Challenging Adoption Norms and Embracing Queer Parenting: A Conversation with Yomi

Episode Summary:

Selling children is human trafficking, so why isn’t adoption considered human trafficking? It’s state-sanctioned trafficking with a paper trail. Ayomide Bee shares her adoption story as a queer transracial adoptee. Their take is not only that gay couples shouldn’t adopt - but that adoption should be abolished. Listen to her origin story & views. “Just because it's legal doesn't mean that it's not trafficking. Slavery was legal. The residential homes were legal. Legality doesn't mean a goddamn thing.” - Ayomide Bee

In this episode, we cover:

(00:31) Story of Ayomide Bee

(02:32) Always being the topic of conversation OR Knowing yourself by how people talk about you OR Our story = other people’s stories of us?

(04:23) Coming out of the fog OR Finding wonky stuff in the adoption paperwork 

(05:22) Being forced into adoption 

(08:07) Decision to go no contact

(12:13) How she wants her adoptive parents to take accountability

(14:15) Should gay couples adopt? 

(19:58) Is adoption human trafficking? 

(25:24) Adoption alternatives 

(28:48) Relationship w/bio grandma (who suggested adoption) OR Anger toward grandma 

(37:19) What does abolishing adoption look like?

(40:30) Connecting with Ayomide

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