What is good parenting = 1. Like school + 2. Have good friends + 3. Good parent / child relationship + 4. Good academic outcomes (top 10%) + 5. Good extra curricula.
Eastern and Western parenting. It's important to remember that parenting styles within any culture.
1. *Education Focus*:
- Eastern: There's often a strong emphasis on academic achievement, discipline, and respect for authority.
- Western: Education may be more balanced with extracurricular activities, encouraging creativity and individual interests.
2. *Discipline*:
- Eastern: Discipline is generally more strict, with a greater emphasis on obedience and conformity to family and societal expectations.
- Western: Discipline may be more flexible, focusing on reasoning with the child and understanding their perspective.
3. *Independence*:
- Eastern: Independence is encouraged later, often after foundational values and behaviors are instilled.
- Western: There's a strong emphasis on fostering independence from an early age, including encouraging children to make their own choices.
4. *Family Structure*:
- Eastern: A greater emphasis on extended family, with respect for elders and filial piety being central values.
- Western: A focus on the nuclear family, with a more egalitarian approach to family roles.
5. *Emotional Openness*:
- Eastern: Emotional restraint is often valued, with less open verbal expression of love and affection.
- Western: There's generally more open expression of emotions and affection, both verbally and physically.
6. *Decision Making*:
- Eastern: Parents often make key decisions for their children, even into their adult lives.
- Western: Children are encouraged to participate in decision-making processes, even from a young age.
7. *Risk and Failure*:
- Eastern: There can be a high aversion to risk and failure, with a focus on avoiding loss of face and maintaining honor.
- Western: Risk-taking is often encouraged as a part of learning, and failure can be seen as an opportunity for growth.
Western parenting expectations across the 1950s, 1980s, and 2020s.
1. **Discipline**:
- 1950s: Generally strict, with corporal punishment more accepted.
- 1980s: Moving towards less physical discipline, with time-outs becoming more common.
- 2020s: Emphasis on positive discipline, understanding child psychology, and avoiding physical punishment.
2. **Education**:
- 1950s: Education was more formal, with a strong focus on foundational skills and respect for authority.
- 1980s: Increasing emphasis on holistic education, including personal development and extracurricular activities.
- 2020s: Focus on technology literacy, critical thinking, and personalized learning paths; homeschooling and alternative education models gain popularity.
3. **Gender Roles**:
- 1950s: Traditional gender roles were predominant, influencing how children were raised and what was expected of them.
- 1980s: Beginning to challenge traditional gender roles, with more encouragement for girls to pursue careers and boys to express emotions.
- 2020s: Greater acceptance of diverse gender identities and roles, with emphasis on gender-neutral parenting.
4. **Technology and Media**:
- 1950s: Limited impact, with radio and early television being the main technologies.
- 1980s: Growing influence of television, video games, and early personal computers.
- 2020s: Digital natives; heavy influence of the internet, social media, smartphones, and varied digital platforms.
5. **Parental Involvement**:
- 1950s: More authoritative parenting with less involvement in children’s play and exploration.
- 1980s: Increasing parental involvement, with a shift towards more nurturing and supportive roles.
- 2020s: Very high involvement in all aspects of children’s lives, often termed as "helicopter" or "lawnmower" parenting.
