Capture Your Confidence

We read an article recently that made us throw up in our mouths a bit when we read the headline. It was called, “How Confidence is Weaponized Against Women.” And it’s so true because as women, we’re damned if we do, damned if we don’t. We are told how important it is to build our confidence, yet once we do, we are then criticized.   We want to walk you through this article and talk about how we’ve experienced the double-edged sword of building confidence as a woman in 2023.   In this episode, we cover:  

• Why we shouldn’t fake it until we make it [2:10]
• All the different things we are told to allude confidence, and how that can get into our heads [3:12]
• Likeable people get stuff done [6:55]
• Why confidence is weaponized against women [7:59]
• How leaders can help try to foster confidence in women [11:17]
• The power of quiet confidence [15:57]

 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In celebration of the year ending, we are reviewing our top five most listened podcast episodes of 2022. Our most popular episode of the year was Finding Confidence From Sports, Setting Boundaries, and Raising Confident Children with Nici Workman.   Whether it’s showing up in the courtroom or showing up on the court itself, confidence is always key. You need the confidence to form that argument and you need the confidence to make that shot! Our guest is a pro when it comes to discussing how her own confidence has grown both professionally and personally because of her own experience playing sports and just going through the messy motions of life.     In today’s episode, we are talking to our good friend Nici Workman. In addition to being a rockstar friend, Nici is a lawyer, a mother, a former college athlete, and a nonprofit board service member along with a whole host of other things.    During our conversation, Nici talks about her experience playing sports up until college and how it's shaped her life. She shares her thoughts on how her idea of confidence has changed through the years, what she wants to teach her children about confidence, and the legacy she hopes to leave behind.   In this episode, we cover:

• Nici shares more about her professional journey
• The role sports play in cultivating confidence
• Confidence and the motherhood journey
• Nici explains what knowledge she wants to impart to her own kids
• The legacy Nici wants to leave behind

Connect with Nici on LinkedIn   Connect with Whitney & Stephanie: Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_  The Other 85: https://theother85.net/  Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham  Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In celebration of the year ending, we are reviewing our top five most listened podcast episodes of 2022. Our second most popular episode of the year was How Intuitive Eating Can Help You Gain Confidence in a World Surrounded by Diet Culture with Simi Botic.   Diet culture is that collection of social expectations that dictates our self-worth with the way our body looks. In doing so it tells us what to do, what to eat, and how to look in order to feel worthy, accepted, and validated. All in all, diet culture sucks but unfortunately a lot of women are stuck in this cycle of hating their bodies and practicing restrictive eating patterns because they think it’s something they need to do.    In today’s episode we are talking to our good friend Simi Botic an intuitive eating counselor, and health coach who has literally helped hundreds of women break up with diet culture   During our conversation, Simi talks about making the transition from being a corporate healthcare attorney and struggling with disordered eating patterns. She shares why confidence means trust, why she tries to be a model of confidence and compassion for her clients, and why diet culture is rooted in a lot of systemic oppression.   In this episode, we cover:

• Simi shares more about her own experience with restrictive eating and her own work
• Tapping into your confidence to combat diet culture through trust and self-compassion
• Quick fixes don’t work: why confidence comes from the inside
• Misleading messages that damage women’s confidence
• How motherhood has changed the way Simi views confidence
• The legacy Simi hopes to leave

    Connect with Simi: IG: https://www.instagram.com/simibotic/ Website: https://movementunmeasured.com/   Connect with Whitney & Stephanie: Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_  The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

In celebration of the year ending, we are reviewing our top five most listened podcast episodes of 2022. Our third most popular episode of the year was Confidence in Series: Confidence in Social Media.   We’re really excited to share with you a series of 6 episodes which are really going to take you on a deep dive into confidence and how it shows up in certain areas of your life. Each episode is designed to cover one topic about confidence and focus on how you can flex that muscle in a specific area, or strategies you can use to build up your confidence game.    In this episode we are talking about confidence in social media and showing up online, some of the mental hang ups people have about social media, strategies on how to commit to content development and finally why it’s important to be vulnerable and show up.    In this episode, we cover:

• Why do you want to show up online?
• Goals to consider when showing up online
• Mental hang ups and social media and how to get over them
• You don’t have to be the foremost authority in your space 
• Be diligent and realistic about your time commitment and expectations
• You need to be open, vulnerable and willing to show up
• The goal is online to offline

