Caitlin's Couch

“When you can say “no” to sex, it makes it a lot easier to say “yes” to it.”

On this episode of Caitlin's Couch, we are exploring the effects of stress in your relationship and how it can kill your lady boner. This stress can come from any outside source, or it can originate inside your relationship. This stress may come in the form of not getting your needs met, continuing to having sex with your partner even though you have no desire to or not feeling comfortable saying “no” in your relationship and have your partner respect that.

“All of these forms of stress are going to impact your desire for sex. There is nothing wrong with you! You are NOT supposed to walk around with a burning flame of desire, always ready to go.”

In this episode you will hear about

How your desire may be buried beneath a blanket of stress

A relationship is a system. If one section is off, you may need to shift parts of your relationship in order to re-align it

How to tell if you hold all or most of the emotional labor in your relationship and how to relinquish that control

In a long-term relationship, you are having sex for different reasons and your “automatic-desire” isn’t felt as frequently. You may need to practice “responsive-desire”

Ways to feel better in your relationship and more interested in your partner 

How to talk to your partner in a different light in order and share from a place of feeling

Juicy Quotes from this Episode

“Everything is co-created, nothing is one person’s fault”

“When we become more aware, that gives us the opportunity to make choices.” 

“If you don’t give your partner a chance to change, they won’t”

“You have much more power that you probably realize”

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#BlackLivesMatter. There is no room for racism and discrimination in this world. In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, I am modeling techniques on how to defuse an interaction with a loved one, when they are being less than desirable and saying hurtful and discriminating things, without escalating the situation. 

Listen as Caitlin and Calvin move through a difficult conversation, in which Calvin is acting like a racist. Pay attention to the way Caitlin engages with Calvin. Please note: Calvin Tesler is ACTING as a racist in this enactment, and in no way endorses ANY of the racist views in the show. The enactment is meant to give people more language and tools to navigate conversations with their loved ones in a more useful way. 

Listen to the review of the intentional tools used throughout the conversation, and start practicing having these conversations on your own!

I am an ally.

I am not black but I see you.

I am not black but I hear you.

I am not black but I stand with you. ✊🏼

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Episode Highlights: 

“We are in a racist society so I think it’s important to focus on those people who are struggling the most right now.”

“We all don't even know how racist we are. Some of it’s so ingrained that we don't even realize how racist we are.”

“It sounds like you care more about property than people..”

“I hear you and I feel hurt by you.”

“We’re all humans and we’re all in this and we have a responsibility to care about other people.”

“We have to keep on speaking and we can’t ‘agree to disagree’ because I can’t agree on that.”

" I can't sit here and say its okay to think what you think and it's okay to disagree because what you think is not okay."

In this episode you will learn:

How to have conversations with loved ones who aren't acknowledging their racist views, without ending up in damaging, explosive arguments that don't go anywhere.

How important it is to have these conversations; be uncomfortable; stop betraying ourselves and our fellow humans with our silence.

How to have hard conversations about racism while staying grounded, breathing deeply, staying connected to your body and going slowly.

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Welcome to the premiere episode of Caitlin's Couch!

This podcast is the sex-positive and pleasure-focused sex ed you never got but definitely needed.

It’s a space to shed shame and heal old wounds so you can step into your power and create the relationship of your dreams. 

In my upcoming episodes, we’ll be exploring…

• Why stress is killing your ladyboner
• How to ditch the defensiveness and stop avoiding hard conversations with your partner
• Why everything is foreplay
• How to stop criticizing your way to disconnection in your relationships
• The sexy secrets of a sex therapist
• Stopping the stories that aren’t serving you
• Choosing pleasuring your body over punishing it

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If you’re loving the podcast, please leave us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too.

And don’t forget to show your vag some love this week!

Welcome to Caitlin’s Couch!

I’m Caitlin Cantor, Licensed Therapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Relationship Expert, and Author of the Modern Sex blog for Psychology Today. 

As your sexpert and guide, I’m here to transform your sexual and relational world from “meh” to magical. 💫

Think…

Better communication

Deeper connection

More trust

And feeling more sexually empowered than you ever thought was possible!

Follow along on Instagram @caitlinscouch and join my Facebook community.

If you’re loving the podcast, please leave us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too.

And don’t forget to show your clitoris some love this week!