In Part 2 of this conversation, John O’Sullivan dives deeper into the realities of pressure, anxiety, early specialization, and the myths that continue to shape youth sports in unhealthy ways.

We unpack why the so-called 10,000-hour rule doesn’t hold up, why development is never linear, and why mentality, enjoyment, and resilience matter more than chasing outcomes at young ages. John also shares powerful insights for parents on how to support their kids without adding pressure — and why nervousness isn’t a problem, but a sign that kids care.

This episode challenges parents, coaches, and organizations to redefine success, strip away interference, and help kids fall in love with movement so sports remain a positive part of their lives long after the final whistle.

Key Talking Points

1. Why the 10,000-hour rule is a myth — and what matters instead
2. The dangers of early specialization and outcome obsession
3. Why development is different for every athlete and every sport
4. How pressure shifts from excitement to anxiety
5. Teaching kids to handle nerves instead of eliminating them
6. Performance as potential minus interference
7. Why parents must separate their identity from their child’s sport
8. Letting the journey belong to the athlete, not the adults
9. How joy fuels resilience and long-term commitment
10. Redefining success beyond wins, trophies, and rankings

Quotes From Guest

1. “There’s no such thing as a 10,000-hour rule.”
2. “Kids are not computers — you don’t just program hours into them.”
3. “Nervous means that you care.”
4. “Performance is potential minus interference.”
5. “The same drive that helps some kids succeed can also destroy them.”
6. “You can do everything right and still get hurt.”
7. “Sport is something kids do — it’s not who they are.”
8. “Our job as parents is to strip away interference, not add to it.”
9. “Success isn’t winning every game — it’s kids wanting to come back.”
10. “The goal is raising athletes for life.”

Connect With John O’Sullivan

🌐 Website: https://changingthegameproject.com

🎙️ Podcast: https://wayofchampionspodcast.com

📚 Book: Changing the Game

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In Part 1 of this conversation, John O’Sullivan joins Chat By The Pitch to break down what truly drives healthy development in youth sports.

John shares his journey from long-time soccer coach to founder of Change the Game Project, explaining why burnout, fear-based coaching, and adult agendas continue to derail young athletes. We dive into culture, joy, intrinsic motivation, and why relationships — not tactics — are the foundation of sustainable success.

This episode is essential listening for parents, coaches, and anyone invested in helping kids stay in the game longer, love the process, and grow as people — not just players.

Key Talking Points

1. Why fear-based coaching can create short-term results but long-term damage
2. The difference between transactional and transformational coaching
3. How burnout often starts with adults, not athletes
4. Why coaching is fundamentally a relationship business
5. What research says kids actually want from sports
6. The myth that fun and competitiveness don’t coexist
7. How joy fuels intrinsic motivation and long-term growth
8. Teaching athletes to compete, not just “win”
9. The role of autonomy in athlete development
10. Why culture matters more than systems, tactics, or drills

Quotes From John O’Sullivan

1. “You can compel people through fear in the short term, but it’s not sustainable.”
2. “If kids quit next year, who cares how many games you won?”
3. “Coaching is a relationship business — not an X’s and O’s business.”
4. “You can’t teach winning. You can teach competing.”
5. “Joy and competitiveness absolutely coexist.”
6. “Fun doesn’t mean sloppy — it means organized, challenging, and meaningful.”
7. “Intrinsic motivation is the path to mastery.”
8. “If you remove joy or ownership, motivation fades.”
9. “Sport teaches kids how to do hard things.”
10. “Development isn’t just performance — it’s moral character.”

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🌐 Website: https://changingthegameproject.com

🎙️ Podcast: https://wayofchampionspodcast.com

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In Part 2, Ian Babcock continues the conversation with Dominique Molina and Antonio Perez, founders of Salient Touch Football Academy, diving deep into how real development is executed day to day.

This episode breaks down session design, open enrollment, punch cards vs. consistency, defending development, and Salient Touch’s ability-based leveling system. Dominique and Antonio explain why age alone is a poor indicator of readiness, how players are evaluated during trial sessions, and why holding firm on levels actually protects player confidence and growth.

