Just when you thought everything was going good, nature throws you a curveball. What can you do when unforeseeable events like the COVID-19 pandemic and government shutdown orders wreak havoc in your personal life and business.

 Life is filled with uncertainty and worries about the future. While many things remain outside your control, your mindset is key to coping with difficult circumstances and confidently facing the unknown. Uncertainty is all around us, never more so than today. Whether it concerns a global pandemic, the economy, or your finances, health, much of what lies ahead in life remains uncertain. Yet as human beings, we crave security. We want to feel safe and have a sense of control over our lives and well-being.

 Fear and uncertainty can leave you feeling stressed, anxious, and powerless over the direction of your life. It can drain you emotionally and trap you in a downward spiral of endless “what-ifs” and worst-case scenarios about what tomorrow may bring. We’re all different in how much uncertainty we can tolerate in life. Some people seem to enjoy taking risks and living unpredictable lives, while others find the randomness of life deeply distressing. But all of us have a limit. If you feel overwhelmed by uncertainty and worry, it’s important to know that you’re not alone; many of us are in the same boat. It’s also important to realize that no matter how helpless and hopeless you feel, there are steps you can take to better deal with uncontrollable circumstances, alleviate your anxiety, and face the unknown with more confidence. While we may not wish to acknowledge it, uncertainty is a natural and unavoidable part of life. 

Very little about our lives is constant or totally certain, and while we have control over many things, we can’t control everything that happens to us. As the coronavirus pandemic demonstrated, life can change very quickly and very unpredictably. One day things may be just fine, the next you’ve suddenly become sick, lost your job, or found yourself struggling to put food on the table or provide for your family. To cope with all this uncertainty, many of us use worrying as a tool for trying to predict the future and avoid nasty surprises. Worrying can make it seem like you have some control over uncertain circumstances. You may believe that it will help you find a solution to your problems or prepare you for the worst. Maybe if you just agonize over a problem long enough, just think through every possibility, or read every opinion online, you’ll find a solution and be able to control the outcome. Unfortunately, none of this works. Chronic worrying can’t give you more control over uncontrollable events; it just robs you of enjoyment in the present, saps your energy, and keeps you up at night. But there are healthier ways to cope with uncertainty—and that begins with adjusting your mindset.

Leave a comment & review the episodes if you could resonate with what I share :) I would really appreciate that. 

Thank you & have a great day. 

Do what you hate to succeed -

I know its a controversial topic but think about it, things we hate to do are the things which helps us to succeed . Not the things that make you happy . I am sure that some of you don’t like the way I phrased this topic and that’s OK because it’s the exact opposite of what we’ve been taught all our lives: “just do what you love and you will be happy” and we generally don’t like when our fundamental beliefs are challenged. Things we hate are outside our comfort zone thats where success lies. Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to get what we do want.

“Doing what you love” sounds like a good advice at first, but it does not help us lead a happy or successful life. In fact, it will often do the opposite.

To feel happy, there is much more to it than just doing the things you enjoy. We enjoy eating junkfood or food that isn’t exactly the best, instead of watching our diet; we prefer to watch a movie or play videogames instead of tackling the tough math problem for our exam; and watching YouTube videos, spending time on social media or having a few (too many) drinks with our friends is generally more pleasurable than a hard gym workout or a 10k run in the cold.

Having said that, there is surely a place for leisure time and we don’t only have to go through our lives like robots, running from achievement to achievement. But if you have big dreams and goals and you find yourself complaining often, this episode is for you.

Why You Should Do It

Life has it’s ups and downs as we all know. However, I see many people denying the downs and not willing to face them or deal with them. You can’t do that. You have to properly deal with whatever it is you’re going through in order to successfully come out the other end as a better person and more learned individual.

In addition, to expand on this further, when it comes to accomplishing goals and achieving your dreams, not every part of that path will be fun, or easy.

There’s a lot of crap to wade through when you’re going through life. You have to understand that it’s happening for a reason; the hard parts, the difficult times, the struggle is all teaching you what you need to know to get to the finish.

Some Examples of Embracing the Suck From My Own Life

Allow me to explain using a few examples from my own life.  I’m not saying I’m super successful, but to get to where I am today, I’ve had to do what I hate over and over again.

I don’t like to go to the gym but if I don’t I gain weight,

I don’t like to talk a lot but if I don’t I don’t change my life..

I don’t like to go out much as an introvert or meet people, but if I don’t I don’t meet new people or create association which will help me in the future.

Most breakout success comes from going AGAINST the conventional wisdom of the day.

Ignore how others think something should be done — do what’s authentic to you and learn from your mistakes.

There are no “rules,” so don’t worry about them. Make your own.

Because that’s what successful people do.

Its March already, you have 10 months left in 2021 including this 15 days . Plenty of time for you to improve your mindset, learn a new skill, change your routine, increase your income, lose weight, gain muscle & whatever goals that you set for yourself, go for it. Until next time Cheers from me!

Change your life by doing CTA not call to action by the way but

Clarity of Thoughts

Clarity of Communication

Clarity of Action

This episode is like the sequel of the last one. With just CTA we can actually change our life to 10x… Just thin about this , Every action or choices you make is based on your beliefs & values , is it not? Your life is transforming based on that 2 factors, your beliefs & values, depending on your early life experiences & association these factors gets stronger. Good news is you can change those beliefs & values to enhance your life through CTA - Clarity of thoughts, communication & action.

As I was sitting here this morning I began thinking about what it is that separates the haves from the have-nots.  I don’t necessarily mean the rich and famous and I definitely don’t mean those that have been handed their defined success on a silver platter.  The category of people who I am talking about are the people who have worked hard for what they have achieved in life.

As I pondered, it became crystal clear to me that clarity of thought catapults the “haves” to their own defined level of success.  What do I mean by that?  I mean that they had a very clear idea of what they wanted to carry out.  The more the idea became clear, it then became a vision in their heads.  They could clearly see where they were going.  The more clarity of the vision, the more defined their purpose became.  What you will find is that when all three of these pieces (thought, vision, purpose) come into play, your focus shifts to the attainment of your goals.  You began to ask “how do I make it happen?”

Questions  That Lead to Clarity

But sometimes getting to that clarity of thought is the problem.  That’s when it may become necessary to talk it out with someone who can bring objectivity to the table and someone who has no preconceived notions about your idea or situation.  What you may discover is that your perceived goal is not your “real” goal.  However, as the process of discovery continues, the clarity methodically surfaces.

As a life coach, I help to bring razor-sharp focus on the steps necessary to meet your goals.  I just love it when, through the coaching process, clients reach way down and discover the missing piece of the plan.  Helping to bring them to those “light bulb” moments has to be among the most rewarding things that I do.

Hello everyone, one of my suggested me to do an episode on a topic which is Clarity of thoughts - Boon or Bane ! So I will be sharing my thoughts on this today..

“A problem well stated is a problem half solved” Charles Kettering

Lately I’ve been doing a lot of thinking around thinking.

Particularly around mental clarity and the clearness/intentionality with which I approach my day to day actions, projects, companies, etc. I feel like there’s been something really missing there — when you’re in the trenches and just doing the work, things can get really monotonous and just rote. It’s useful then, sometimes, to take a step back and re-evaluate things.

Re-evaluate the big picture of whatever it is I’m doing. Like the classic Steve Jobs quote goes:

“I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”

I feel that somewhere along the lines I’ve lost touch with myself. Or maybe I never really WAS in touch with myself. I’ve been meaning for ages to sit down and pen a reflection — a reflection of where I am, what I’m interested in, why I’m interested in them, my thesis, my ideas and putting this all together into a life “ethos” or mission so-to-speak.

What seems clear in your head is not clear.  What you can write out and it still remains clear… this is clarity of thought. If you talk about it its a dream, if you envision it its possible, but if you schedule it its real.

Here’s a question for you.

Do you have a clear, calm mind for a lot of your day or do you find that on a daily basis your mind is generally cluttered with a whole load of ‘internal mind chatter’?

Perhaps random, pointless or unhelpful thoughts that just create ‘noise’ inside your head.

If you feel you have no clarity of thought work with a coach. One of the joys of working with a coach is you’re now on the fast track to clarity. And when you’re clear, everything else – beliefs, behaviours, decisions, actions, learning – falls into place. Life. Just. Flows.

