All-or-nothing thinking causes problems in your life and relationships whether it is your or someone else's. It is just one of many cognitive distortions that is pervasive in dysfunctional relationships in families where communication skills and conflict resolution skills are generally lacking. 

This video gives you examples of this black-and-white thinking and alternative ways to communicate. It is a simple change that has a huge impact.         

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Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.

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I, Karla Downing, am frequently asked why I stayed in my dysfunctional, toxic marriage. The answer is complex and multi-layered, as it is for anyone who has been in a difficult marriage. 

This honest, heartfelt exposé on why I have stayed will help you analyze why you have stayed and can even help you understand why you finally left. If you are a Christian in a difficult marriage, you will recognize the confusion over Scripture and misguided teachings. It will also model how you can give yourself grace and compassion rather than judgment and condemnation.  

If you are in a dysfunctional, toxic marriage or relationship, or have been in one and need understanding as to what is going on and why you are doing what you have been doing, this video will help you. If you know people in toxic relationships and can't understand why they stay, it will also give you empathy and compassion.  

Watch to learn why I stayed in my dysfunctional, toxic marriage. This candid personal analysis from Karla Downing will change your understanding of difficult marriage struggles.

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Healthy friendship has specific components. Evaluate your friendships by learning what they are.

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Your narcissistic child doesn't consider your feelings, needs, boundaries, or opinions. There is no empathy or compassion for you no matter how badly you are treated. Find out why your narcissistic child doesn't care about your pain.

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Going home to your dysfunctional family can be different when you change yourself. You can't force them to change or to understand the dynamics. They will likely continue to do what they always have, but your responses can be different. 

Going home to your dysfunctional family after changing yourself can change your life. Do you want to know how? Watch this video to find out the simple choices you can make.      #dysfunctionalfamilies  #changingyourlife  #changeyourself  #christianrelationshipadvice

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Abusive relationships have cycles. Things get better, then they escalate, and then they get bad. This crazy-making pattern adds to the confusion and self-doubt that is part of emotional, verbal, physical, spiritual, and other types of abuse.

The more you know about what is going on, the more you can be empowered to take care of yourself. The abuser has power over you by getting you to question your perceptions. Understanding the cycles allows you to make sense of the roller coaster and maintain your strong self as an abuse survivor.  

Part of the abusive relationship cycle is pulling the rug out. Watch this video to identify this strategy used to throw you off balance.  

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Did you know that there are five conflict resolution strategies? Even if the difficult person isn't willing to learn them, you should. Having multiple options you can present will increase the chance you can come to a mutually agreeable solution.

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You're doing everything you can to hold onto your relationship with a spouse, partner, child, parent, sibling, or friend, even though it's unhealthy and toxic. 

You try to force change through nagging, lecturing, praying, appeasing, controlling, or enabling, yet nothing changes. 

What if I told you that what you fear most might be the very thing that could bring about the change you desperately want? If the solution is setting boundaries, even though the outcome isn't guaranteed, are you willing to lose your relationship to get the change you need?

Watch this video to strengthen your resolve to set boundaries. 

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Self-fulfilling prophecies are predictions that cause themselves to become true due to the behavior they generate. They affect your life and relationships in more ways than you realize. The common perception is that they come to pass whether you want them to or not. 

It is important to consider how self-fulfilling prophecies are impacting your life. Once you do that, you can make simple changes to align them with what you choose for yourself and your relationships. 

Change your self-fulfilling prophecies to change your life and relationships. It's a simple but powerful thing to do.  

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse.   #selffulfillingprophecy #christianrelationshipadvice #changeyourthoughts 

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Dealing with angry people is difficult. You either respond with anger or with fear. Instead, you can learn how to detach from anger to change your relationships.

Karla Downing's passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from dysfunction, scriptural misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her Christian relationship advice includes messages, books, and classes that provide practical solutions grounded in biblical truths, bringing balance and clarity to life and relationship issues. She also desires to equip ministry leaders and counselors to reach out more effectively to those struggling with difficult relationships, including abuse. 

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