Cliterally Speaking the Podcast

If you haven't listened to Episode 46 - Be a Good Girl, part one of our conversation with Dana Kelly, we highly recommend you begin there.Part Two begins with a frank discussion on intersectionality, cultures, and race. They explore the concept of Hate being tied to our actions because of our lack of actions. Dana talks about how when women successfully organize, there always seems to be a 'bomb' dropped somewhere in the middle to disrupt the organization.Dana shares her story on how she had to become an activist when her oldest son was diagnosed with Tuberous Sclerosis. She faced years discrimination from health care professionals who looked at her as simply a poor person of color teenage mother and wouldn't give her help on what she needed to do for her son. She had to confront the system, learn to advocate out loud and navigate the purposefully confusing systems to get help for her son. Which.She.Did.They shared questions on how best to talk with each other cross-culturally, how to ask and answer questions respectfully, how to support one another. It doesn't have to me a me vs you, or us vs. them. They talk about how indifference is as corrosive as active in-your-face racism. And how critically important it is for our society to get away from the "Better you than me" mindset.Dana shares with Emily and Michelle about two resources in St. Louis dedicated to getting through difficult conversations: Coming to the Table and Touchy Topic Tuesdays. More information can be found on our website.This episode is filled with honesty, insight, humor, growth, and a challenge to continue the difficult conversations.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Michelle and Emily welcome Artist, Activist, Poet, Diversity Educator, and much more guest - Dana Kelly - to the podcast. They sip on a rosé from Provence from Château Barbanau - L'Instant Rosé. After an in-depth analysis of the Rosé they are drinking, the talk turns to several ways to upcycle panties no longer needed which leads to a discussion on bras, breast reduction surgeries, getting boobs, and being raised by immigrant parents.Dana shares her experience of growing up in St. Louis as part of a large extended family, spending her days with her cousins at her grandmother's house in North St. Louis City while her parents worked. Dana shares her story about what took her from being surrounded by a large family to a time of homelessness. She shares with an honesty and clarity how being sexually assaulted by her cousin when she was 11 and being told not to tell her parents or she'd never see them again impacted the path her life has taken.The conversation shifts to how Dana has chosen to be open with her children regarding sexuality, sex education, and prevention/protection. Michelle shares a humorous story about "The BOOK." Listen to the case of the missing condoms and involuntary celibacy.Dana is shocked to learn about the condition of vaginal dryness. They have a humorous (as much humor as is possible when talking about vaginal dryness) conversation about what it's like to be sexual as you age. Dana promises to take this startling new knowledge back to her friends, take a survey, and report back.They end part one with a fun segment on dating and sex and dealing with feelings on each side of the 'relationship.' In the St. Louis region, Survivors of Sexual Assault can find assistance: in Missouri at the YWCA Women's Resource Center (314-645-4848) and in Illinois at Call For Help's Sexual Assault Victim's Care Unit (618-397-0975). Elsewhere in the Nation, please call 800-656-HOPE (4673)Be sure to catch Part Two of our discussion with Dana in episode 47.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Michelle and Emily share a delicious bottle of L'Conti Brut sparkling wine with Audrey Crabtree, an award-winning performer, writer, and director. They have a fun and interesting discussion about comedy and clowning. They ask Audrey a ton of questions about life as a professional clown. Somehow, the conversation takes a sharp turn and they begin discussing the serial killer, John Wayne Gacy. Audrey shares that Sufjan Stevens even wrote a song about him. Link to the YouTube video is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=otx49Ko3fxwThey conduct some dream interpretations for Emily. They talk about asparagus and its effect on urine. They get serious and talk about staying true to theirselves even when the road they took isn't one they thought they would and how to look back with no regrets.They talk about the importance of laughter and the healing power of humor. They talk about why they love Improv comedy and how awesome it is to connect with their teammates in a scene or show. Audrey shares one of her favorite buddhist concepts: When you come to each life, you get to choose how much you want of joy, happiness, pain and struggle. That life is about balance. You can't have more joy than you do pain, more happiness than you do struggle. You choose though how much you want.Michelle asks Audrey about her character Deenie Nast's one-woman show and when she'll be back in St. Louis. (August 17th as part of the St. Louis Fringe Festival at .Zack).All in all a delightful conversation with surprising twists and turns and more than a few laughs.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Emily and Michelle welcome Sommelier Denise Mueller to the podcast. Over a delicious bottle of Châteauneuf du Pape by Guillame Gonnet, the conversation winds as the wine flows. They discuss Denise's journey to becoming a sommelier, how she started her own wine school and her books on wine (links below), how she used dinner parties with various friends and tasting groups in the St. Louis area to prepare for the sommelier exam. They talk about how Denise's life changed two years ago when she was hit by a drunk driver (left her bed-ridden for 9 days!) and they dive into the lasting physical, emotional, and financial effects from that. They talk about trying to date after experiencing the trauma of losing a loved one. They discuss at length the role TRUST plays in establishing intimacy in a relationship and their fears of such intimacy. They talk about the experiences of dating a friend (is it a good thing or bad thing?), choosing to wait to have children (is it too late now?), the effect of social media on society and how we relate to it. They discuss French Porn, macro travel, being a 'fluffer for marriage', meditation, and the wisdom of the "5-minute power hour."Links to Denise's books: “PreSomm Course Book”: https://www.presomm.com/products/presomm-course-book or at https://www.Amazon.com“PreSomm Maps & Graphics Book”:https://www.presomm.com/products/presomm-maps-graphics or at https://www.Amazon.comThank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Live from Gaslight Studios in St. Louis, Michelle and Emily welcome the Executive Director from NARAL Missouri, Mallory Schwarz, to their "Time of the Month" Show. They talk about the importance of women’s reproductive rights and the impact recent legislation holds for all (regardless of what side of the aisle you sit). They share a bottle of Care Solidarity Rosé, a delightful Spanish wine whose company donates a portion of their proceeds to Breast Cancer research.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Michelle and Emily welcome Francesca Passanise to the podcast. they share a delightful Argetinian Cabernet Franc, La Madrid. They have an enlightening conversation as they cover so many topics.Francesca shares her reactions to and perceptions of Puerto Rico after a recent visit there. They talk about Francesca's husband's style of art and when asked about her own artistic style, Francesca reveals she is a writer. She talks about being discouraged from pursuing writing as her career because she was always told she needed to do something that would support her. She chose to study business and marketing and has managed to marry her love of writing with her passion for effecting change in our world. She embraces her 'hopey-changey' part of her personality.The conversation flows naturally into a discussion about leadership differences between men and women, how women have a tendency to undervalue ourselves and our work, and equity vs equality.Francesca talks about her personal efforts to expand the cultural literacy in her children's school by reading to her daughters' class during story time during Black History Month and Women's History Month. She's been doing it for four years. She shares several books that everyone should read. Links to them are on our website http://cliterallyspeakingpodcast.com/season-2-43-flipping-the-script/Let's Talk About Race by Julius Lester (a St. Louisan)Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls Vol 1 & 2 by Francesca Cavallo & Elena FavilliOne Crazy Summer by Rita Williams-Garcia.They talk about how we hide behind the idea that we are a "polite society" and this irrational fear of making strife isn't helping our country with having open and honest discussions.Francesca shared an incredibly touching story about one afternoon during their reading of One Crazy Summer when a student asked if the book somehow would show them how or give them advice on what to do when you can tell someone is judging you. This leads to a rich discussion on privilege and removing the 'otherness' we apply to people.Francesca recommends working with St. Louis organization, WeStories, to develop tools to help create change in our community. She points to two artists who are creating particularly powerful pieces about racism and "other"ing that we should be watching:  Myloan Dinh & Myra Eastman.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Emily and Michelle welcome Dr. Becky Lynn, MD back to the podcast with a fascinating episode on the perceptions of marijuana's impact on women's sexual health and orgasms. They share a wonderful bottle of Tago, a red wine from Portugal.They learn about endocannabinoids that occur naturally in the human body. They talk about the lack of research on the effects of marijuana because it has been illegal for so long, but there is hope with the change in its legal status that more research will be done.Michelle asks Dr. Becky Lynn to explain the concept of marijuana as a "Gateway Drug" and the effects on younger people/teenagers.They discuss CBD and THC; ratios for medical marijuana; restaurants using it in cocktails; regulated versus non-regulated; reputable suppliers versus non-reputable.Michelle and Emily have a fan-girl moment when