For parents navigating busy schedules—and coaches trying to maintain standards—this conversation provides rare transparency into what thoughtful development looks like behind the scenes.

🔑 Key Talking Points

1. How Salient Touch designs sessions around player readiness
2. Why cones vs. game-based sessions change day to day
3. Open enrollment without sacrificing training quality
4. Punch cards vs. monthly commitment — what actually works
5. Why defending is one of the fastest transferable skills
6. Leveling players by ability, not birth year
7. How trial sessions evaluate the full player profile
8. Managing plateaus without rushing promotions
9. Parent communication as a core development pillar
10. Building long-term pathways instead of short-term wins

💬 Quotes from the Guests

1. “Development is best seen with consistency — there’s no way around that.” — Dominique Molina
2. “It’s not one size fits all. It’s one size fits one at a time.” — Antonio Perez
3. “If we water down our levels, we water down what we offer.” — Dominique Molina
4. “Defending is the only way you ever get the ball back.” — Antonio Perez
5. “Progress doesn’t always show on the field right away.” — Dominique Molina
6. “We evaluate the emotional and social side just as much as the technical.” — Antonio Perez
7. “Some players need time, not pressure.” — Antonio Perez
8. “Parents deserve clarity, not confusion.” — Dominique Molina

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From Park Sessions to Facilities: The Salient Touch Origin Story

In Part 1 of this conversation, Ian Babcock sits down with Salient Touch Football Academy founders Dominique Molina and Antonio Perez to unpack how Salient Touch was built—from a bumpy public field to a multi-location technical training program serving hundreds of players each week.

This episode dives into identity, first touch, emotional intelligence in coaching, and why individual development is often misunderstood in modern youth soccer. Dominique and Antonio share personal journeys from elite athletics, professional playing ambitions, and hard transition moments that ultimately shaped their coaching philosophy.

If you’re a parent, coach, or player trying to understand what real development looks like—and why progress isn’t linear—this conversation sets the foundation.

🔑 Key Talking Points

1. Why first touch is foundational at every age

2. Letting go of the professional dream to build something bigger

3. Coaching without mentors — learning through lived experience

4. Adapting training to emotional and psychological player needs

5. Why technical repetition alone doesn’t work for every child

6. The difference between team development and individual growth

7. Building a business while protecting coaching culture

8. Why progress feels invisible during development plateaus

9. The challenge of parent communication at scale

10. Creating environments where discipline and joy coexist

💬 Quotes from the Guests

1. “If you don’t have a good first touch, it’s impossible to be a good player.” — Antonio Perez

2. “Each player needs something different emotionally from the game.” — Dominique Molina

3. “Our goal isn’t to make everyone pro — it’s to educate them through the sport.” — Antonio Perez

4. “Nothing worth doing in sports is easy, and we shouldn’t pretend it is.” — Dominique Molina

5. “Some players need repetition. Others need sensation.” — Antonio Perez

6. “Culture starts with who you allow on your staff.” — Dominique Molina

7. “Progress isn’t linear — it’s chaotic.” — Antonio Perez

8. “Parents deserve clarity, not silence.” — Dominique Molina

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In Part 2, Ted Kroeten goes deeper into the mechanics of free play, why traditional training misreads how kids actually learn, and how small-sided chaos builds problem-solvers, communicators, and creators. From one-v-one misconceptions to futsal culture, mixed-age environments, and why American kids rarely get “underload” time, Ted explains what the U.S. must rethink to compete globally.

He also breaks down what parents can actually do to bring joy and development back into their child’s soccer life — even without a Joy of the People program nearby.

This conversation is a blueprint for the next 10–15 years of American soccer… if we’re willing to go “down the mountain” before climbing higher.

