Big Idea - Is it possible that you can go to Jesus and ask for help, and He would turn you away without considering your request and granting what you ask? If we ask that question based on our own experience, we will probably say "yes." We may have turned to God many times in prayer, asking for His help, and feel that He never answered our prayers. But, if we base our answer on the life of Jesus in the Gospels, we would have to answer very differently. For in the Gospels, we find Jesus healing and helping all those who come to Him, seeking His help. That is what makes this story so shocking. In Mark 7, a woman comes to Jesus asking for Him to cast a demon out of her daughter, and it does not appear that He is going to help her. Jesus' reply to the woman seems so out of character and so unlike what we would expect Him to do. Why is Jesus so reluctant to help her? Is it because she is a Gentile? In the end, Jesus does help her, but why did He change His mind? We can find great encouragement in this story about what we can expect Jesus to do for us when we come to Him with our needs and how we can respond when it seems that we are not getting what we ask for!
The first question we need to answer is why Jesus is slow to help her in the first place. Many people believe the problem is that the woman is a Gentile, and Jesus' ministry was only to the Jews. It is true that Jesus' ministry was almost exclusively to the Jews, but the fact that Mark connects this story with the previous account shows that the divide between Jews and Gentiles is being abolished by His coming. The main divide that separated Jews from Gentiles was the regulations regarding being clean and unclean. Jesus just declared that these things did not actually make you unclean. Rather, it was our sinful hearts that defiled us. Jesus effectively broke down that divide because all people, Jews and Gentiles alike, have the same sinful heart and nature. It is true that God's covenant plan was with Israel, but His covenant was never intended to exclude Gentiles. His promise to Abraham was that all the nations would be blessed through Him. Jesus came to fulfill that promise. Through His life, death, and resurrection, all the nations can now enter into a covenant relationship with God based on His shed blood. If Jesus is not helping her because she is a Gentile, then why is He slow to help? The reason is found in His purpose for coming to the region of Tyre. Jesus left Galilee to place away from the Jews to escape being noticed. He did not want anyone to know where He was or who He was. Ever since they heard the news of John the Baptist's death, Jesus and the disciples have been trying to get away to rest. But the crowds have made it impossible. Jesus needs time to rest, and He also wants to spend focused time teaching and encouraging the twelve. These true and committed followers are His first priority. It is strategic and critical that He equip and prepare them to take His mission forward, for Jesus knows His time with them is short. This is important not only for Israel but also for the world. So, when the woman comes, she is a major interruption to the time Jesus has planned with the twelve. Jesus is not wrong to make the "children" a priority and to delay giving help to the dogs. This is not as insulting as we might think. It is intended not to put her down but to illustrate the point that in a family, it would be wrong to feed your pet dog first, and if there is anything left over, then feed the kids! The kids come first. They are, rightfully, the first priority. This woman is not a disciple, but Jesus still puts her in the house, not outside. He is not saying He should never help her, only that His priority right now is His spiritual children who need His attention and care. In short, Jesus is essentially saying, "Right now is not a good time." Not because I don't want to help you but because I need to focus on more important things at the moment.
How do we respond when it seems Jesus is not interested in helping us? When we pray, does the help not come as quickly as we wanted? Maybe we just give up. We decide that prayer doesn't work, and God isn't actually all that interested in helping us. We do not see that great disconnect between what we expect Jesus to do in the Gospels and what we expect God to do in our own lives! It is unthinkable that Jesus would not help someone who comes to Him with their request. But, we all too easily give up on God answering our prayers. But this woman is not so easily put off. She does not give up. What can we learn from her when we ask and do not receive? She has a quick comeback to Jesus' reply, using the word picture Jesus painted. I may not be one of your kids, and I agree that I am not the first priority, but even the pet dog gets to eat the crumbs that drop from the table while the kids are eating. Her answer reveals two important truths that she believed about herself and about Jesus. The first is that she accepted that she had no right to Jesus' help. Unlike the Scribes who had convinced themselves they had earned acceptance by God, she comes with incredible humility, seeking Jesus' help based on mercy or grace, not as a right. She is not at the status of a child, but she seeks Jesus' help based on the belief that He is kind and caring. That He will extend grace to her because of her need. Second, her answer reveals her confidence in the great power of Jesus to do what she asked. She doesn't need much help, only a crumb. She protests that the help she is asking for is not hard for Jesus. It does not demand much of His time or effort. Jesus can help her without leaving the disciples. His help comes out of the overflow of His table! She is confident that Jesus will help her, first because of His great power to do what she needs and second because He is good and kind. He is not the kind of person who will turn away one who has come seeking His help. That is not who He is! Some scholars believe that Jesus does not help her right away as a means of drawing out her faith. It is not clear if that is Jesus' intention, but it certainly does have that result. We see in this Gentile woman a remarkable faith that persists until she gets what she is asking for.
This should be a great encouragement to us as we seek help from Jesus in prayer. We need to go to God in prayer with the belief that it is unthinkable that God would turn away anyone who is seeking His help. We should be as shocked by such a thought as we are at Jesus' response in this story. Jesus always helps those who seek Him. Indeed, He does! Second, when the answer is slow to come, we need to be convinced of two important truths. The first is that we have no right to His help. His help is all a matter of grace. Jesus does not help us because we are good enough or have done all the right things to merit an answer. He helps us because of who He is: a kind and merciful God who graciously responds to those who humbly seek Him. At the same time, we should be greatly encouraged that we are not merely a pet dog in His house, but through Christ, we are indeed children and are, therefore, His greatest priority! Finally, we need to believe with all our hearts that the help we need is not hard for God. It is a mere crumb, and He will work for us all that we ask in faith, with no worry that He will run out. He helps us out of the overflow of His power and goodness.