In this episode of the Dating Den, Marni coaches Allison, who is living in Italy trying to avoid the ‘I give up’ syndrome because she is not attracting the right guys online. She asks Marni for guidance about how to filter through her options faster and how to create a more focused approach to her dating life. Her goal is to find a guy who shares her values and vision.

Coaching Allison: Why Are You Attracting the Wrong Type of Guy?

Dating coach, Marni Battista, is the queen of making her clients irresistible to men and not just any men, high quality men.  Marni is a certified professional Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, writer, and nationally recognized print and online magazine expert (Cosmopolitan Magazine, Yahoo! Shine, Huffington Post, YourTango.com, CupidsPulse.com, Men’s Fitness, Glamour and more).  She has also had guest appearances on CBS, ABC, and Loveline (filling in for Dr. Drew!) Marni’s weekly dating and relationship web show, “The Dating Den,” has over 2.6 million views, and she was named one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts by @DatingAdviceCom.​

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Marni welcomes Junnie Moon to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the hidden aspects of ourselves that we often suppress and that influence our behavior and relationships. We suppress these parts of ourselves without even realizing it. Junnie is the CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud. She’s an author, a global love mentor and a certified shadow work practitioner. In this episode, Marni and Junnie discuss what shadow work actually is and how through working on yourself you can find empowerment and authenticity.   *         What is shadow work? *         What are your triggers telling you? *         How to cultivate self-compassion   Are You Self-Sabotaging? [03:33]   We all have blind spots. And these blind spots can show up in several ways including self-sabotage. And these come as a result of not being aligned with our highest and best self.   When we talk about our personalities and how we're showing up in the world, the shadow is a part of us that we want to hide. There's a part of us that maybe we feel bad about.   How Do You Spot the Shadows? [08:38]   Just look around you. Notice the people or traits that trigger strong reactions in you. Maybe it's the overly confident colleague or the friend who always seems to have it all together. These reactions are like little red flags pointing you toward your own shadows.   There’s a part of us that we’re denying where we’re going. I better not be like that.   Acknowledge the Cart Before the Horse [19:29]   Before diving into the world of online dating or seeking a partner, take some time to unpack your own baggage. This doesn't mean waiting until you're perfect or fully healed, but rather acknowledging and understanding yourself better.   When we are unpacking and coming home to the truth of who we are, not by what our beliefs are, not by what we have been taught, we can see things differently.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          How to Eliminate Burnout: How to use the Radical Living Blueprint to Reinvent Your Life ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Junnie’s Website- Midlife Love Out Loud ·         Junie's 'What's Your Love Avatar Quiz' ·         Junie's 'Loving The Whole Package' book  

Life Check Yourself 450 –  Want More From Someone? DO NOT Chase; Do THIS Instead! with Junnie Moon

Marni welcomes Ciicii to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to break free from co-dependency and find your own identity. Ciicii is the host of podcast That Bitch Positive. She is a life and energy coach who has millions of followers as well as a singer-songwriter who has a book that came out yesterday with the title “Show Up As Her”. For this episode, Marni and Ciicii discuss the importance of owning your power and becoming the person you’re meant to be. And it starts by letting go of all the external triggers that may be holding you back and taking responsibility for your own feelings.   *         How to let go *         What is co-dependency? *         How to break free from co-dependency   Positive Bitchology  [07:48]   No, it’s not a cocktail. Positive Bitchology is being a babe in true connection with herself. It’s all about finding your way back to who you really are. And you do it by letting go of external triggers, whether that’s a boyfriend or a job.     Step into who you came here to be.   Are You Ghosting Yourself? [15:30]   Pay attention to how you’re treating yourself. Are you ghosting your needs? Your desires? Your vulnerabilities? When you neglect your own needs, they are more likely to be ghosted or overlooked by others as well. It’s vital to speak up.   I think as women especially, we don’t want to feel needy when we speak for what it is we need. And that’s not being needy. That’s putting yourself on the pedestal.   Taking Ownership of Your Identity [20:04]   When we’re co-dependent on another person, it’s like seeing ourselves through their eyes, from their viewpoint, instead of seeing ourselves as full individuals in our own right. We need to be able to carve out space for our own identity and our true essence.   I see this from an energetic point of view, where, whenever there’s codependency, there’s some blockage or dysfunction with our sacral chakra.   Make a Connection: ·        3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          How to Eliminate Burnout: How to use the Radical Living Blueprint to Reinvent Your Life ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Life?  Book A Call With Us ·       Follow her latest contents- vibinwithciicii (Follow her on Instagram) ·       Show Up As Her- *Get a Copy Now!* ·         Get the latest updates from CiiCii *Subscribe*  

