Have you ever said something you immediately regretted? A few careless words can damage a relationship, start an argument, or change the direction of your life. But the right words can encourage someone, strengthen their faith, and help them discover Jesus Christ. Learning to use our words wisely is one of the most practical ways we can bless the people around us.In James 3:1–12, Pastor Chris Teien explores the incredible power of our words and why learning to control our tongues is an essential part of Christian maturity. Through practical illustrations involving Bible teachers, horses, ship rudders, forest fires, and everyday conversations, discover how your words reveal what's happening in your heart and how God can help you use them wisely.IN THIS MESSAGE
1. OUR WORDS HAVE THE POWER TO INFLUENCE OTHERSThe things we say can encourage someone to pursue God's calling or discourage them from taking a step of faith. James begins by warning that those who teach God's Word will be judged more strictly because their words influence what others believe and how they live.Pastor Chris explains why pastors, teachers, and small group leaders must handle Scripture carefully, understand its context, and avoid presenting personal opinions as biblical truth. He encourages believers to use trustworthy study resources, including Bible commentaries, cross-references, and GotQuestions.org, rather than pretending to know every answer. Our goal isn't simply to know more about the Bible but to help others know Jesus, grow in faith, and become disciples who make disciples. (James 3:1; Matthew 28:19–20)
2. OUR WORDS REVEAL OUR IMPERFECTIONSNobody speaks perfectly all the time. James reminds us that everyone makes mistakes and that controlling our tongues is an important measure of spiritual maturity.Drawing on his experience in customer service, Pastor Chris explains how preparing to handle angry people can help us respond without making a difficult situation worse. When unexpected criticism or conflict comes from someone close to us, however, we can easily react with harsh words. Learning to listen, seek clarification, acknowledge mistakes, and apologize can prevent unnecessary damage. (James 3:2; Proverbs 17:28)
3. OUR WORDS HAVE THE POWER TO STEER THE COURSE OF OUR LIVESA small bit can guide a powerful horse, and a relatively small rudder can steer a large ship even when strong winds are blowing. James uses these illustrations to show how something as small as the tongue can have an enormous influence on our direction.Pastor Chris explains how carefully chosen words can open doors, strengthen relationships, and encourage others to make wise decisions. Careless or angry words can just as quickly damage a career, destroy trust, or lead us somewhere we never intended to go. A gentle response can calm a disagreement, while harsh words can make it worse. (James 3:3–5; Proverbs 15:1)
4. OUR WORDS CAN CAUSE DAMAGE AND DESTRUCTIONA tiny spark can ignite an enormous forest fire. In the same way, gossip, exaggeration, accusations, and angry words can spread rapidly and cause damage far beyond the original conversation.Pastor Chris warns that spiritually unhealthy attitudes can make people especially vulnerable to spreading rumors and creating conflict. James also reminds us that although human beings can train many kinds of animals, the tongue remains extraordinarily difficult to control. We need God's help to recognize harmful speech, resist the temptation to retaliate, and take responsibility when our words hurt others. (James 3:5–8)
5. OUR WORDS CAN PRAISE GOD OR CURSE OTHERSHow can we praise Jesus during worship and then use the same mouth to insult, gossip about, or curse people made in God's image?James compares our speech to springs of water and fruit-bearing trees. A spring cannot consistently provide both fresh and salty water, and a tree produces fruit according to its nature. Pastor Chris explains that our words reveal the condition of our hearts. If we want lasting change in our conversations, we need the Holy Spirit to continue transforming us from the inside out. (James 3:9–12; Luke 6:45)PUTTING FAITH INTO PRACTICEThink about the conversations you've had recently. Have your words encouraged others, strengthened relationships, and honored Jesus? Or have you exaggerated stories, repeated gossip, spoken harshly, or said things you wish you could take back?Ask the Holy Spirit to help you recognize areas where your speech needs to change. When you're upset, take time to understand what someone actually meant before responding. When you've said something wrong, offer a sincere apology instead of making excuses or blaming the other person.Be especially careful when talking about other people or sharing God's Word. Verify information before repeating it, seek clarification when something sounds questionable, and make sure your words reflect both truth and grace.Remember that controlling your tongue isn't simply about developing better communication habits. Jesus Christ changes our hearts, and as we grow in our relationship with Him, the Holy Spirit helps us become more patient, truthful, gracious, and encouraging.
Your words can build someone up or tear someone down. Ask God to transform your heart, help you control your tongue, and use your words to encourage others, speak the truth, and bring glory to Jesus Christ.26.1025de Helping you understand and apply God’s Word. Find sermon transcripts and more ways to listen at Well.faith. Explore more faith and ministry resources at ChrisTeien.com and Rockwell.church. Questions or feedback? Email
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