Have you ever felt that little sting when another woman wins — that moment when you want to celebrate her, but something inside of you whispers, “What about me?”

Sis… you’re not alone.

In this final episode of our Self-Worth Series, we’re having a real, grown-woman conversation about community over competition — and how to genuinely cheer for other women without feeling smaller in the process.

Because here’s the truth:When you know who you are in Christ, you can clap for someone else without questioning your own worth. 🙌🏾

Join us as we:✨ Talk about how comparison quietly kills confidence✨ Learn how to celebrate other women from a place of security, not scarcity✨ Discuss why sisterhood in the Kingdom is not a competition — it’s a collaboration✨ Share practical ways to build community that uplifts and empowers

The world tells us that another woman’s success is a threat.But in the Kingdom? Her success is proof that God is in the neighborhood. 💜

Let’s redefine what it means to be a confident woman of faith — one who celebrates, supports, and stands beside her sisters, not in competition but in community.

🎧 Tune in to Church Girl Chats — Community Over Competition: How to Celebrate Other Women Without Shrinking.Now streaming on Substack, YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

As women—especially church girls—we’ve been conditioned to say yes to everything. Yes to serving, yes to helping, yes to showing up… even when we’re exhausted and empty.

But what if your “no” is just as holy as your “yes”? 🙌🏾

In this powerful episode of our Self-Worth Series, we’re unpacking what it really means to set boundaries without guilt. Because healthy boundaries don’t separate you from people—they protect your peace and preserve your purpose.

Join us as we talk about:💜 The myth that good Christian women never say no💜 The difference between being helpful and being used up💜 How to protect your peace and energy without feeling selfish💜 Why Jesus modeled healthy boundaries—and so should we

This isn’t about pushing people away—it’s about walking in wisdom, protecting your assignment, and understanding that obedience to God sometimes means saying no to good things so you can say yes to the right ones.

If you’ve ever struggled with guilt, burnout, or people-pleasing, this episode is for you.Because sis, it’s time to take your peace back. 💪🏾

🎧 Tune in now to Church Girl Chats: The Power of No – Setting Boundaries Without Guilt.

Let’s be real, sis — most of us have spent years believing lies about who we are. Lies that say:“I’m not enough.”“I’m too much.”“I’ve missed my moment.”“I’ll never measure up.”

But here’s the good news — God’s truth always trumps the enemy’s lies. 🙌🏾

In this week’s episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re going deep into the process of renewing your mind and learning how to replace the lies you’ve believed with the truth of God’s Word. Because real transformation doesn’t start with a new wardrobe, a new man, or a new year — it starts with a renewed mind.

Join us as we:💜 Identify the common lies Christian women believe about self-worth and identity💜 Learn practical ways to renew our minds through scripture💜 Talk about why “positive thinking” isn’t enough — we need biblical truth💜 Share personal stories of how we replaced shame with grace and insecurity with identity

It’s time to stop letting the enemy narrate your story.You are who God says you are — not who your past, your pain, or people said you were.

So grab your notebook, open your Bible, and get ready for a truth detox.Because this episode will help you walk out of the lies and into your divine identity.

🎧 Tune in now to Church Girl Chats: Replacing the Lies with God’s Truth (Self-Worth Series, Part 2)

There’s a lot of talk these days about self-esteem — how to build it, protect it, and project it.

But what if the real power doesn’t start with self at all… what if it starts with God?

In this first episode of our Self-Worth Series, we’re diving deep into the difference between self-esteem and God-esteem — and why learning to see yourself through God’s eyes changes everything.

Because here’s the truth: you can read all the affirmations, repeat all the mantras, and still feel empty inside if your worth isn’t anchored in Him.

In this episode, Cheryl and Valerie open up about:

✨ Why “self-esteem” alone can’t heal what only God can restore

✨ How to stop chasing confidence and start walking in divine assurance

✨ Scriptures that reveal who you are in Christ — and why that’s the only identity that lasts

✨ Real talk about the inner battles we face as women trying to find balance, belonging, and belief in ourselves

This isn’t another motivational talk about loving yourself.

It’s an honest, Spirit-led conversation about what happens when you exchange self-worth for God-worth — and finally understand who you are, and Whose you are.

Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, rediscovering your purpose, or just tired of measuring yourself against the world’s standards, this episode will remind you that:

💜 You are chosen.

💜 You are called.

💜 You are crafted by God for something extraordinary.

Welcome to Part One of the Self-Worth Series — where we trade self-esteem for God-esteem, and learn to live anchored in who He says we are.

🎧 Listen now on Substack, YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

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Too many women walk away from friendships after conflict. But in Part Two of our Friendships Over 40 series, we’re talking about why authentic sisterhood is worth fighting for.

In this powerful episode, we:✅ Explore why so many women give up on friendships after conflict✅ Share practical steps for forgiveness and reconciliation✅ Talk about healthy boundaries vs. simply cutting people off✅ Share strategies for building new friendships and nurturing existing ones after 40✅ Highlight the role of prayer in protecting and strengthening sisterhood

This conversation is real, raw, and rooted in God’s Word. If you’ve ever struggled with friendships, forgiveness, or finding true community, this one’s for you.