When you’re unclear, it’s quite the opposite.

And notice now that when we don’t have the benefit of a thinking partner, holding the space and supporting our focus and attention, our efforts to think our way to clarity are heavily laboured, time- and energy-consuming processes that very often don’t achieve our ultimate result.

Unless the result we wanted was to stay stuck.

So, let’s change that approach and STOP THINKING our way to clarity; and instead, START ACTING our way there.

Practise noticing the stuckness, in the form of thinking. Practise noticing just how little action you’re in. And challenge yourself with the question: how can I test this thinking? How can I experiment? How can I have action lead the way – and leave my thinking to be an emergent follow-on?

Do it now: Choose an area of life or work in which you’re not where you want to be; where, in your own mind at least, you feel stuck. And now, create a small starter action that might just be the stepping stone you need towards the clarity you’d love to enjoy. Don’t labour over this: just set a small action – one you’ve probably thought of previously. And go for it, all-the-while monitoring the learning.

Stop thinking your way to clarity. Start acting. Its a boon if you start acting & its bane when you overthink it & not taking action.

Self Worth vs Net worth … How self love directly influences your net worth?

What better topic to explore on this day as its Womens Day today than talking about Self Love!! we are often conditioned to put people's needs and happiness above ours and working towards everyone's comfort in the process forgetting who we truly are and what makes us happy! Self-love is not a one-size-fits-all formula that fixes self-doubt

Enough has been said and discussed about the importance of self-love and self-care in ... But it's very important to discuss these two in the life of a woman. Which is self love & Net Worth. Being independent is so important being a woman.

I started my career as an Image consultant, my job was to enhance the outward appearance to accentuate their job profile or their personality trait but as the years passed I realised & recognised a pattern among people , the way they dress depends on their self worth, it made me rethink the way I started connecting with my clients, from then on I started redefining their inner self to redefine their new YOU!!

Bcoz of this pandemic, many of them have lost their self worth & are confused how to start fresh. Welcome to the “New Normal” of work, making money, & creating success.

We have moved in just a few years from an age of affluence when the stock market was booming , the unemployment rate was below 5% & people were becoming millionaires & billionaires all around us, to a new age of turbulence, when all bets are off. Today the economic situations has changed completely & it is not going to change back in our life times.

We are going through a massive paradigm shift. When a shift like this in thinking or in society takes place, only in few people recognise that is occurring. Most people are stuck in a comfort zone where they keep on ding the same old things in the same old way, simply assuming that the economic & financial melt down was a bump in the road & then everything will soon get back to normal.

They are right in a way but the definition of normal has changed. From this day forward if you want to succeed & achieve everything that is possible for you, you are going to have to work smarter & more diligently than ever before. To move to the top of the field you are going to have to start a little earlier, work a little harder & stay a little later.

The race is on.

You are earning today exactly the amount that you have decided to earn, no more & no less. You are where you are financially because you have chosen to be there. Only you. No one else.

You have decided to earn this amount as a result of your actions & as a result of your inactions. There are specific actions you have taken to get your income to the point where it is today. And there are actions that you failed to take that have caused your income to stay far below what you are truly capable of earning. Whatever you are earning today, you have decided to earn that amount.

When I first heard this, that I was determining my own income, I was shocked & angry. I denied it vigorously “thats not true, I said “no-one would choose to earn this amount, & worry about money all the time”.

I blamed my low income to my parents, my education, my husband, my industry, my competition & of course the government & the economy. Then i looked around me & I realised that there were hundreds & even thousands of people who had the same problems & limitations did but who were earning far more than I was & living much better lives.

I finally accepted that I was where I was & what I was because of me, nobody else. It was my responsibility . If I was not happy about my life &. My income there was only one person in the world who could change it - ME.

POWER OF WORDS - Figure Your Speech

Hello everyone, its so good to be back after a hiatus… & hope all is well from your side!