Key Talking Points

• Why 1v1 isn’t the holy grail — and why 2v2 teaches the real language of soccer

• What small-sided games unlock: communication, deception, decision-making

• The concept of overload vs underload and how it shapes development

• Why futsal, SALs, barefoot play, and alternate balls accelerate creativity

• The danger of top-down coaching and why talk-heavy models block learning

• How kids self-regulate, self-officiate, and learn conflict resolution in real play

• Why U.S. kids lack free play opportunities — especially girls

• The global shift toward small-sided formats and why the U.S. is behind

• How parents can build play cultures at home, in neighborhoods, and in friend groups

• Ted’s vision for the U.S. over the next 10–15 years — and why a “Play Revolution” is coming

Quotes from Ted Kroeten

• “Kids don’t want to learn soccer — they want to be with their friends. The learning is a byproduct.”

• “One-v-one doesn’t really exist. Two-v-two teaches the real communication of the game.”

• “If a kid knows how they learned it, it can be hacked. If they learned it unconsciously, it can’t.”

• “Small-sided, uncoached play is where the language of the game is spoken.”

• “Friends must come before skills. Trust must come before competition.”

• “We don’t need more performance — we need more joy.”

Episode Chapters

00:00 — Why 1v1 Is Misunderstood in Player Development

03:45 — 2v2 and 3v3: Where the Language of Soccer Lives

07:30 — Small-Sided Chaos and Real Decision-Making

11:15 — Overload vs Underload: Reading Kids, Not Results

15:30 — Why Futsal Changes How Players Think

19:30 — Mixed-Age Play and Learning From Older Kids

23:30 — When Performance Kills Joy and Creativity

27:45 — Kids Who Love Winning vs Kids Who Love Playing

31:45 — Parents, Pressure, and the Loss of Free Play

36:00 — Why U.S. Soccer Develops Too Early, Too Fast

40:30 — Self-Regulation, Conflict, and Social Learning in Play

44:30 — Building Play Environments Without a Club

48:45 — What Coaches Talk Too Much About

52:45 — Peak Height Velocity and Developmental Timing

57:00 — Why Free-Play Kids Struggle Early but Thrive Later

1:01:15 — Failing First to Build Better Players

1:05:30 — The Next 10–15 Years of American Soccer

1:09:30 — A Call to Trust Kids and Protect Play

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Joy of the People founder and longtime coach Ted Kroeten joins Chat By The Pitch to break down what truly develops creative, intelligent players — and why most of the U.S. youth soccer system gets it upside down. Ted’s “soccer as a language” philosophy reframes how kids learn, why free play must come before instruction, and how mixed-age, low-pressure environments cultivate game intelligence no coach can teach.

From the failures of super clubs and the youth sports industrial complex to Joy of the People’s bold commitment to no tryouts, no cuts, and no overcoaching, Ted delivers one of the clearest visions of what American development could be if we trusted kids to play again.

If you care about player development, coaching, or burnout in youth sports — this episode will challenge everything you think you know.

Key Talking Points

• Ted’s journey from late-start player to coaching leader and founder of Joy of the People

• Why he walked away from the elite club model and the youth sports industrial complex

• “Soccer as a language” — acquisition vs learning, Chomsky, Krashen, and immersion

• What kids learn in free play that coaches cannot teach

• Why Joy of the People operates with no tryouts, no cuts, no pressure

• How mixed-age play, different surfaces, and alternate balls accelerate creativity

• Overload vs underload: reading effort, joy, and false intensity in players

• Why early free-play kids lag at first—but surpass others by U16–U19

• The danger of over-rewarding performance and creating kids who only love winning

• Building a true community model where every kid matters and development lasts

Quotes from Ted Kroeten

• "When I saw kids in play learning things I could not teach them, I knew there was something in play."

• "Unstructured play, street play, free play has developed the top players in the world."

• "We’ve been teaching soccer only with rules and techniques, not allowing acquisition to occur."

• "The best way to learn a complex language is not a teacher — it's immersion."

• "Kids who fall in love with explicit training programs are in danger of burning out."

• "We don’t have tryouts. We have a mix of everyone — and they bloom on their own timeline."

