths, then bought a piece of California land at 54 and spent the next 43 years building one of the most extraordinary gardens in the world. And she tells the story of a friend, a retired accountant, who became a court appointed advocate (CASA) for a boy in foster care and changed the trajectory of his whole life. Sister, if you have been calling your best gift nothing, this is the episode that asks you to look again.

🦋 Mentioned in this episode:

🦋 Ganna Walska Lotusland, Montecito, California: https://www.lotusland.org/

🦋 CASA, Court Appointed Special Advocates: https://nationalcasagal.org/

🦋 The Richmeister, Rob Schneider's Saturday Night Live copy room sketch, 1991

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What happens after the part of your life you planned for is over? What comes next? Are we just done? For a year now, Tami Jorden has been asking women a version of that same question. Not one of them said we're over.

This is the one year anniversary of Butterfly Days, and it is a mashup of the wisest things this show has learned. You will hear Simone Knego on the tiny word women use to shrink themselves. Aree Bly on why walking away from something you spent 25 years building is not the same as losing it. Alison Nazarowski, who left a judge's bench in her 40s because she could not survive another decade of it. And Dr. Julie Merriman, who calls her burnout scorched earth and then tells you what grows there.

None of them found a shortcut. Every one of them went through something. And not one of them calls her choice brave. Alison says it never felt courageous at all, it just felt like survival. Sister, if you are standing at the end of the life you planned for and quietly wondering whether there is anything on the other side, this one is your answer.

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🦋 Connect with Aree Bly on LinkedIn 🦋

🦋 Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman at juliemerrimanphd.com 🦋

🦋 Connect with Alison Nazarowski [LINK TBD] 🦋

🦋Connect with Ashley Rogers

🦋Connect with Lindsey Goldstein

🦋Connect with Christine Depres

🦋Connect with Anissa Hudak

🦋Connect with Theo Boyd

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You know the conversation. The one about your parents' money, their care, what happens when they can no longer manage on their own. You have started it in your head a hundred times and never once out loud.

In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Abbe F. Large, CLU, CLTC, Abbe has spent nearly thirty years helping families protect what matters. Then her own father was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer, and she stopped being the expert and became the daughter.

What she found on the other side of that is the reason this episode exists. Abbe makes the case for being a buffalo instead of a cow, explains why getting your affairs in order is an act of love and not a morbid chore, shows you how to open the money conversation with a parent without triggering their fear of losing independence, and walks through what to watch for as scammers get better at targeting our folks. Sister, if you are squeezed between aging parents and your own future and it all feels like too much, start here.

🦋 Connect with Abbe F. Large at Lenox Advisors and on LinkedIn

Important Disclosure: The information discussed in this podcast is provided for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be construed as investment, tax, legal, accounting, or insurance advice, nor as a recommendation to purchase or sell any financial product, security, or service. Any opinions expressed are those of the speaker as of the date of recording and are subject to change without notice.

Abbe F. Large is a registered representative of and offers securities and investment advisory services through MML Investors Services, LLC. Member SIPC. 90 Park Ave, 18th Floor, New York, NY 10016, 212.536.8700.

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You cannot eliminate difficulty. You can only try to navigate it well. And in midlife the hard seasons get specific: the house went quiet, a parent is slipping, your body has started renegotiating the terms, and you have begun burying people you love.

In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden refuses to tiptoe around any of it. She names what makes a hard season dangerous rather than simply sad, which is that it lies to you about the future and flattens the road ahead until it looks gray and endless. Then she makes the case for hope as medicine, not the cheaply gilded Hallmark version, but the kind that names the night first and still keeps a candle lit beside the grief.

She hands you three tools you can use this week: gather your sources of strength on purpose before the storm arrives, keep two rooms inside you so grief gets a real room, and practice amor fati, the holy shift from "why me" to "this is my life, and what does loving it wholly ask of me?" Sister, if the losses have piled up and the future looks flat, this episode is for you.

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Somewhere along the way, the part of you that used to make things went quiet. Most of us assume that is just what aging looks like. Ashley Rogers thought so too, until she was 75. In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Ashley Rogers, a writer, award-winning documentary filmmaker, former network television producer, and real estate entrepreneur based in Cuenca, Ecuador.

Ashley went looking for answers to life's biggest questions and found her creative spark instead. What came of it is Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot, a book of 64 questions about purpose, forgiveness, loneliness, grief, and why one sock always vanishes in the wash. She wrote it, illustrated it, self-published it, and built the website, calling herself a technical dummy the whole time.

Ashley and Tami talk about what creativity looks like when it comes back after decades of being quiet, why so many women are sitting out this shift and what it is costing them, what AI gets right about grief and what it will never touch, and where the real dangers actually live. Sister, if something in you has gone quiet, this one is for you.

🦋 Connect with Ashley Rogers at soulstar.press and find Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot on Amazon.

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