Ellen Boeder, psychotherapist and co-founder of The Relationship School, breaks down what shared leadership actually looks like in intimate partnerships—and why it's more complex than most couples realize. Drawing from decades of work with couples and her own marriage to co-founder Jason Gaddis, Ellen reveals the nuanced skills required to move beyond traditional power dynamics toward true collaboration.

This conversation tackles the real challenges couples face: navigating different processing speeds during urgent decisions, honoring each other's natural paces while still making progress together, and the delicate art of inviting growth without forcing change. Ellen shares practical insights on how to value your partner's differences as system assets rather than obstacles, and why talking about your relationship itself—not just complaining about each other—is crucial for long-term success.

We explore what happens when one partner grows and evolves while the other seems to stay the same, the importance of "changing the terms" with empathy rather than judgment, and how couples working together in business must remember that partners always want to be treated like partners first. Ellen's perspective challenges the common belief that compromise is the goal, instead advocating for creative solutions that honor both people's needs and values.

Whether you're navigating major life transitions, considering working with your spouse, or simply want to move beyond the exhausting cycle of trying to change each other, this episode offers a roadmap for building genuine partnership based on mutual respect, curiosity, and shared commitment to growth.

Michael Perry, CEO of Maple, shares his unfiltered perspective on the intersection of ambitious leadership and intentional parenting. In this raw conversation, Michael explores how becoming a father fundamentally shifted what he's "greedy" for - moving from chasing professional accolades to savoring fleeting moments with his 6 and 3-year-old sons.

We dive deep into Michael's philosophy of "doors that never reopen" - the reality that each phase of childhood closes permanently, creating an urgent need for presence. He reveals how this awareness shapes not only his personal choices but also how he's building Maple as a company that actively supports parents in prioritizing family without sacrificing professional growth.

Michael candidly discusses the "marathon investment approach" to life - understanding your capacity for carrying weight over time rather than pursuing unsustainable anti-fragility. He shares practical insights about creating high-trust remote work environments, reframing consequences as intentional investments, and the crucial difference between being in a relationship versus being in a true partnership when raising children.

This conversation challenges conventional wisdom about work-life balance, offering instead a framework for making intentional choices about where to invest our finite time and energy. Whether you're a parent, leader, or both, Michael's perspective on living with radical presence will shift how you think about success, legacy, and what deserves your deepest attention.

In this episode, Dave sits down with Ashley Chang, CEO of Sundays, just 10 days before she welcomed her first child. Ashley shares insights from working with hundreds of ambitious families as they navigate the intersection of career success and family life.

You'll discover:

• Why most families are still operating on "Windows 95" systems while facing modern pressures
• The two levels where successful families build systems: relationship-based support and scalable processes
• How to overcome the internal resistance that prevents leaders from delegating (even when they know they should)
• The difference between explicit vs. default responsibility sharing in partnerships
• Why having a "third party" presence improves family dynamics and accountability
• Ashley's transition from achievement-oriented mindset to presence-focused parenting

Ashley reveals what she's observed across hundreds of executive families - from the patterns that create overwhelm to the systems that actually work. Whether you're struggling with the weekly squeeze of competing priorities or looking to design more intentional family rhythms, this conversation offers practical frameworks from someone who's made it her mission to help ambitious parents have it all.

In this episode, Dave introduces a powerful visual metaphor that has transformed how he navigates difficult moments - both as a parent and a professional. The Daisy Method offers a more compassionate approach to our inevitable departures from centeredness and provides practical strategies for returning more quickly.

We all have moments when patience dissolves and our best self temporarily vanishes. In these moments, we're most vulnerable to saying or doing things we later regret. But what if we stopped expecting ourselves to remain perpetually centered and instead focused on how quickly we return?

Dave shares a personal story about being locked out of his flat in Spain, three practical strategies to "shorten your petals," and a simple exercise that has helped countless coaching clients develop a healthier relationship with their emotional patterns.