Friendship isn’t always easy—but it is always worth the effort. This episode will encourage you to lean into love, forgiveness, and community in ways that bring healing and hope.

✨ If you missed Part One, make sure to go back and listen—it’s the foundation for this conversation!

Why do friendships feel harder as we get older? In Part One of our Friendships Over 40 series, we’re diving into what authentic sisterhood really looks like for Christian women today.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the beauty and power of authentic sisterhood for Christian women. Friendships may look different after 40, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less important—or that they can’t be deep, life-giving, and God-centered.

Join us as we:✅ Talk about how friendships shift after 40✅ Define what makes a friendship authentic vs. surface-level✅ Explore the role of church culture in helping (or hurting) real connections✅ Share our personal stories of sisterhood—the joys, the challenges, and the lessons

God never intended for us to walk alone. This conversation will remind you that authentic sisterhood is possible, powerful, and worth pursuing. 💜

✨ Don’t forget—this is just Part One! In Part Two, we’ll dive into conflict resolution, forgiveness, and how to fight for friendships instead of walking away.

🎙️✨ Season 2 of Church Girl Chats is here—and we’re starting with something BIG!

In this very first episode of Season 2, we’re pulling back the curtain to introduce you to the new co-host of Church Girl Chats! 💃🏾💜

Get ready for a fun, light-hearted, and joy-filled conversation where we:✅ Share the story of how God connected us for this new season of the podcast✅ Do a “getting-to-know-you” session with fun and faith-filled questions✅ Talk about the exciting new topics and series we’ll be covering this season—everything from faith and church culture to health, wellness, relationships, lifestyle, and purpose✅ Give you a sneak peek at how this new co-host dynamic will bring even more wisdom, laughter, and candid conversations

This episode is all about sisterhood, new beginnings, and the beauty of God’s timing. If you’ve ever wondered what happens when two bold, faith-filled women sit down at the mic together… this is the one you don’t want to miss.

✨ Whether you’re a long-time listener or brand new to the Church Girl Chats community, this is the perfect place to jump in.

Sis, who says you can’t travel like a queen on a budget? ✈️🌴

In this episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m joined by travel expert Carmen King to uncover the best budget-friendly summer travel destinations and insider tips for making your next trip unforgettable — without draining your wallet. Whether you’re planning a solo adventure, a girls’ getaway, or a family vacation, this conversation will give you the confidence (and hacks!) to book your next trip smart and stress-free.

✨ Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:

* Hidden gem destinations that are affordable and fabulous

* How to score cheap flights and hotel deals

* Tips for planning memorable trips without financial stress

* Creative ways to enjoy luxury travel on a modest budget

If you’ve been craving a summer escape but feeling the pinch of rising costs, this episode is packed with travel wisdom, inspiration, and practical strategies to help you experience more without overspending.

Sis, it’s time to pack light, pray over that itinerary, and get ready to enjoy a summer to remember — on a budget that blesses you. ☀️

Sis, who said budget-friendly meals can’t slap? 🍴✨

Welcome to Episode #1 of the Church Girl Chats Summer School Series — and we’re kicking things off with flavor, fun, and fellowship in the kitchen! I’m joined by the amazing Chef Sharon Watts of Copeland Culinary Eats, who shows us how to create fabulous summer meals on a budget that are quick, easy, and packed with joy.

This week’s menu will make your family run to the table:🍗 Chicken quesadillas with homemade pico de gallo🍓 Fresh fruit parfaits layered with homemade whipped cream💰 All made affordably — because great meals don’t have to break the bank!

Whether you’re a busy Christian woman looking for easy weeknight dinners, a foodie on a budget, or someone who just loves fresh, healthy summer recipes, this episode is filled with cooking tips, meal planning hacks, and God-honoring kitchen inspiration.

Because Sis, this isn’t just about food — it’s about fellowship, fun, and feeding your family with wisdom and joy. 🙌🏾

Sis… what if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t what you really need? ✨

You got the degree. You landed the job. You even leveled up your glow-up game. But if you’re honest, the insecurity still creeps in — because self-esteem built on shaky ground will always leave you empty.

In this soul-stirring episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re talking about God-Esteem — the kind of confidence that doesn’t crack when the mirror lies, the likes don’t come, or when people walk away. This conversation is a faith reset for every woman who’s tired of chasing validation and ready to rest in divine identity.

✨ Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

* Why self-esteem will always fall short without a spiritual foundation

* The difference between who you feel you are and who God says you are

* How to let go of worldly validation and walk confidently in your Kingdom identity

* What the Bible actually says about your value, beauty, and purpose

* How to live like a woman who knows she is fully known, fully loved, and fully called

This isn’t just motivation, Sis — it’s transformation. 💛Because your identity isn’t built on emotions or approval. It’s built on the eternal Word of God. You don’t have to earn your worth. You don’t have to hustle for acceptance. You are already chosen. Already loved. Already enough.