In this episode, I share what changed after I finally bought my one-way ticket to Sardinia.

On the surface, it was just a plane ticket.

But underneath, it felt like a decision to stop negotiating with my dreams.

Since making that choice, so many things have become clearer. The person I want to help. The work I want to build. The offers I'm creating. The way I show up online. Even my faith has deepened.

I also reflect on something I've learned the hard way: waiting doesn't build confidence.

Action does.

Looking back, I realize these past few months weren't about waiting to feel ready. They were about teaching my nervous system that it's safe to move, to trust myself, and to choose the life I actually want.

This one is about commitment, self-trust, and the surprising clarity that comes when you finally stop leaving the door open to a life you no longer want.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #10

For a long time, I treated joy like a reward.

Something that would come after I worked hard enough, achieved enough, or reached the next milestone.

Lately, I'm learning something completely different.

Joy isn't the destination.

It's the direction.

In this episode, I reflect on what it means to use joy as a boundary instead of fear, pressure, or obligation.

Because if I only do things to get joy someday, there's no guarantee I'll actually feel it when I arrive.

But if I choose to do things with joy, then regardless of the outcome, I've already won.

This one is about trusting what feels alive, releasing control over the result, and remembering that the way we build our lives matters just as much as what we build.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #9

For a long time, I believed that everything I shared needed to be useful.

A lesson.

A takeaway.

A transformation.

Something people could immediately apply to their lives.

I realize now that this wasn't just showing up in my content.

It was showing up in my friendships, relationships, work, and pretty much every area of my life.

Somewhere along the way, I started believing that my value was tied to how helpful I could be.

If I had the answer, I was valuable.

If I could help, guide, fix, or transform something, I mattered.

In this episode, I reflect on the three phases of my content journey since January 2026 and how they've helped me see this pattern more clearly.

From focusing on lessons and takeaways, to searching for structure and transformation, to where I am today:

Sharing what feels true.

Not because it's guaranteed to change someone's life.

Not because it contains the perfect lesson.

But because it's honest.

And maybe that's enough.

This one is about self-expression, usefulness, validation, and learning that sometimes the value isn't in changing someone's life.

Sometimes the value is simply telling the truth.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 - Lesson #8

For most of my life, I only showed myself when I felt strong.

When I had something to prove.

When I had results.

When I had answers.

When I could show the polished version.

And when I didn't?

I disappeared.

In this episode, I reflect on what it means to let the messy middle be seen.

Not because it's strategic.

Not because it's inspiring.

But because it's true.

Over the past few months, sharing my journey publicly has helped me realize something I had never really done before:

I've started witnessing myself.

Not through other people's approval.

Not through achievement.

Not through performance.

But through my own eyes.

And honestly, that's been both beautiful and disorienting.

Because for years I adapted myself to the world around me.

Now I'm learning something different.

To see myself first.

To stay with myself first.

To accept the version of me that exists today, not just the version that's fully healed, fully confident, or fully figured out.

This one is about visibility, self-witnessing, and learning that being a work in progress doesn't make you less worthy of being seen.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #7

For most of my life, I interpreted silence as rejection.

If someone didn't call, text, respond, initiate, or seem interested, I assumed it meant something about me.

That I wasn't enough.

That I wasn't interesting enough.

That I hadn't done enough.

In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from and how it shaped the way I showed up in my relationships.

For years, I felt responsible for keeping connections alive. I was the initiator, the fixer, the one making sure the relationship kept moving.

But lately, I'm learning something different.

Sometimes silence is information.

It tells you where people are.

It tells you what they value.

It tells you what capacity they have.

And sometimes silence is protection.

Not every closed door is a punishment.

Not every absence is rejection.

Not every silence is about you.

This one is about relationships, trust, boundaries, and learning to let people reveal themselves without rushing in to fill the gap.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #6

For most of my life, I interpreted silence as rejection.

If someone didn't call, text, respond, initiate, or seem interested, I assumed it meant something about me.

That I wasn't enough.

That I wasn't interesting enough.

That I hadn't done enough.

In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from and how it shaped the way I showed up in my relationships.

For years, I felt responsible for keeping connections alive. I was the initiator, the fixer, the one making sure the relationship kept moving.

But lately, I'm learning something different.

Sometimes silence is information.

It tells you where people are.

It tells you what they value.

It tells you what capacity they have.

And sometimes silence is protection.

Not every closed door is a punishment.

Not every absence is rejection.

Not every silence is about you.

This one is about relationships, trust, boundaries, and learning to let people reveal themselves without rushing in to fill the gap.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #5

For a long time, feeling cringe was a sign that I should stop.

Stop posting.

Stop sharing.

Stop showing up.

Stop being seen.

But lately, I'm learning that cringe is often just the feeling of doing something before it feels natural.

In this episode, I reflect on my journey with social media, visibility, and learning in public.

Because the truth is, most things feel awkward before they feel embodied.

Most things feel uncomfortable before they feel natural.

And if we disappear every time we feel cringe, we never give ourselves the chance to grow into the person we're becoming.

This one is about staying visible, staying curious, and realizing that cringe is often just the sound of practice.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #4

For most of my life, I believed pressure was a good thing.

Pressure made me work harder.

Pressure made me achieve.

Pressure made me productive.

And to be fair, it worked.

It helped me build businesses, create projects, push through challenges, and accomplish things I’m proud of.

But it also came with a cost.

Stress.

Exhaustion.

Performance.

Constantly feeling like I had something to prove.

In this episode, I reflect on where that pressure came from, how it shaped my life, and why I'm consciously choosing a different way forward.

A way built on safety, honesty, and trust instead of urgency and pressure.

Because lately, I'm realizing something:

When I feel safe, I tell the truth.

When I feel safe, I listen to myself.

When I feel safe, I build things that actually feel like mine.

This one is about letting go of the belief that pressure is the only path to success, and learning to create a life that doesn't require me to sacrifice myself to build it.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #3

For most of my life, I assumed that if I was good at something, I should keep doing it.

It sounds logical.

But lately, I'm learning that competence and alignment are not the same thing.

In this episode, I reflect on the Playground experiment and the decision to cancel it, even after people had signed up.

From the outside, it looked like it was working.

Inside, my body was telling a different story.

Stress.

Anxiety.

Sleepless nights.

A constant feeling of pushing instead of creating.

The more I listened, the more I realized that I wasn't excited. I was operating from familiarity. From an old version of myself. From patterns that had worked before.

This one is about learning the difference between fear and misalignment, between capability and desire, and giving yourself permission to walk away from something you're good at if it no longer feels true.

Because sometimes the bravest thing isn't continuing.

It's choosing something different.

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #2

For a long time, I believed that being loved meant being needed.

If I could help, fix, support, carry, solve, advise, or be useful somehow, then I felt valuable. Then I felt chosen.

But lately, I've been realizing that this way of loving came with a cost: overextending myself, overgiving, and making my worth dependent on what I could provide.

In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from, how it has shaped my friendships and relationships, and what I'm slowly learning instead.

I also share a conversation I had with my mom that reminded me that sometimes the most valuable thing we can offer isn't advice or solutions.

Sometimes it's simply our presence.

This one is about love, usefulness, listening, and learning that you don't have to earn your place in people's lives.