Dr. Becky Lynn talked about her interview with Dan Savage on his Savage Love podcast. (https://www.savagelovecast.com)The conversation moves to the recent anti-choice legislation in Missouri, Georgia, and Alabama and its effect on individual sex lives. They talk about double standards. What is the male version of the word "slut"? What's the female version of the word "Don Juan"? What is low sex drive? Is it a physical issue or is a relationship issue? Sex Ed historically has been about how not to get pregnant, never about pleasure. Dr. Becky Lynn recommends the website "OMG Yes!" https://www.omgyes.com for great sexual education geared towards women. She also talks about how women can use porn to find what suits them in their sexual desires and recommends Erika Lust for women-centric porn. https://erikalust.comDr. Becky Lynn clarifies many misconceptions that people regarding sex education, anatomy, periods, ovaries and more! New vocabulary word - mittleschmerz https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mittelschmerz/symptoms-causes/syc-20375122Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Michelle and Emily welcome their producer and friend, Denise Naughton, back to the podcast. (You can learn more about Denise on Season 1, Episode 21 "Good News Network".) They share a wonderful, crisp bottle of Rosé from Squadra. They share their respective 4th of July experiences. Emily is thankfully recovering from the stress and anxiety of nearly losing her little man, Iggy Pup, and her fiancé Ken in separate scary situations. Michelle spent the 4th with several Improv friends. Denise visited Fair St. Louis for a few hours.They share their reactions to the craziness in the news from the Women's National Team winning the World Cup; Title IX; the 4th of July festival in DC; teleprompter issues; Epstein's arrest; upcoming Mueller testimony; 2020 Democratic primary season; to how to survive Mercury (and five other planets!) in Retrograde.Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Michelle and Emily share a bottle of La Pincoya (a Chilean blend) with guest Abby Kelman. Abby is an attorney who specializes in assisting clergy of all faiths with legal services. They have a fascinating discussion about life in Israel, Jewish culture and traditions, life as the daughter of a rabbi and the impact her father's sense of grace and belief in people had on her life. They talk about the active choice of choosing community and get a crash course in Yiddish (Did you know there are so many Yiddish phrases and words in use in every day life?)https://kelmanlawfirm.comhttps://www.amazon.com/Queer-Expectations-Genealogy-Contemporary-Literature/dp/1438472234Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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Michelle and Emily share a bottle of Mâcon-Milly Lamartine, a delicious white burgundy, with Michelle Mynx, a pioneer of the modern pole world, who has performed in hundreds of shows both as half of the critically acclaimed Polesque duo “Gravity Plays Favorites” and as a solo artist. In 2010, Mynx opened her studio in St. Louis, the Mynx Academy. https://www.mynxacademy.com/The three of them don't shy away from the headlines that Missouri and other states have been making regarding abortion rights, access to women's healthcare, rape, choice, sex trafficking and more. It is a passionate conversation, timely and necessary. After a break to refresh their glasses and to take a deep breath, Michelle Mynx shares how her journey took her from starting as a cocktail waitress at a strip club as soon as she turned 18 to becoming a dancer in the clubs to learning how to pole dance to taking her act "on the road" to creating her pole dance academy. Mynx discusses the variety of workshops she offers and the intriguing difference between "Soul Seduction" and "Eye-Fucking."They discuss at length the "emotional labor" that women put themselves through and how important it is to take moments/hours/days/whatever is needed for self-care. They discuss the importance of real connections and real conversations with real people. And the power of hope.Links to resources discussed during the conversation:Gateway Women's Access Fund, -https://www.gwaf.orgYWCA St Louis Women's Resource Center https://www.ywcastl.org/what-were-doing/womens-resource-centerICASA - https://www.icasa.orgFor our listeners who are not in St. Louis or Illinois, please contact RAINN - https://www.rainn.org - the nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization for support and resources.12th Annual Extravaganza Pole Dancing Showcasehttps://www.mynxacademy.com/en/extravaganza/***This episode was recorded in May when the Show-Me Burlesque event was taking place. Unfortunately, it is not happening this weekend.***Thank you for listening and subscribing to Cliterally Speaking the Podcast. Visit our website: www.cliterallyspeakingpodcast.comFacebook: @cspeakpodcastInstagram: @cliterallyspeakingthepodcastTwitter: @cliterallyspea1Please call our comment line: 812-727-0794Watch our youtube channel (Cliterally Speaking the Podcast) for all the behind the scenes discussions during our recording sessions.And Subscribe, Like, Share our podcast with EVERYONE!

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