Carla and Sherry start the show revealing they both have the same love language, words of affirmation. They then take a Love Fix question on what to do if you are rolling into “cuffing” season alone, and then welcome Dr. Diane Poole Heller to the show. Diane is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and expert in the field of attachment theory and trauma resolution. She talks with Sherry and Carla about what attachment style we are born with and how trauma can affect it, along with some hope for people looking to heal their attachment wounds. They discuss how to set healthy boundaries while still being available to love, some red flags to look for in dating or relationships, and how the different attachment styles need to feel stable and secure. 

 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

 

• What is your love language? For both Sherry and Carla, it’s words of affirmation. 
• Love Fix Question of the Day - I’ve dated all summer long and still have no one! What should I do? 
• What is cuffing season? 
• Dr. Diane’s signature series called DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repatterning experience) helps facilitate more fulfilling adult relationships.
• Diane describes the different attachment styles and how they show up in our adult relationship patterns. 
• If someone has insecure or avoidant attachment, can they be healed? 
• What should you know if you are dating a different attachment style than yourself? 
• Check out Diane’s Free Attachment Quiz, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence. 
• How can trauma impact our secure attachment?
• What does ambivalent attachment style look like and how can a partner help when they shut down or become emotionally exhausted? 
• What are the ways to move through secure attachment and self regulate on your own if you aren’t in a relationship? 
• Avoidants want connection like everyone else, but it’s buried within neglect. 
• What can we do to cement our attachment bonds? 

 

Tweetables:

• “We need to learn to support each other in our insecure attachment. As we do, it keeps moving us to trusting the relationship back to secure attachment.” - Diane 
• “It’s very important to resonate on each other’s level and talk in each other’s language.” - Sherry 
• “Stay open for caring behaviors where they happen, no matter where they come from.” - Diane 
• “We always attract what we know.” - Sherry
• “If you want to cement your relationship, just be a regulating force in your partner's life.” - Diane 

 

Connect with Us!

 

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

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• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

 

 

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

 

Find Out More: 

 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

 

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

 

Dr. Diane Poole Heller  

Website | Books | Facebook | Columbine: Surviving the Trauma 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.