I am in the midst of a war, here in the Middle East, near the Lebanese border, hearing the bangs and booms of rockets and artillery daily, and feeling the heartbreaking violence, suffering and misery which crosses borders and engulfs us all. But we do need to find the sources of equanimity otherwise we simply drown in fear, despair and misery. This talk explores many wise ways, both externally and internally, to develop steadiness in the midst of uncontrollable circumstances, whether war, climate change, conflict, or confusion. We look at forms of mediation, lifestyles and inner realisations that help us to dance freely with a life that we cannot control.