We revisit Michelle’s Mirage III flight at seven that kicked off her dream ignition. Those colouring-in prizes turned into flights on Caribou, Chinook and Hercules.

Guy explains his late-bloom path to the Olympics and how the right environment changes your pace.

We compare goals and routines and why systems keep you happier than future targets.

We also break down true confidence versus contextual confidence and how to build the one that holds anywhere.

Recorded in Bali with cicadas, geckos, dogs and white-water rafters in the background.

One bite at a time is how you finish the big stuff. We talk easy vs easier, modern stress, and how Michelle actually got Lady MacGyver written without losing the plot.

What you’ll hear

• Why “hard” slows you down. “Easy vs easier” gets you moving.
• Modern stress vs ancestral stress. Why your brain keeps pinging you at 9 pm.
• The book process: talk it out, transcribe, tighten, ship.
• Editing lessons from recording the audiobook.
• “Hurry up and wait.” Prep well, then let the process work.
• Reset Retreat in Bali. True confidence and anti-fragile thinking.

Takeaways

• Stop calling it hard. Call it easy to start. Make it easier to continue.
• Break big into small. Visible steps beat vague goals.
• Close open loops fast. Your stress is emotional, not a lion in the bushes.
• Record yourself telling the story. Transcribe. Edit for accuracy and tone.
• Do your bit, then be patient. Pressure without panic.
• Build contextual confidence (skills) and true confidence (self trust).

Try this today

• Write the outcome you want. List 5 tiny actions. Do the first one now.
• Two-minute rule. Start, then decide if you keep going.
• Close one nagging task. Email sent. Bill paid. Call booked.

Book news

• Lady MacGyver is on shelves, e-book, and audiobook (Yes, Michelle sings. Briefly.)

Mentioned

• Reset Retreat (we're not sure of the name yet) in Ubud, Bali: confidence, anti-fragility, real tools for modern stress.

Connect

• Get Lady MacGyver.
• Join the (Reset) Retreat list - send us an email if you'd like to know more
• Follow Captain and the Clown for new episodes.

Ever found yourself stuck chasing perfection and getting nowhere? You're not alone! In this candid and humorous episode, we open up about our own struggles with perfectionism, and how it nearly stopped this episode from happening!

We explore:

• Why perfectionism holds us back and how to spot the signs.
• Practical tips to break the perfection cycle: embracing 'good enough' and failing forward fast.
• Real-life examples from juggling mishaps in the circus to aviation analogies about landing planes (hint: it's okay if it's not perfect, as long as it's safe!).
• Personal stories: Michelle’s exciting news about her upcoming book launch, and Guy’s reflections on overcoming decades of perfection-driven procrastination.

Finally ditch the fear of judgment that's stopping your progress. Because let's face it, perfect is overrated!

Key takeaways:

• Aim for progress, not perfection.
• Break big goals into manageable steps.
• Remember, every attempt teaches valuable lessons—even if it's not perfect.

Listen in and discover how embracing imperfection might just be your greatest superpower.

Join Captain Michelle Huntington and Guy 'The Clown' Newman as they dive into the mind-blowing world of gut health and mental wellbeing.

After discovering "The Psychobiotic Revolution" by Scott Anderson with Dr John Cryan and Dr Ted Dinan, Guy can't contain his excitement about the fascinating connections between what we eat and how we feel.

Through hilarious personal stories about dairy disasters, gluten mishaps, and ice cream adventures, our hosts make the cutting-edge science of the gut-brain connection both entertaining and accessible. They explore how our trillions of gut bacteria influence everything from our moods to our memory, and why comfort eating might actually be our microbiota calling the shots.

Whether you're curious about the science behind your food cravings or wondering why chocolate makes you feel better, this episode of Captain and the Clown serves up serious science with a side of laughter.

The duo shares their own experiences with fasting, food intolerances, and the quest for mental clarity, while unpacking how this revolutionary research could change our approach to mental health.

Enjoy!

Guy and Michelle explore the concept of "soft leadership" - not about being soft, but about being more considerate and collaborative. They discuss how this approach, while sometimes seen as less efficient, often yields better results and stronger relationships.

