COACHING SESSION: Caitlin & Chris explore BDSM

Caitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, communication in and out of play sessions, aftercare, safe words, bruising, pleasure, and sourcing and trying new ideas.   Bookmark moments: 4:20 - Caitlin and Chris catch Leah up on the new-to-them BDSM they’ve been exploring and what they’d like support with. 7:31 - Caitlin is clear that sub is her turf. 8:38 - They get into specifics with impact tools, paddles, riding crop, switch, etc. Chris explains how he manages and escalates the impact using a 1-10 scale and timing set to playdate playlist. 12:55 - Leah talks about safe-wording to help Caitlin really get into sub space and also to give Chris reassurance. The line rests in the hands of the sub. Leah also talks about non-verbal safe cues. 17:55 - Chris shares his progress since the start of their sexual partnership. 20:29 - PJ Parties for Grownups! 23:13 - Pleasure dynamics for the dom, and physically dominating vs verbally dominating. Chris has an easier time with one over the other and is naturally a giver, so Leah helps him find new some avenues and techniques. 27:07 - Making a restaurant-style command or activity menu ahead of time can help. Leah shares a few tips. 30:53 - Navigating voyeurism/exhibitionism, consent, and safe places to engage. 36:21 - The Yes/No/Maybe list is great for finding and knowing your hard red lines. It’s also a good idea to revisit the list periodically. Leah shares other resources and talks about BDSM tasting events. 41:31 - Chris talks about finding and pushing the limits as a dom while still being careful not to hurt her. 43:50 - Each play session is separate and discrete; always check in fresh. 44:56 - Is pushing BDSM limits healthy? If you’re having consensual fun, carry on. 48:26 - Here’s how to work with Leah.    Resources mentioned:  Three Minute Game Yes / No / Maybe list Literotica   Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak