Church in the Valley - Ontario Ranch Campus

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Faulty communication habits create frustration and pain in our family circles. If our words are motivate by a desire to please ourselves and get what we want our “circle” is going to be a miserable, discouraging, defeating place to live. Gracious speech that aims to build others up creates a family atmosphere that fosters encouragement and growth.

Faulty communication habits create frustration and pain in our family circles. If our words are motivate by a desire to please ourselves and get what we want our “circle” is going to be a miserable, discouraging, defeating place to live. Gracious speech that aims to build others up creates a family atmosphere that fosters encouragement and growth.

Faulty communication habits create frustration and pain in our family circles. If our words are motivate by a desire to please ourselves and get what we want our “circle” is going to be a miserable, discouraging, defeating place to live. Gracious speech that aims to build others up creates a family atmosphere that fosters encouragement and growth.

God has given us various stewardships in life. He wants us to be faithful to handle them in a way that honors Him and there are boundaries to my stewardships – my stewardships are my responsibility before God and yours are yours, etc. The purpose of the family is to prepare and grow children into adulthood who carry the weight of their responsibilities well. Serious problems and dysfunction develops when I…

• Break through the proper boundaries in family relationships and…

o Obligate my family to come through for me and help me with my problems or stewardships (obligation kills relationships short-circuits gratitude = I’m not grateful for what’s expected)

o Step into rescue my family when they are working through their problems and challenges

• Act as if my extended family is obligated to do what I want them to

Everybody should be expected to carry their load as they are able– especially adults. The goal with our children is to prepare them to carry their responsibilities.

• Each of us has a circle of responsibility (things I’m responsible for in a given situation) and a circle of concern (things that are outside of my responsibility but that concern me)

• I take God’s place in the life of my family when I consistent step in and play God by handling what concerns me but is not my responsibility

• A key is to do what I need to do with my circle of responsibility and pray over my circle of concerns.

God has given us various stewardships in life. He wants us to be faithful to handle them in a way that honors Him and there are boundaries to my stewardships – my stewardships are my responsibility before God and yours are yours, etc. The purpose of the family is to prepare and grow children into adulthood who carry the weight of their responsibilities well. Serious problems and dysfunction develops when I…

• Break through the proper boundaries in family relationships and…

o Obligate my family to come through for me and help me with my problems or stewardships (obligation kills relationships short-circuits gratitude = I’m not grateful for what’s expected)

o Step into rescue my family when they are working through their problems and challenges

• Act as if my extended family is obligated to do what I want them to

Everybody should be expected to carry their load as they are able– especially adults. The goal with our children is to prepare them to carry their responsibilities.

• Each of us has a circle of responsibility (things I’m responsible for in a given situation) and a circle of concern (things that are outside of my responsibility but that concern me)

• I take God’s place in the life of my family when I consistent step in and play God by handling what concerns me but is not my responsibility

• A key is to do what I need to do with my circle of responsibility and pray over my circle of concerns.

God has given us various stewardships in life. He wants us to be faithful to handle them in a way that honors Him and there are boundaries to my stewardships – my stewardships are my responsibility before God and yours are yours, etc. The purpose of the family is to prepare and grow children into adulthood who carry the weight of their responsibilities well. Serious problems and dysfunction develops when I…

• Break through the proper boundaries in family relationships and…

o Obligate my family to come through for me and help me with my problems or stewardships (obligation kills relationships short-circuits gratitude = I’m not grateful for what’s expected)

o Step into rescue my family when they are working through their problems and challenges

• Act as if my extended family is obligated to do what I want them to

Everybody should be expected to carry their load as they are able– especially adults. The goal with our children is to prepare them to carry their responsibilities.

• Each of us has a circle of responsibility (things I’m responsible for in a given situation) and a circle of concern (things that are outside of my responsibility but that concern me)

• I take God’s place in the life of my family when I consistent step in and play God by handling what concerns me but is not my responsibility

• A key is to do what I need to do with my circle of responsibility and pray over my circle of concerns.

If we are not careful, we look to our family to meet our deepest needs – this is something only God can do. When we expect our family to come through for us and meet our needs, we drain the joy out of our family circle. We have deep needs for security and significance – these were meant to be met by God, not our family (or anyone else). Learning to deal with expectations in faith (not demanding is key to having healthy, growing family relationships. My circle gets is filled with un-pleasantries when I…

• Use others to meet my needs without considering them

• Intend to draw my resources for living from them, not from God

• Expect too much out of my spouse or children or siblings. Demanding that…

o They make us feel okay about ourselves (if they criticize, then BOOM!)

o Pump us up and feel important (and they don’t think much about us at all)

Genuine faith helps me to give my expectations to God as something I desire and focus on refreshing others.

If we are not careful, we look to our family to meet our deepest needs – this is something only God can do. When we expect our family to come through for us and meet our needs, we drain the joy out of our family circle. We have deep needs for security and significance – these were meant to be met by God, not our family (or anyone else). Learning to deal with expectations in faith (not demanding is key to having healthy, growing family relationships. My circle gets is filled with un-pleasantries when I…

• Use others to meet my needs without considering them

• Intend to draw my resources for living from them, not from God

• Expect too much out of my spouse or children or siblings. Demanding that…

o They make us feel okay about ourselves (if they criticize, then BOOM!)

o Pump us up and feel important (and they don’t think much about us at all)

Genuine faith helps me to give my expectations to God as something I desire and focus on refreshing others.

If we are not careful, we look to our family to meet our deepest needs – this is something only God can do. When we expect our family to come through for us and meet our needs, we drain the joy out of our family circle. We have deep needs for security and significance – these were meant to be met by God, not our family (or anyone else). Learning to deal with expectations in faith (not demanding is key to having healthy, growing family relationships. My circle gets is filled with un-pleasantries when I…

• Use others to meet my needs without considering them

• Intend to draw my resources for living from them, not from God

• Expect too much out of my spouse or children or siblings. Demanding that…

o They make us feel okay about ourselves (if they criticize, then BOOM!)

o Pump us up and feel important (and they don’t think much about us at all)

Genuine faith helps me to give my expectations to God as something I desire and focus on refreshing others.