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The Pharisees set a trap for Jesus, asking about divorce to damage His reputation and divide the crowd. Dr. John Neufeld explores Matthew 19:3-9, where Jesus bypasses competing rabbis and points straight to Scripture, teaching God's original design for lifelong marriage while addressing the reality of hard hearts. This episode reminds us that standing behind the shield of Scripture is the key to navigating divisive questions with truth and grace.

The Ministry of Our Lord: Join Dr. John Neufeld for a journey through Matthew 19-20, where Jesus makes His final trip to Jerusalem. The crowds are growing, expecting triumph and glory. But what Jesus teaches is startling: humility over greatness, sacrifice over power. This Messiah will not rule from a throne—He will reign from a cross. Discover what it means to follow a suffering King.

Though a twin, he was quite the opposite of his younger brother and ultimately became the heartache of the family. Ripped off by his brother and rejected by his family, he couldn’t win, no matter how hard he tried. As we shall soon discover, the Bible pulls no punches. And you may find several places in this story where you can identify with Esau, “the son who couldn’t win.”

From the Series: Fascinating Stories of Forgotten Lives: Rediscovering Some Old Testament Characters

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What if the families who feel like “misfits” in church are actually the majority? Therapist Ron Deal and author Gayla Grace explore the pain of exclusion, sharing practical, gospel-centered strategies for how churches can include single parents. From language tweaks to small groups and intentional hospitality, this episode inspires hope, challenges assumptions, and equips leaders and volunteers to create a church where every family feels truly seen.

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Don’t wait until you reach some magical age to start enjoying life—start now! Don’t take a single day for granted.

People may wonder why God allows temptation in the first place, but He often uses our desires and bad habits to reveal His power and grace in our lives, and form our character to be more like Jesus Christ. Dr. Lutzer describes how renewing our mind and restraining our emotions, and keeping current accounts with God will equip us to fight temptation and sin.

The story goes that some years ago a cartoonist named Walt Disney - maybe you've heard of him - well, he went with his children to an amusement park, and he was disgusted! The park was covered with litter, bathrooms were filthy. And that day Walt Disney made up his mind that the park he wanted to build someday would always be clean. If you've ever been to Disneyland or to Disney World, you know Walt Disney got his way.

You know how they keep it that way? As soon as a cup or a wrapper drops, it seems like there's someone there to pick it up. They keep big messes from happening by quickly cleaning up every small one.

I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Don't Let a Mess Get Started."

Now, our word for today from the Word of God, it's from Ephesians 4:26-27. I guess we could call it God's clean-up plan. "In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the Devil a foothold." Now, here's an interesting passage that leads into the next chapter, Ephesians 5, and it's about Christian marriage among other things. And I think that's appropriate, because well, you've got a wonderful blueprint here for keeping big messes out of your marriage. He basically says, "Don't go to bed mad."

I think this ought to be over every married couple's bed maybe, "Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry" because that gives the Devil a place to stand; a little foothold that can start to erode a relationship. Follow the Disney method for avoiding big messes. Don't let a mess get started.

Many marital disintegrations can be traced to some hurt or issue that once was pretty small. It could have been dealt with easily then, but it wasn't, and layers and layers have accumulated over that now. There's scar tissue, there's hardness, there's bitterness and there's resentment. If only it had been dealt with before the sun went down.

You know why we don't do that? Oh, a husband's too busy. He says, "Well, I can't deal with this little thing right now; it's too small an issue." Get it while it's small. Or maybe the wife's too busy herself, or she's too protective and she says, "Well, the poor guy. He's got so much on his mind, I don't want to bother him" and so it gets buried. But like toxic waste, it's not going to go away. It's going to keep radiating poison, and one day it will be a critically deadly poison. Conflict, hurt, and misunderstanding? They have to be dealt with on a 24-hour basis. Otherwise, there's a build up, and one day an avalanche that buries everyone. It's a whole lot better to deal with a snowball than an avalanche.

That issue - the frustration - will never be smaller than it is today; it's only going to grow. The Bible says in Hebrews 12:15, "See to it that no one misses the grace of God. Do not let any bitter root grow up among you. It will cause trouble; it will defile many." I think that might include the kids who get the radiation from the toxic waste that's been buried.