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:
Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_  The Other 85: https://theother85.net/  Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham  Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In celebration of the year ending, we are reviewing our top five most listened podcast episodes of 2022. And our fourth most popular episode of the year was Confidence Band-Aids: What You Think Will Bring You Confidence, but Actually Won’t.   In this episode we talk about our very favorite thing, which is confidence bandaids. If you have been with us these last couple of episodes, you've probably heard us hint a little at some of these bandaids, but in this episode we are doing a deeper dive so we can really dig into how not to rely on them! We cover how we really feel about fake it till you make it, dressing for the job you want and what earned confidence means!   In this episode, we cover:

• Fake it till you make it
• Dress for the job you want and diet culture
• Taking care of your appearance
• Making the pivot to focusing on mindset
• Earned confidence

  Connect with Whitney & Stephanie: Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_  The Other 85: https://theother85.net/  Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham  Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In celebration of the year ending, we are reviewing our top five most listened podcast episodes of 2022. And our fifth most popular episode of the year was Building Confidence in a Brand with Rachel Sabo.   In this episode, we are talking to Rachel, a lawyer and small business owner who is a whiz at cultivating her personal brand. During our discussion, she shares her journey to starting her own business, overcoming the stigma of being a fresh female law grad, and overcoming imposter syndrome.    In this episode, we cover:

• Rachel shares more about her personal journey [01:19]
• Pitching yourself as a fresh grad [4:38]
• The challenges of building a personal brand as a female lawyer [7:50]
• Beating the odds as a female entrepreneur and managing burnout[14:31]
• Balancing work environments [21:30]
• Separating personal and professional identity [23:49]
• Rachel’s legacy [29:57]

  Connect with Rachel: Website: https://www.thefriedmannfirm.com/our_attorneys/rachel-sabo/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachy1023/   Get on the waitlist for the State of Women Conference here.    Connect with Whitney & Stephanie: Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_  The Other 85: https://theother85.net/  Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham  Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

As women, we have so many roadblocks holding us back, that we can’t even sort through what the main problem is. All we know is we have a problem, and we don’t have time to fix it, but if we can’t identify the roadblock, then we can’t identify a solution.   We are breaking down roadblocks into 3 main categories: time, mindset, and skillset. We are going to dive deep into each of these for you so you can finally stop letting them get in the way of getting things done.   In this episode, we cover:  

• Women struggle with so many roadblocks [1:07]
• The 3 categories we broke down roadblocks into [2:03]
• Breaking down these 3 categories [3:05]
• Ways we can address these roadblocks [6:11]
• Mindset questions we ask ourselves [9:22]
• How to make time for things that are actually important [11:44]
• The barrier around skillset [14:44]

 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

We are celebrating the 2-year birthday of the inception of the Capture Your Confidence podcast, and today, we want to share with you how it all started! We are breaking down how a contest we won that did absolutely nothing for us did everything for us, why you need to start taking action, and the importance of sharing the whole journey.   In this episode, we cover:

• The contest that started it all [1:39]
• Why action is such an important component when you have an idea [3:57]
• The reason you should start with small steps [7:22]
• Sharing those small steps on how you got to where you are [9:02]

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

For those that don’t know, Stephanie has lived her whole life having curly hair. In fact, she has spent over 10 years straightening her hair week after week simply because that’s what she’s always seen other people with curly hair do. Stephanie never actually realized just how much confidence stuff was wrapped up in your hair until she had a very special moment with her daughter, who also has curly hair.   As moms, we all have those moments where our kids see a bit of themselves in us and can relate to us on a deeper level. And it’s so important to show them that we can own our authenticity so that they can feel comfortable doing the same.     In this episode, we cover:

• Why Stephanie chose to straighten her hair for years [1:33}
• The moment Stephanie’s daughter noticed her curly hair, and how that changed her point of view [2:28]
• Growing up seeing a specific standard of beauty [4:41]
• Learning how to wear her hair curly, and feeling more confident [6:36]
• Showing your children to own your authenticity [8:49}

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

What a monumental moment for us. We are no longer just podcast hosts and business women, we are also conference hosts! It’s been a week since the State of Women conference, and honestly, we could not be more proud and appreciative. In this episode, we are breaking down the entire experience for you, discussing everything from the planning process, to the biggest lessons in confidence we learned, and our plans for the future.    In this episode, we cover:

• Don’t make the assumption that others won’t benefit from your work or dreams [1:02]
• Developing deep and strategic connections with other women [5:42]
• You don’t always have to map out the entire journey [7:45]
• Move through the uncertainty [8:57]
• Accountability is critical to the journey [9:50]
• The value of good intentions [11:56]
• Plans for the future [13:51]

 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/