Life Check Yourself 449 –  Make Them Obsessed" with CiiCii

Marni welcomes Bobby Frank to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves in the dynamics of a lasting relationship. Bobby who has been married for 31 years is currently working on his book, "The Unimpeachable Wife: Developing a Million Dollar Bank Account and a Million Dollar Family." For this episode, Marni and Bobby discuss the secrets to success and longevity within a relationship.  Self-reflection, authenticity and personal growth are all part of it. When each person focuses on themselves first, it creates a solid foundation for a successful partnership.   *         How to introspect *         What are the ABC’s of marriage? *         How to be Honest   We Need to Talk About Us [04:33]   Don’t focus on the wrong end of the spectrum of marriage or a relationship. The key is to focus on what you both need and want, rather than only prioritizing on your partner.   Don’t violate other principles just because you think something is correct   Honesty Really is The Best Policy [13:14]   It’s been said over and over again because it’s true. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. Stop saying the things you think your partner wants to hear and start saying how you feel.    That’s how you develop a friendship as well.   The Unspoken Conversation [20:56]   What are the ABCs of marriage? It is knowing that your partner will not trade you in for the newer model, it is knowing that they will love you even in sickness. It is the important questions that keep you together in the long turn.   And c is, can you love me with cancer? Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          How to Eliminate Burnout: How to use the Radical Living Blueprint to Reinvent Your Life ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Transform Your Life Today- Stop2Start Life Coaching Online  

Life Check Yourself 448 –  This is why happy people still cheat in a relationship with Bobby Frank

Marni welcomes Nicole Russo to the Life Check Yourself studio. A personal stylist to high-achievers and executives, Nicole opened her own styling shopping service in 2017 and has styled thousands of people since. The duo discusses the most effective way to declutter, how to find your style and why dressing well means being empowered. How you dress, when it’s authentic, is a reflection of who you are and who you want to be.   *         How to dress for power *         Avoid impulse purchases *         How to cleanse your closet   It’s Not Any Less Feminist to Dress the Part [05:11]   The way you dress impacts the way you’re perceived and the way you feel. Fashion can be wielded as a powerful tool to propel your life in the direction that you want it to go in.   You definitely need to be careful in that it has to feel authentic, or else it’s not really going to empower you. It has to feel like you in some way.   Declutter Your Emotions and Your Closet [17:27]   Your closet is a reflection of you. It’s murmurs of who you were or who you didn’t become. Or even the dreams you held on to. But, perhaps it’s time to declutter. Let go of the items you don’t wear anymore so that you can be who you are now.   Our closets are a metaphor for our life.   Get Creative [20:00]   Experiment by wearing something new each day or each week to inspire creativity. Finding your style should be fun.   I find that you get a better sense of who you are, and it becomes like a creative fun process instead of a stressful one.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          How to Eliminate Burnout: How to use the Radical Living Blueprint to Reinvent Your Life ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Let's Get You- A Free Guide To Edit Your Closet  

Life Check Yourself 447 – "Drive Him Wild With These 3 Irresistible Date Outfits" with Nicole Russo

Marni welcomes Shanenn Bryant to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to crack the control code and transform the way we view jealousy. Shanenn is a jealousy and relationship confidence expert. She’s also the host of the Top Self podcast and founder of self-development company, Top Self. It’s not just about eradicating jealousy but understanding that this feeling isn’t the problem, but rather a symptom of it. And the answers can be found by examining yourself.    *         Focus on yourself *         Lengthen the space between trigger and response *         How to foster self-awareness   What’s Jealousy Got to Do With it? [05:35]   Jealous stems from somewhere internal, from a place of insecurity. And that could either be because of some type of dysfunction in your childhood or because you went through a bad experience in a romantic relationship. Either way, to understand the feeling itself, you need to look at yourself and ask the right questions.   It doesn’t necessarily have to always be that it was a cheating incident. I felt like I was insecure and jealous before that ever happened.   Make Room for Accountability [14:49]   While it may be difficult to do so in certain situations, it’s important to take responsibility rather than blame your partner straight away. Self-awareness is key.   You cannot change something that is blocking you, unless you really take a look at what you think, do, and say.   Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries [21:10]   Before getting into a relationship, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation about boundaries, particularly those regarding interactions with exes. It allows both partners to understand each other’s expectations.   Have that conversation to figure out what that relationship is like beforehand and then you make the decision if that’s a relationship you want to be in.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training* ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Live A Life Of Confidence- TOP SELF (Book a Call)

Coaching Allison: Why Are You Attracting the Wrong Type of Guy?

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