Episode Chapters

00:00 — Ted Kroeten’s Late Start and Multi-Sport Roots

03:10 — Coaching at the Highest Levels and Seeing the Cracks

06:00 — Walking Away from the Youth Soccer Industrial Complex

08:30 — Founding Joy of the People and the Decision to Prioritize Play

11:45 — Watching Kids Learn What Coaches Can’t Teach

14:30 — Poverty of the Stimulus and Why Play Accelerates Learning

18:00 — Soccer as a Language: Acquisition vs Instruction

22:45 — Chomsky, Krashen, and Immersion on the Field

27:30 — The Panenka Penalty and Non-Verbal Soccer Communication

31:30 — Why Cone Work Fails Under Real Pressure

35:00 — What Parents Miss When They Watch Training

38:30 — Early Attempts at Free Play — and Why They Failed

42:45 — Building a Community Hub with the City of St. Paul

46:30 — Kids “Not Knowing How to Play” and What That Revealed

50:45 — Removing Tryouts, Cuts, and External Pressure

55:30 — What Joy of the People Looks Like Day to Day

59:30 — Losing Games Early to Win Long Term

1:03:30 — Why Joy and Belonging Come Before Results

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In Part 2, Kassandra Ruelas takes us deeper into her journey — from rediscovering her love for the game under Coach Temas, to the fate-driven path that led her to Vial/Villarreal, to leaving home for Spain as a teenager. She shares what life, training, and tempo looked like overseas, how Spanish clubs develop players through structure and intelligence, and what it felt like to finally find her rhythm abroad.

This episode also uncovers the hardest chapter of her career: tearing her ACL overseas, navigating the injury alone during a national blackout, and learning her younger sister tore her ACL the same week. Kassandra opens up about her recovery, her mindset, and what she hopes players and parents take away from her story.

Key Talking Points

• Finding joy again at Sting and the season that rebuilt her confidence.

• Earning the first-ever North Texas Player Training Week invite in Spain.

• How fate connected her to Vial after a controversial point error.

• The Spanish development model: daily structure, zones, rondos, and tempo.

• What life looked like: gym, training, Spanish class, film, late-night sessions.

• Being “the foreigner” and the pressure of integrating into a new culture.

• Highest levels she reached in Spain and how licensing works for minors.

• The game where her ACL tore on a routine change of direction.

• No trainer onsite, calling Christian at 4 a.m. Texas time for support.

• The national blackout that blocked access to her MRI results.

• Learning her sister tore her ACL days later.

• Returning home for surgery and beginning the long recovery.

• Rebuilding mentally while rediscovering who she is beyond soccer.

• Leaving the door open for Spain but embracing uncertainty.

• Message to parents: support but let players own conversations.

• Message to players: attitude and curiosity separate you.

Quotes from Kassandra

• “Coach Temas brought the love back for the game.”

• “Being the first North Texas player selected — I knew I had to go back.”

• “I was jumping the entire night when they announced I was going to Spain.”

• “In Spain, the ball does the work. The tempo is smarter, not just faster.”

• “I spoke Spanish, but I was still the foreigner. That pressure stays with you.”

• “I knew the moment it happened — something was wrong with my knee.”

• “I was alone in the locker room with no trainer. I just wanted my mom.”

• “The blackout hit the day my MRI came in. I couldn’t talk to anyone.”

• “Two days later, my sister tore her ACL too. It didn’t feel real.”

• “Right now I’m learning who I am outside of soccer.”

• “Curiosity and attitude — those two things take you farther than talent.”

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In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, Ian sits down with North Texas player and administrator Kassandra Ruelas to unpack what it really looks like to grow up inside one of the most competitive girls’ soccer markets in the country. From yelling “goal” as her first word to playing with the boys and eventually earning a chance to play in Spain, Kassandra’s story is a masterclass in soccer IQ, resilience, and family support.

Kassandra talks about the pressure of DFW girls’ soccer, the unspoken politics of youth sports, and what it feels like to be overlooked and benched after being named captain—and why she refused to let that season define her. She shares how her mom’s sacrifices, her cousins’ professional careers (including stints in Mexico and with the Dallas Sidekicks), and training with the boys gave her the tools to navigate setbacks without losing her love for the game.

For players, this conversation shows how to use the field as your therapy, build your game around intelligence instead of just being bigger, faster, stronger, and survive the hard seasons. For parents, it’s a real look at travel, pressure, and why the right coach matters more than any alphabet-soup league. For coaches, Kassandra offers a player’s-eye view on communication, favoritism, and how one honest conversation can change a career.

