How many people do you need to change? Your parents, partner, children, friends. Who else is on the list? When we live in the outside in paradigm, it can look like there are some people who have to be different for us to be happy. But have you noticed the amount of work that involves and how overwhelming it can become? I didn't until it was too late and I burnt out. It can be helpful to see the layers to this desire to change people. 

Firstly the idea that other people can make us feel anything is fundamentally flawed because we don't all feel the same way about certain people. Secondly, how you perceive someone is being created through your beliefs and perception of the world. Thirdly, other people find it hard enough to change themselves so what makes you think you can do it. As you start to see these truths about how life works, it makes less and less sense to try to change other people and more sense to bring some awareness to what you are believing which isn't true. 

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