This episode is all about How we can harness the unique power of words to motivate & inspire as an entrepreneur…

This topic is dear to me because, by using power of thoughts & power of words I have transformed my life completely from the scratch without nothing, from being a shy, introvert with zero credibility , low self confidence, to become an entrepreneur of 4 companies, an author of 3 books, investor, online trader… I deeply truly believe in power of words can mould your future what you desire for…

Do you know of those people who fly off the handle without stopping to think about the consequences of what they're saying? Someone who just reacts to something someone said or did and starts attacking that person with cruel accusations? The damage could be so profound, it will forever sever the relationship. In business, this could forever impact a career in a negative way.

You’ve probably observed this in others many times. Maybe even in yourself. Whether it’s at work, with friends or in some type of social situation, many people speak their minds before thinking. There are many who “fly off the handle” and don’t stop to think about the repercussions of their words. I cringe when this happens because I know people are going to get hurt, and later on people will be sorry for what they said. But the damage is done.

Let me echo what Gandhi once said, “Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.”

Words influence others and build relationships at work and personally. They can tear down relationships. Simply put, language holds massive, colossal power to manifest change, whether it’s good or bad.

We can take this a step further and say: “Speak every word you say in life as though it were your last.”

Sometimes, it might be best to not say anything at all. I was always told that if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything.

As Benjamin Franklin said, “Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”

Choose the words that you speak very carefully because they have the potential of accomplishing nearly anything or destroying nearly anything. Just one negative comment can ruin a person’s day. A few might even ruin the person’s life. On the flip side, one positive and encouraging comment can be just enough to increase employee engagement, create healthier cultures and make more of a difference in an individual's life than you will ever know. We tend to overlook the small things in life.

The way you speak -- the attitude and tone -- reflects the person you are and impacts everything around you. It can greatly contribute to your success or “non-success” both in business and your personal life. So next time, think before you speak. It will make all the difference.

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Optimise Your Life for 2021

Many people I know are on a quest to optimize their lives — some of my favorite people in the world will spend days trying to perfect a productivity system, get things automated, or find the perfect software for anything they’re doing. They are on a continual search for the perfect diet, the perfect work routine, the perfect travel setup.

Optimizing can take quite a bit of time and energy.

What would happen if we let go of optimizing? Who would we be without the idea that we should optimize everything?

One idea is that if we decided not to optimize everything, we’d stop caring, stop trying to make things better, and live suboptimal lives. But I know myself pretty well — I will always care, even if I am not trying to optimize. I will always do my best, which is different than optimizing — it’s taking care and giving love, even if things aren’t optimized. I believe most of you are this way, pouring your hearts into something with pure love, without needing to make everything perfect.

Have you heard about this term CARPE DIEM- which means Seize the life, or seize the day…

Lets talk about the phrase carpe diem—seize the day. The more accurate translation would be “Pluck the day”—as in: it’s ripe and ready to enjoy!

But, here’s the deal.

We can’t actually pluck or seize a DAY.

We can only pluck or seize (or squander) the MOMENT. Which means Carpe Punctum.

We all are aware of the fact how stressful it can be when we try to perfect our day or how depressing it can be seeing others the so called perfect life shown in social media.

Last week, I heard these gorgeous words on the radio:

‘It’s not about the length, it’s about the depth, it’s not about the minutes, it’s about the moments.’*

Gorgeous right. Then yesterday, I was reading  Dan Millman’s book, The Twelve Gateways to Freedom.  I have devoured his words before and will do so again. He’s an absolute gem of motivation, inspiration and personal growth.

In it, he talks about carpe punctum … seizing the moment.

Carpe diem is normally the phrase that we know and use. Seize the day. But how can you seize a day? An entire day? You can’t. You can however cease moments.

Carpe punctum is a reminder to live each day fully. Life is a series of moments and it’s the quality of each moment that determines the quality of our lives. Living in the moment makes our lives simpler and at the same time richer. It’s about accepting what life throws at us with poise and grace, dealing with every scenario in the best way we can and remembering every little moment that every little moment counts. Whatever we decide to do with each moment, once it’s gone, it’s gone forever.

The brilliant Abraham Maslow said that each moment presents us with an opportunity, one where we can either step forward into growth or step back into safety.

Which one will you choose? Carpe Diem or Carpe Punctum.

