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You’ve tried mindfulness. You’ve tried pleasant distractions. But now it’s 3 am, and you feel like you’re crawling out of your skin.
Get out of bed.
This might feel counterintuitive. Isn’t the goal to stay in bed and rest?
Yes—and no.
If your bed starts to feel like a torture chamber, then staying in it just reinforces the fear and frustration that fuels insomnia.
Let’s talk about what to do when it’s time to step away.
Why Leave the Bed?Changing your physical environment can interrupt the fight-or-flight cycle.
Your brain gets fresh input: “Oh, we’re not trapped. We can move.”
This act alone can help reduce hyperarousal and make the night feel less claustrophobic.
Leaving bed isn’t a failure. It’s a reset.
What to Do After You Get UpYour goal is not to exhaust yourself into sleep.
It’s simply to soothe your nervous system and return to bed when your body’s truly ready.
Try:
When you feel sleepy—eyes drooping, head nodding—head back to bed.
Still awake later? You can get up again. You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re not trying to earn sleep. You’re learning to live through the night without spiraling.
5 Support HabitsWhatever you try—mindfulness, distraction, or getting up—these refinements make a big difference:
✅ Don’t watch the clock. Time-checking = tension. Set your alarm and ignore the rest.
✅ Drop expectations. Your night might surprise you. Let go of “I need X hours.”
✅ Welcome discomfort. It’s hard to be awake at night. That’s okay. It’s not a crisis.
✅ Conserve your energy. Less emotional struggle = more resilience tomorrow.
✅ Accept weird symptoms. Racing heart? Twitching? These are anxiety, not danger.
This process takes time.
There are ups and downs. But every night you stop fighting and start softening, you’re reconditioning your brain.
Peace first. Sleep second.
You’re doing the work—and it’s working, even if you don’t see it yet.
To peaceful sleep,
Ivo at End Insomnia
Why should you listen to me?
I recovered from insomnia after 5 brutal years of suffering. I also wrote a book about it. I've now coached many on how to end their insomnia for good in 8 weeks.
You’ve tried mindfulness. You’ve tried pleasant distractions. But now it’s 3 am, and you feel like you’re crawling out of your skin.
Get out of bed.
This might feel counterintuitive. Isn’t the goal to stay in bed and rest?
Yes—and no.
If your bed starts to feel like a torture chamber, then staying in it just reinforces the fear and frustration that fuels insomnia.
Let’s talk about what to do when it’s time to step away.
Why Leave the Bed?Changing your physical environment can interrupt the fight-or-flight cycle.
Your brain gets fresh input: “Oh, we’re not trapped. We can move.”
This act alone can help reduce hyperarousal and make the night feel less claustrophobic.
Leaving bed isn’t a failure. It’s a reset.
What to Do After You Get UpYour goal is not to exhaust yourself into sleep.
It’s simply to soothe your nervous system and return to bed when your body’s truly ready.
Try:
When you feel sleepy—eyes drooping, head nodding—head back to bed.
Still awake later? You can get up again. You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re not trying to earn sleep. You’re learning to live through the night without spiraling.
5 Support HabitsWhatever you try—mindfulness, distraction, or getting up—these refinements make a big difference:
✅ Don’t watch the clock. Time-checking = tension. Set your alarm and ignore the rest.
✅ Drop expectations. Your night might surprise you. Let go of “I need X hours.”
✅ Welcome discomfort. It’s hard to be awake at night. That’s okay. It’s not a crisis.
✅ Conserve your energy. Less emotional struggle = more resilience tomorrow.
✅ Accept weird symptoms. Racing heart? Twitching? These are anxiety, not danger.
This process takes time.
There are ups and downs. But every night you stop fighting and start softening, you’re reconditioning your brain.
Peace first. Sleep second.
You’re doing the work—and it’s working, even if you don’t see it yet.
To peaceful sleep,
Ivo at End Insomnia
Why should you listen to me?
I recovered from insomnia after 5 brutal years of suffering. I also wrote a book about it. I've now coached many on how to end their insomnia for good in 8 weeks.