Key Discussion Points:

- Indra Nooyi's (former PepsiCo CEO) journey from a blunt leadership style to a more collaborative approach

- The difference between leadership in structured environments (like aviation) vs everyday situations

- Why collaboration beats dictatorial management in modern leadership

- The power of self-assessment over traditional feedback

Notable Example:

Indra Nooyi's experience at PepsiCo, where she was advised to "be careful about throwing hand grenades" and instead adopt a more collaborative questioning approach.

Practical Leadership Techniques:

1. Building Trust Over Time

- Start collaborative to build trust

- Direct commands become more effective once trust is established

- Relationship building enables occasional directness when needed

2. Coaching vs Mentoring Approach:

- Coaching: Asking questions to help people find their own answers

- Mentoring: Sharing knowledge only after identifying knowledge gaps

- Using "Would it be worth considering..." instead of giving direct orders

3. Self-Assessment Model:

Key questions to ask:

- "How are you going with this?"

- "What's working well?"

- "Would you change anything?"

Real-World Applications:

- Parenting example: Breaking down overwhelming tasks (like cleaning a room) into manageable steps

- Workplace scenario: Building long-term trust enables occasional direct instructions

- Training context: Helping people develop self-awareness and assessment skills

Key Quote:

"Soft leadership isn't soft - it's collaborative and gives people agency."

Takeaway Message:

The episode emphasises that effective leadership isn't about being "soft" - it's about creating psychological safety, building trust, and empowering others to think for themselves. This approach might take more time initially but leads to better outcomes and stronger relationships.

In this episode, Guy and Michelle explore discipline from a fresh perspective - not through the lens of military-style discipline advocated by ex-Navy SEALs, but as an act of self-love and care for your future self.

Key Discussion Points:

- How early experiences in sports and performing arts (Guy in the Flying Fruit Fly Circus, Michelle in the Marching Koalas) helped build discipline through commitment to others

- Why discipline equals freedom and how it helps avoid the "slavery" of negative consequences

- The power of creating rules instead of setting goals

- How discipline is ultimately an act of love for your future self

Practical Examples of How Discipline Creates Freedom:

- Completing tasks early prevents the stress of the "urgency trap"

- Healthy eating habits free you from health issues and yo-yo dieting

- Regular exercise builds strength and long-term vitality

- Consistent quality time with loved ones prevents relationship breakdown

- Maintaining friendships prevents future loneliness

Key Concept - Rules vs Goals:

Instead of setting distant goals, create immediate rules:

- "I have a cold shower every morning"

- "I eat things that grow and live"

- "I exercise first thing"

- "I have one glass of wine"

Memorable Quote:

"Discipline is like getting in a time machine, going forward 10, 20, 30, 40 years, and giving that future version of yourself a hug saying, 'Hey, I've got you, mate.'"

Practical Takeaway:

Visualise your future self and consider how today's disciplined actions will benefit them. Rather than viewing discipline as restriction, see it as a gift to your future self - whether that's better health, stronger relationships, or greater freedom from stress.

Building discipline isn't about perfection or military-style rigour, but about consistently making choices that benefit your future self while creating rules that serve you in the present.

Episode Overview:

In this episode, Guy and Michelle explore the concept of "accurate thinking with a positive bent" rather than just positive thinking, sparked by insights from Dr. Daniel Amen's interview on The Diary of a CEO podcast.

Key Discussion Points:

- The evolution of positive thinking from the 70s/80s self-help movement to present day

- Scientific evidence of how negative thoughts physically affect brain structure

- The connection between negative thinking and athletic performance/coordination

- Why traditional positive thinking sometimes faces resistance

- The power of accurate thinking with a positive bent

Notable Research Discussion:

Guy shares fascinating research from Dr. Daniel Amen about brain scans showing physical changes when someone engages in negative self-talk, particularly affecting:

- Left temporal lobe

- Left frontal lobe

- Cerebellum (potentially explaining coordination issues during negative states)

Practical Applications:

- How to improve memory by changing negative self-talk

- The importance of believable, accurate statements rather than unrealistic positive affirmations

- Ways to observe and manage thoughts through meditation

- The value of surrounding yourself with supportive people

Key Quote:

"It's not positive thinking. It's accurate thinking with a positive bent." - Dr. Daniel Amen

Example of Accurate Thinking vs. Positive Thinking:

Instead of saying "I'm bad at remembering names" or unrealistically claiming "I'm brilliant at names," try:

"I used to struggle with names, but I'm getting better because I'm practicing and using techniques."