In a blink of an eye its December & its a wrap of 2020. As 2020 comes to a close, it brings with it a promising beginning. As we look ahead to a more optimistic tomorrow it is important to reflect on the year thats been so as to carry toward all the hard hitting life lessons it has taught us.

But you must be thinking yeah yeah chitra we all understand about being optimistic & hopeful for the coming year but you have no idea what I have been through, & I resist being optimistic or hopeful about anything . I hear you!! Trust me…. Everything has a solution when you have a bigger perspective . When we change our thinking mindset attitude everything changes, & it all starts with tiny habits which will give remarkable results in everything you aspire to achieve.

This episode is all about how your habits can shape your future, your identity & your success.

Happy December ✨ 1 more month to go for 2021 ..

What would you step up & attempt that you have been contemplating of doing & becoming for time immemorial. 

What is that one big dream that you are nurturing but not acting upon? That one crazy idea that you day dream about, that one dream that you will trade anything for?

Every story begins with a dream & ends with a legacy. But what transpires in between makes your story truly inspiring, a story full of passion, of vision, of inspiration , of aspiration , of learnings, of teachings, of milestones, or setbacks & above all of that dream come true....

Do not procrastinate , its my humble request...

Instead I encourage you to do whatever it takes to transcend from being ordinary to extraordinary , this is the genesis of a true thought leader after all. 

And I am proud to be your partner in this beautiful journey of your transcendence....

Have a great week & a happy new year 2021... LET'S MAKE IT HAPPEN. 

Success Mindset -

What goes on in our minds affects everything, and I mean everything, including how much money we have.

I know this for a fact because when I first started out, I worked hard, but I just couldn’t build a profitable business. Then, one day, when I was reading an autobiography of Steve jobs I realised  rich people have a certain mindset and to be successful, I needed to adopt that mindset, too.

With nothing to lose, I dove into studying the psychology of the wealthiest people in the world. rich people really do think differently!

Success and happiness are all about mindset. What you think you become.

Your mindset doesn’t just affect how you see the world. It shapes your responses and actions even if you don’t realize it.

Developing the right mindset is crucial to succeeding in anything. Here’s how to upgrade yours.

My name is Chitra Balasubramaniam, I am a quantum leap coach, entrepreneur, author of 3 books, founder of 3 companies, online Gold trader, mentor at cherie Blair foundation UK, a wife, mother of 2 beautiful boys. I create #SHEpreneurs meaning Successful High Earning entrepreneurs through my quantum success programs.

What is a mindset?

A mindset is a frame of mind. It’s the sum of beliefs, opinions, and thoughts that you formed about the world and yourself. Think of your mindset as a lens through which you filter reality.

Our education, religion, upbringing, and experience shape our beliefs and thoughts. That’s why our mindset is a fixed state of mind — we have our mind “set.” Thus, determine how you perceive and react to specific events.

Napoleon Hill said, “There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge. Both poverty and riches are the offspring of thought.”

Mindsets can change, but they tend to change slowly. It’s easier to correct our attitude than our mindset.

An attitude is a short-term reaction shaped by our mindset. It is a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something specific.

A mindset is a collection of beliefs and thoughts that shape your thought habits. They impact how you make sense of the world (and yourself).

An attitude has a short-term impact. That’s why they are easier to modify. Our mindsets are deeply ingrained in our beliefs. They require extra effort to change them.

“Your mindset is a fixed mental disposition that predetermines our responses to and interpretations of situations. Your mindset filters reality.”

Your mindset predetermines your interpretations and responses. It shapes your relationship with the world and with yourself. Choose your mindset wisely. You can create positive consequences instead of negative ones.

Success is not an action that you take, it’s a way of life. If you want to accomplish great things, greatness must be reflected in everything that you do.

Thus, regardless of what it is you want to accomplish, the path to success must begin by adopting the right mindset.

I am a strong believer that success and happiness are all about mindset. Your mindset and belief system affect everything in your life from what you think and feel to what you do and how you react to the world around you.

In order to achieve your goals, your mindset needs to match your aspirations, otherwise it will hold you back from being successful in your endeavours.

I can tell you for sure that mastering your mind WILL change your life.

Need more proof? I’ve got plenty. 

Listen fully to the podcast to know more!!