You can't teach regulation from dysregulation, and today we're talking about why that matters. Marriage and family therapist Matthew Fishleder joins me to talk about one of my favorite topics: regulation for both kids and parents.

We unpack why it's impossible to teach self-regulation if we, as adults, aren't regulated ourselves, and how our nervous systems are constantly influencing one another. Matthew explains what's really happening in the brain during a meltdown, and why validation and connection always come before reasoning or discipline.

To find out more about Matthew, visit his website at growingpresent.com.

About Matthew Fishleder

Matthew Fishleder is a marriage and family therapist who helps parents understand regulation, nervous system needs, and what kids are communicating through behavior. Learn more at growingpresent.com.

About Your Host, Gabriele Nicolet

I'm Gabriele Nicolet, toddler whisperer, speech therapist, parenting life coach, and host of Complicated Kids. Each week, I share practical, relationship-based strategies for raising kids with big feelings, big needs, and beautifully different brains. My goal is to help families move from surviving to thriving by building connection, confidence, and clarity at home.

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