Just how far back do you think the roots of BDSM, D/S, andkink go? Were the Romans into D/S? What about Victorian times? Could Heathcliff and Catherine been ‘kinky’? Have you ever wondered how modern kink communities got started or how did people into BDSM connect before DMs, texting, and the internet?

Unless you know Doc Brown or have a DeLorean with afunctioning flux capacitor, this episode will answer all those questions plus explain how military surplus motorcycles and leather jackets laid the foundations for modern kink communities.

People often say that a journey into exploring BDSM and kink will be life-changing, but what does that really mean? Often, generic posts and lovely but vague-sounding ideas are tossed about to describe it. So this episode is different; it is personal. I openly share how D/S has challenged and changed me, plus those times where it forced me to grow, even when I might not have wanted to. No matter if you are a dominant, submissive, or switch, grab your headphones, get comfortable, and settle in for this personal trip into self-growth while discovering how you, too, can evolve as you explore the lifestyle.

Exploring BDSM, D/S, and kink can really open our minds up to self-discovery. Have you ever wondered what happens in our brains when we go from thinking about trying something kinky and new? Science has the answers, and they just might surprise you.

In the second half of the show, the chatting turns to rituals in BDSM or D/S. While rituals are typically thought of as things submissivesdo, but what if I told you some rituals include dominants, too? Not only that, but what if there was a specific time of day for them that would help your partnership thrive?

Do not miss these answers and more in this episode.

Do you know what the number one sexual fantasy is forAmericans?

With 2026 just arrived many are making resolutions that include BDSM, D/S and kink fantasies. This episode explores America’s most popular fantasy with practical advice on how to take it from dreamy desire to lived reality.

So get comfortable, put in your earbuds, discover this kinktastic fantasy and learn what you need to know should you want to bring this often unspoken fantasy to life.

BDSM and kink lifestyle educators often talk about the importance of education. It is not surprising that educators discuss education, but what happens when fiction replaces facts, fantasy supplants safety, and consent takes a backseat to raw, primal desire?

Could it result in a D/S scene filled with orgasmic delights? It could, but this is BDSM, where activities come with risk from small to life-altering or even ending. The more play that happens between those without proper training, the risks skyrocket, and informed consent becomes impossible, as there is no knowledge base to provide informed consent.

Studies show there is an alarming trend in the world of BDSM and kink where pornography is moving from entertainment andinspiration into the role of educator. The spicy content has not changed, but how it is viewed by those consuming it has. Find out what research shows about the trend of porn as a BDSM and kink educator.

Sources:

Prevalence of Sexual Strangulation/Choking Among Australians Authors: Leah S. Sharman, Robin Fitzgerald, and Heather Douglas

Holes in Kinky Education: The Role of Pornography in Learning about BDSM Sexualities Authors: Iris Ryn Olson and Bryce Westlake

BDSM Safety in Pornography: Its Perceived Accuracy and Impact on Practitioners' Safe Word Practices Author: Bryce G. Westlake

Enjoyment, Exploration and Education: Understanding the Consumption of Pornography Authors: Mark McCormack and Liam Wignall

Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice Authors: Richard A. Sprott, Carolyn Meeker, and M. O'Brien

TBA...Have you ever heard or seen a comment about D/S from someone in the community that makes you scream, “This is justutter, utter garbage”? That recently happened to me.

An influencer in the dominant and submissive space shared that “real” dominants are all outgoing, charismatic, and magnetic. Rather than just sit back and think “I cannot believe they said that”, I thought, what if I am wrong and they are indeed right? So I started down the research rabbit hole of BDSM, D/S dynamics, introverts, extroverts, and magnetism vibes to find out what actual data, from scientific studies, showed. Well, the results are in.

So is it true that “real” dominants are all rocking an outgoing and magnetic vibe? Just press play and find the answers.

Hey there, come on over and join me for a chat about collars. No, no, not the one your pet wears unless your pet is an amazingperson who just happens to be submissive. For some collars are simple yet deeply meaningful, while others build a detailed process, but as with everything in D/S, there is no right or wrong answer. Heck, a collar in BDSM might symbolize something entirely different than a dynamic. This episode is one you do not want to miss, even if it is for the answer to one question: How can a collar tell someone they have a 'cheap' dominant?

“So tell me what you want, what you really, really want,” exclaimed the Spice Girls back in ’96, and sadly, almost thirty years later, many of still us suddenly get shy when it comes to telling someone what we really, really want, especially when it comes to BDSM, D/S, and kink. Perhaps it is because we think those things we really, really want are so unique that others would not want them. We fill our minds with worry, wondering if we shared it, the answer would be “no”. Plus the fear that this no would also lead to possibly having the person we shared it with no longer see us as desirable. The truth is fetishes, sexual fantasies, and all things kinktastic that we might hesitate to share are shared by thousands who never speak about them. Discover just how common our naughty sides are, and next time you look around at your co-workers, you will be wondering which ones are into this too!

How did you discover BDSM?
My story began with an ancient Roman historian, hunger pangs, a taco craving, and a healthy dose of naivety. Then came the moment I ran into a professor at what seemed like the wrong place (a porn store) at the wrong time. As if there is ever a good time to see a professor in a porn shop, color me mortified.
Discover how Tacitus, tacos, and fate brought me to the BDSM community in ways I never saw coming. Tune in to hear how it all connects in this BDSM podcast episode and prepare to be surprised by the most unlikely path into D/S.

Just a quick update following one of the most amazing birthday weekends.