Whether you're juggling leadership responsibilities at work or navigating the complexities of family life, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it means to thrive as an imperfect human in a challenging world.

In this insightful episode, Dave Inglis introduces the concept of "The Scaffolding Trap" – a pattern where leaders invest tremendous energy building elaborate systems around problems rather than addressing their foundations.

Drawing from his experience coaching executives and couples, Dave reveals how our most conscientious efforts can sometimes serve as sophisticated avoidance strategies. He explores why we often choose complexity over conversation, and the significant costs this approach creates in both professional and personal spheres.

In this episode, Dave explores a powerful insight for leaders feeling stuck despite their best efforts: sometimes the issue isn't how you're playing the game, but which game you've chosen to play. Through the story of a high-achieving mortgage broker who transformed his life by changing where he played rather than how he approached his work, Dave reveals the importance of questioning our fundamental environments rather than just our tactics.

Learn the key signs that indicate it's time to redraw the "bright lines" in your life - those boundaries that define your playing field - and discover a simple exercise to explore alternative environments that might better align with your definition of winning. Whether in business, relationships, or personal growth, sometimes the bravest strategic choice isn't figuring out how to win at the game you're playing, but having the courage to play a different game altogether.

In this episode, Dave shares a transformative experience from his recent solitude retreat in Mallorca, Spain. While hiking the iconic GR-221 trail, a moment of frustration became a powerful lesson in self-trust. Dave explores how we habitually outsource our trust to external sources—apps, experts, advisors—and the profound cost of this pattern in our leadership, creativity, and personal growth.

Dave reveals the critical difference between seeking expertise and surrendering our internal guidance system. He challenges listeners to recognize where they might be unconsciously giving away their trust and offers insights on reclaiming the courage to do our original work.

In a world increasingly dominated by artificial intelligence, our authenticity becomes our most valuable asset—but only if we trust ourselves enough to express it. Whether you're leading a team, building a business, or navigating your personal life, this episode offers a compelling invitation to ask yourself: "What do I know I need to do but for whatever reason I'm not ready?"

In this episode, Dave explores the delicate art of helping others move through denial—and recognizing it in ourselves. Starting with a personal story about his daughter's academic struggles after their family's move to Spain, Dave reveals how his initial frustration transformed into a profound insight about human change.

You'll discover the crucial difference between creating tension between people (which builds resistance) versus illuminating tension within someone (which sparks transformation). Through candid stories of his own experiences with denial—from financial habits to business failures to personal relationships—Dave shares practical wisdom for parents and leaders alike.

Learn the three powerful approaches that actually work when supporting someone through denial, how to identify your own blind spots, and why denial isn't a stubborn wall but rather a temporary shelter on the path to growth. Whether you're raising teenagers or leading teams, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on how change really happens.

In this episode, Dave shares insights from Las Fallas, Valencia's ancient festival where magnificent sculptures are meticulously created only to be ceremonially burned. Drawing parallels between this ritual and our modern lives, Dave explores how we've abandoned ceremonial practices that help us process significant transitions.

He argues that without intentional ceremonial containers, we risk recycling old patterns rather than evolving. Through personal stories about "strategic solitude" and fire ceremonies, Dave explains how transformation requires more than intellectual understanding—it demands embodied experience, witnessed by community.

Whether you're navigating relationship challenges, career transitions, or personal evolution, this episode will inspire you to reconsider the power of ceremony as a forgotten leadership tool that can help you release what no longer serves you and create space for meaningful growth.

Why do we often neglect coaching our top performers? In this episode, Dave Inglis explores the counterintuitive truth that our highest achievers—whether team members or children—don't need less support, but a different kind of coaching altogether.

Discover why leaders avoid coaching high performers (hint: it's not about them), what these stars actually need that they cannot provide themselves, and the powerful question that will transform how you support excellence. Learn how to cultivate self-trust in those who excel and why this might be the most important leadership skill you're not practicing.

Whether you're leading a team or raising children, this episode will change how you think about supporting those who shine brightest.