Key Talking Points

• How soccer has always been part of Kassandra’s life — her first word was “goal,” and the living room was a mini-pitch growing up.

• The moment in middle school when soccer shifted from “fun with friends” to serious training, four-year plans, and future dreams on the pitch.

• Growing up in a North Texas soccer family — cousins who played pro in Mexico and indoors with the Dallas Sidekicks — and the self-imposed pressure to honor their investment in her.

• The Texas girls’ soccer environment: extremely competitive, with teammates and opponents now playing in the NWSL—and how that can mess with your head if you compare timelines.

• How her mom’s support and sacrifices (driving 1.5 hours in traffic, always backing her choices) helped balance the pressure.

• Soccer as therapy and creative outlet: using the game to disconnect from stress, reset emotionally, and express herself without overthinking.

• Learning to separate “family” from “coach” with her three cousins: flipping the switch from joking in the car to professionalism on the field.

• Kassandra’s club journey: Odyssey → Liverpool → Solar → FC Dallas → Texans → Sting → Al Nord Texas boys → heading to Spain to play with Villarreal.

• Why DFW competition at U13+ felt tougher than most out-of-state tournaments (except maybe California) and how playing the same high-level players for years sharpened her game.

• The hardest season: being told she’d be captain, then getting five minutes of game time, feeling overlooked, and wanting to quit—but choosing to control her work rate and attitude instead.

• Esteban’s advice on politics and the rollercoaster of soccer—you can’t want the highs without accepting the lows.

• How the DFW soccer community is a small world—one name can spark a 30-person chain of connections, from FC Dallas games to Starbucks encounters.

• The difference between Texas-style “athlete building” and Spanish tactical football, and why playing with boys forced her to lean on IQ instead of brute force.

• Why she turned down a DA opportunity because the coaching style didn’t fit her, even though the letters looked good.

• A player’s perspective on alphabet-soup leagues, constant travel, and chasing logos vs. staying local, dominating your backyard, and finding the right environment.

Quotes from Kassandra

• “My first word was ‘goal’ during a game. Soccer has literally always been there—I can’t remember life without it.”

• “If I’m not playing on the field, I’m not happy. It’s when I miss the game that I realize how much I love it.”

• “I could never picture a future where I wasn’t on the field. That’s when I knew soccer wasn’t just a hobby—it was my path.”

• “Texas girls’ soccer is extremely competitive. I’ve grown up with teammates who are now in the NWSL, and it’s easy to compare your timeline to theirs.”

• “My mom always said, ‘The day you don’t want to do this, I’m here for you. If you do want it, I’m with you 100%.’”

• “On the field, it’s my therapy. I’m not playing to prove something—I’m playing because I love the game and I know what I’m doing.”

• “Playing with the boys forced me to be smarter. I wasn’t going to outmuscle them, so I had to use my brain or I’d lose.”

• “That season I got five minutes of playing time was the first time I ever thought, ‘Maybe I don’t want to do this anymore.’ And it had nothing to do with my performance.”

• “Soccer is a rollercoaster. As great as the high feels, it will just as quickly bring you to the lowest low you’ve ever felt.”

• “You can’t want the good times and not want the bad times. If you don’t want the lows, this might not be the game for you.”

• “It doesn’t matter what letters are next to your team’s name. If the coaching style isn’t right for you, you’re not going to grow there.”

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World-renowned development leader Tom Byer joins the show to break down where real soccer development truly begins — inside the home. Tom explains how early touches, simple routines, and parent involvement build confidence, coordination, and long-term potential. We explore culture, neuroscience, at-home training, and why the U.S. continues to struggle with building a true development identity.

This episode gives parents, coaches, and clubs practical steps to build a stronger foundation for young players from the very beginning.