Mentioned in this Episode:

- The Diary of a CEO podcast with Stephen Bartlett

- Dr. Daniel Amen's brain research

- The Power of Appreciation by Noelle Nelson

- Eckhart Tolle's cloud metaphor for thoughts

The episode emphasises the importance of combining accuracy with optimism when working on self-improvement, rather than relying on unrealistic positive affirmations.

Join Guy and Michelle as they reflect on discovering small-town hospitality during their trip to Griffith for Michelle's first TEDx talk on mindset. Michelle shares her pre-release nerves about the upcoming talk, which leads to a heartwarming discussion about their memorable stay at Quest Apartments and the broader lessons about community connection.

The Small-Town Experience:

Their conversation takes us through their experience at Quest Griffith, where they received what Guy describes as "the best customer service we've ever had at any hotel." From the generous offering of local oranges to the genuine warmth of every staff member - from front desk to cleaning team - the hospitality stood out compared to their experiences at five-star hotels worldwide.

Michelle shares her perspective of adapting to small-town life during her university days in Wagga Wagga, where she had to learn to slow down from her Sydney pace. Guy responds with his own story about a delightful pedestrian crossing encounter in Noosa, highlighting how small-town mindsets create space for genuine human connection.

Creating Your Own Village:

The pair discuss how they've brought small-town vibes to their own neighbourhood in the city. Their morning coffee ritual on their front porch has become a catalyst for community connection. They chat about their neighbours stopping by, international friends (like opera singer Julia) experiencing their "village" atmosphere, and their street's growing tradition of community celebrations for Halloween and Christmas.

Guy and Michelle's Tips for Creating Small Town Happiness:

- Make time for community rituals, like their morning coffee sessions

- Acknowledge and greet your neighbours

- Participate in community events

- Create opportunities for connection

- Slow down and be present in your interactions

The episode wraps with their shared belief that small-town happiness isn't about location - it's about intentionally cultivating community wherever you are. As Michelle notes about their successful street community: "We create this, we make this happen."

Michelle's TEDx Talk can be viewed here - https://youtu.be/2zB_wcF1YMo?si=fkkNZqIRGzHuHpAA

Ever wondered why traffic gets under your skin, or why that presentation didn't feel quite right even though everyone loved it? This episode of Captain and the Clown dives into the sneaky world of expectations - those silent scripts we write in our heads that end up running the show.

Guy and Michelle get real about their own stumbles with expectations, from Michelle's story about a pilot who got so stuck on how things "should" go in a simulator that he nearly missed what was actually happening, to Guy's candid chat about feeling grumpy after a keynote speech despite rave reviews.

They tackle some fascinating stuff about why teenagers suddenly stop listening to their parents (turns out there might be a biological reason!), and share some proper lightbulb moments about how expectations mess with our daily lives. There's this brilliant bit where they talk about how changing your view of traffic from "nightmare" to "podcast time" can totally flip your experience.

What's really cool is their take on how different industries handle mistakes and expectations. They chat about how the aviation world has this refreshing "let's learn from this" approach, compared to other fields where mistakes often get swept under the rug.

If you're juggling leadership roles, dealing with teenagers (good luck!), or just trying to figure out why some days feel more stressful than others, this episode's got some proper gems for you. It's like having a chat with two mates who've figured out some of life's hidden operating instructions and are happy to share their notes.

In this episode, Guy and Michelle explore why it's crucial to regularly pause and evaluate where you're heading in life. Drawing from their recent travels, they share a telling observation: at an exclusive resort pool, they found themselves surrounded by people staring at their phones, scrolling through social media posts of other people's vacations – missing the actual paradise right in front of them.

The episode unpacks the key components of an effective annual review:

- Acknowledging and celebrating your achievements

- Understanding and learning from setbacks

- Making necessary adjustments to your path

- Reviewing your various life roles – relationships, career, health, family, hobbies, and friendships

Guy and Michelle emphasise the importance of stepping away from daily routines to think strategically about your life. They discuss how to evaluate what "normal" looks like for you and whether it's serving your best interests or needs to change.

Whether you're feeling confident about your direction or seeking clarity, this episode offers practical approaches to help you take control of your journey and make intentional choices about where you're heading.

Tune in now for insights that will help you create positive change in your life.

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