So look, don't let another day go by without beginning to deal with the issue. And if you have to get help from an outside person, do it. But deal with it. You can be close in your marriage. You can stay close till death do you part if you'll pick up the little mess - the first wrapper that drops.

It works for Disney World, and it works for the Magic Kingdom of marriage. Just don't let a mess get started.

Read: 1 Corinthians 12:4-6, 18-20

“I can’t wait for our youth retreat!” Katie said. “Do you have permission to go yet?”

Tammy bit her lip. “Not yet.” If she went, she would have to invite her brother, Clint. Tammy loved Clint, but kids at school whispered behind his back because he didn’t understand when they were joking or when he should stop talking about his obsessions, especially with polar bears.

“Promise you’ll ask!” Katie called as Tammy got into Mom’s car.

Mom smiled at Tammy as they drove away. “What do you need to ask me?”

Tammy sighed. “There’s going to be a youth retreat at the ski lodge.”

“That’s awesome!” Mom said. “Of course you can go.”

“But if I go, then Clint will want to come. Remember the last time we went skiing? He almost got lost searching for polar bears. It was so embarrassing!”

“I see,” Mom said. “I’ll let you decide whether or not you want to invite him.”

Tammy was too surprised to respond. Suddenly, Mom pulled into an empty parking lot. Tammy gasped as Mom shut her eyes. “What are you doing?” Tammy cried.

“What?” Mom asked. “I thought it would be fun to drive with my eyes closed. I still have my foot to press the gas and my hands to steer the wheel.”

“But you can’t see where you’re going! What if we hit something?”

Mom opened her eyes. “What if I try driving without my feet? Or taking my hands off the wheel?”

“No!” Tammy said. “You need your whole body to drive.”

Mom nodded. “That’s right. Have you ever heard Christians described as a body?”

Tammy shook her head. That sounded weird!

“The Bible says we are the body of Christ,” said Mom. “God created each of us with unique gifts so we can show people who Jesus is and help each other grow in our faith. And every single person is needed. We’re all part of the wonderful purpose Jesus has given us as His people.”

When they got home, Clint ran to give Tammy a hug. “Clint, I have something important to ask you,” Tammy said. “Do you want to come on a ski retreat with me?”

Clint danced down the hallway as Tammy laughed. She already knew what gift Clint had—joy.

–Hannah Chung

How about you? Do you struggle to include kids who are different from you? Or maybe you’re often left out because of your differences. God created and loves each one of us, and He has given each of His children unique gifts that allow us to show others the love of Jesus. Even if others don’t recognize your gifts, God always sees you, and He will help you see and encourage others in the body of Christ.

Today's Key Verse: Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 1 Corinthians 12:12 (NIV)

Today's Key Thought: Everyone has God-given gifts

Most people believe they have a right to feel bitter until their situations improve. But our heavenly Father wants us to enjoy peace and joy, regardless of our circumstances. Dr. Stanley discusses how to manage your anger God's way after listing out the benefits, aspects, and causes of anger.

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Kristin’s son had died from cancer when he was just seven. Now, three years later, her older son was being diagnosed with a terminal illness. Friends who were not believers in Jesus grieved with her, but they couldn’t understand why she continued to trust Christ. “How could your God allow this? Why keep believing in Him?” they asked.

For Kristin, however, it was an even stronger reason to keep believing. “I don’t understand why this is happening,” she said, “but I know God will help us through this. Only God can give me hope to keep going.”

Such a hope and trust kept King David going when he found himself in overwhelming circumstances. Surrounded by enemies seeking his destruction, he probably couldn’t understand why all this was happening to him. Yet he knew he was following a God he could trust to deliver and bless him in His time (Psalm 31:14-16). This certain hope enabled him to keep submitting to God and to say, “My times are in your hands” (v. 15). And it uplifted him, such that he could also say: “Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord” (v. 24).

In times when we feel overwhelmed and there seems little to look forward to, we know we can hang on even more tightly to God and the life-giving hope He alone provides.