Key Talking Points

Tom’s Story & Global Impact

• NY → Japan: How Tom built one of the world’s most successful technical programs

• The beginnings of Soccer Starts at Home

• Why Japan embraced ball mastery at massive scale

Early Development Insights

• Real development starts before organized soccer

• Kids fall in love with the ball first, not the sport

• Importance of repetition: one child + one ball

• Early comfort becomes confidence and leadership

Culture & Science

• What Latin and Asian cultures do differently

• Neuroscience behind early learning

• Why games don’t teach foundational skills

• Why parent involvement shapes long-term potential

Practical Application

• Simple at-home routines for ages 2–6

• How to support older kids who start later

• What clubs can do to reinforce early development

• Building better collaboration between parents and coaches

💬 Quotes from Tom Byer

“Parents are the most important link in the development chain.”

“Kids fall in love with the ball first — not soccer.”

“If you want to push the ceiling, you have to raise the floor.”

“The best coach in the world can’t fix a weak foundation.”

“Culture develops players long before coaching ever does.”

“Most of what we call development is really just selection.”

“For young players, one child and one ball is more valuable than any game.”

“Ball mastery is the great equalizer — it gives every child a chance.”

“We keep trying to build superstructures on top of shaky foundations.”

“Real development starts years before a kid ever joins a team.”

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Book: Soccer Starts at Home

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In Part 2 of our two-part series with Juan Martinez — founder of JMS Soccer and president of DKSC — we move beyond the academy structure and dig into the deeper layers of development that parents rarely see. Juan opens up about the realities of North Texas soccer culture, the misconceptions around “connections,” and how he uses his network not as a selling point, but as a responsibility to serve disciplined players who put in the work.

Juan explains what it really takes for an athlete to earn his recommendation, why truth and accountability matter more than hype, and how he keeps kids grounded while helping them chase college, national team, or professional opportunities. We also explore character development, moral skills, parental influence, pathways beyond club soccer, and why the dream must belong to the player — not the parent.

If you’re a soccer parent trying to understand the real pathway from ages 12–14 to college or pro, Part 2 delivers the unfiltered truth.

📌 Key Talking Points

• The misconception around “connections” and what they actually mean

• North Texas as a cutthroat, highly competitive soccer market

• Parents fearing their child won’t be recruited if they’re not at the “right” club

• How Juan uses his network to help players — quietly, without promoting it

• Why Juan will not recommend a player who lacks work ethic or attitude

• Examples of Juan contacting major programs on players’ behalf

• “Real talk”: asking players if they want honest feedback

• Keeping kids humble — correcting body language, temper, effort

• Why character skills and moral skills matter as much as soccer skills

• Teaching athletes to write letters to themselves about who they want to be

• How attitude directly affects how teammates experience you

• The pathway funnel: dual citizenship, national teams, international scouts

• Why discipline and daily habits determine whether a pathway even exists

• Educating parents on timing, contracts, rights, and player value

• Helping players navigate college offers strategically

• Why most pathways depend on player drive, not parental desire

• Homeschool vs. private school comparison for elite training

• Why JMS Academy will not become a full school

• JMS Fit/Futuro as expansion for players not ready for full academy

• How success is defined: players going pro, earning scholarships, leadership qualities

💬 Guest Quotes

• “It’s very cutthroat. North Texas soccer is cutthroat.”

• “Most of the time people don’t even know that I’m doing that.”

• “I’m not sticking my neck out for just anybody.”

• “If you’re not technically sound… if you don’t use both feet… I can’t recommend you.”

• “I want to serve as many kids as possible, but in the right way.”

• “I don’t have a plan to grow the wrong way — I want to grow the right way with the right people.”

• “Everyone has a shelf life. Once I stop coaching, I want to use all my resources to honor God.”

• “Kids aren’t being creative anymore because we make every decision for them.”

• “Always count on change — we’re always reinventing and trying to get better.”

• “You keep everybody humble — you never let them get bigheaded.”

• “If it’s not their dream, you’re wasting your time.”

• “Know your child. If it’s their dream, it’s worth it. If it’s yours, it’s not.”

• “If your child isn’t touching a ball every day, they’re not falling in love with the sport yet.”

• “I’ve seen so many parents running the race for their kids — and it never works.”

• “Being part of a player reaching their goal… that’s the most fulfilling thing.”

• “They do all the work, all the sacrifice. I’m just part of their journey.”

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