Fertility Cafe

Childfree By Choice


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What does it mean to consciously choose not to have children, especially in a culture that often defines womanhood by motherhood?

In this episode of Fertility Café, host Eloise Drane welcomes back filmmaker Chiquita Lockley, creator of the documentary Eggs Over Easy: Black Women & Fertility. This time, Chiquita shares her personal journey and decision to live childfree by choice. It is a thoughtful, often emotional, and deeply grounded conversation about identity, legacy, caregiving, and the path not taken.

With clarity and compassion, Chiquita speaks about what it means to opt out of motherhood on her own terms, while still living a life rich in love, purpose, and community. The conversation invites listeners to reflect honestly on their own desires, pressures, and timelines.

Whether you are questioning your path, navigating reproductive decisions, or seeking affirmation for a choice that goes against the grain, this episode offers space to breathe and consider what a full life looks like for you.

You’ll Learn

  • What distinguishes being childfree from being childless, and why the difference matters
  • How Chiquita’s thinking shifted over time through research, health challenges, and aging
  • The emotional weight of redefining motherhood and letting go of a lifelong checklist
  • Why caregiving does not require parenting, and how mentorship and godparenting fill her cup
  • What legacy means beyond biological children
  • Common misconceptions about childfree women, including the myth of selfishness
  • Practical and emotional advice for those in a space of uncertainty or transition
  • About Our Guest

    Chiquita Lockley is a writer, filmmaker, and producer known for her feature documentary Eggs Over Easy: Black Women & Fertility, which aired on the Oprah Winfrey Network. Her work centers on storytelling that uplifts Black women’s experiences and expands the public understanding of reproductive health and autonomy.

    She continues to serve as a mentor, advocate, and board chair for multiple nonprofit and creative initiatives. Her voice is a vital part of the cultural shift toward more inclusive and informed conversations about fertility, family, and freedom.

    Resources & Links

    Visit Chiquita’s Website: www.chiquitalockley.com
    Follow Chiquita on Instagram: @chiquitalockley

    Watch and learn more about Eggs Over Easy: www.eggsovereasyfilm.com
    Follow Eggs Over Easy on Instagram: @eggsovereasyfilm
    Like Eggs Over Easy on Facebook: Eggs Over Easy Film

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