In this weeks episode Sarah writes, 

I love my husband, but we were having some problems and we were unfaithful to each other.  Can trust be rebuilt? If so, how?

Thank you Sarah, 

I know betrayal is one of the worst feelings. Trust is a very fragile thing, it’s easy to break, easy to lose and one of the hardest things to get back. 

But I want you to know there is hope, if you are both willing to make the effort and spend the time to do the work.  

Make a Commitment for a Fresh Start, and Mean It. 

If the two of you are willing to forgive and start fresh.  But be willing to give each other space to work through whatever reasons or justifications you both used to be unfaithful.  

I suggest finding a clergy or counselor to help you work through your own issues, first. 

Set Realistic Expectations 

When we love each other we don't want to fail the people closest to us.  That's why it's important to get your house in order, to ensure you are clear and realistic about the expectations of your spouse and  the future of your relationship.

Be Honest about Your Needs and Expectations

Trust can be rebuilt when you each are honest about what you need and expect from each other in order to regain trust. You will also have to work out the specifics of how you will hold each other accountable, when your relationship experiences challenges.

Most importantly, be clear about how you want to spend time rebuilding your relationship.  Both of you will need to make it a priority that is non negotiable. If you can do this, and let go of past hurts, you will be able to rebuild trust.  

Realize Rebuilding Trust Takes Time

Don't rush each other, be patient and kind to each other and it will transform your relationship.

Stay consistent with your efforts to reconnect and follow through with promises and commitments made. 

Be sure to sign up for the Adore More Waitlist and learn more about the 12 Most Important Forms of Intimacy.  Because, the stronger your intimacy and connection, your relationship will be able to weather the difficulties of life. 

I am also going to include a link to the How to Figure Out What You Want Guide, that will hopefully help each of you gain clarity into what you are really wanting and needing from this relationship. 

Additional Resources 

How to Figure Out What You Want Guide

Join the Adore More Challenge Waitlist and receive the free PDF Guide, The 12 Most Important Forms of Intimacy and Connection.