Our stress response is a survival skill that is inherent and working to keep us alive: the fight, freeze, or flight theory. For example, a loss introduces a unique stressor into our lives.

After a breakup, one big question that commonly plagues the newly single is this: What did I do wrong?

The end of a relationship is a period rife with self-doubt and self-loathing as we try to identify our own culpability.

Often, people use breakups as evidence that they are unloveable. This is of course not true—breakups are a normal part of life—but in the midst of grief, many people tend to take the loss personally. Learning to love yourself again is an essential step in the healing process. To help you along the way, I share five points so you can be yourself again.

After a breakup, one big question that commonly plagues the newly single is this: What did I do wrong?

The end of a relationship is a period rife with self-doubt and self-loathing as we try to identify our own culpability.

Often, people use breakups as evidence that they are unloveable. This is of course not true—breakups are a normal part of life—but in the midst of grief, many people tend to take the loss personally. Learning to love yourself again is an essential step in the healing process. To help you along the way, I share five points so you can be yourself again.

The greatest and most important adventure of our lives is discovering who we really are. Yet, so many of us walk around either not really knowing or listening to an awful inner critic that gives us all the wrong ideas about ourselves. We mistakenly think of self-understanding as self-indulgence, and we carry on without asking the most important question we will ever ask: Who am I really?

Finding yourself may sound like an inherently self-centered goal, but it is actually an unselfish process that is at the root of everything we do in life. In order to be the most valuable person to the world around us, the best partner, parent etc, we have to first know who we are, what we value and, in effect, what we have to offer.

After coming out of a breakup or divorce we often lose ourselves. Finding yourself again requires a process. That is – shedding layers that do not serve us in our lives and don’t reflect who we really are. Yet, it also involves a tremendous act of building up – recognizing who we want to be and passionately going about fulfilling our unique destiny – whatever that may be.

It’s a matter of recognizing our personal power, yet being open and vulnerable to our experiences. It isn’t something to fear or avoid, berating ourselves along the way, but rather something to seek out with the curiosity and compassion we would have toward a fascinating new friend. With these principles in mind, I highlight six useful steps to this very individual adventure.

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Do you sometimes feel the weight of the world on your shoulders?

Do you feel overwhelmed and drained by the external stressors of life?

Are the demands of your job, the needs of your family pulling you in every direction?

If you are experiencing any of the above, or if the end of a relationship has shifted your entire world and you are struggling to get through the the pain, confusion, loss and seek a new beginning, Dr. Shelby’s new book “Untying The Knot” is for you!

In this podcast, Dr. Shelby shares a set of practical solutions, that he expands on in his book, that can immediately lower the impact of stress in your life and empower you to make changes that will increase your peace and personal happiness.

Get your copy of this powerful, life changing, practical book which will help you to navigate through the pain of a broken relationship to a place of understanding, growth, healing and JOY!

Available at www.CedricShelby.com

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Life is full of new beginnings. Here’s some valuable advice to help you along the way!

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Here are five strategies that can help you gain greater confidence no matter what your age and realize that your best days still lie ahead.

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