Good Girls Talk About Sex

Annie explores her "straight-ish" sexuality, low sex drive, and desire for sex that grows out of deep emotional and intellectual connection.

• Annie's evolving understanding of her sexuality and identifying as "straight-ish"
• Being "philosophically queer" while primarily attracted to men
• Feeling different from people who experience a strong or spontaneous sex drive
• Wanting emotional and intellectual connection before sexual connection
• Sex as a form of connection rather than primarily physical pleasure or release
• The importance of feeling deeply known and seen by a sexual partner
• The usefulness — and limitations — of sexuality labels
• Wanting companionship, romance, commitment, and partnership even when sex isn't a high priority

• THE AFTERSHOW: https://xoleahcarey.substack.com/p/podcast-annie-my-body-doesnt-know
• Wheel spinner: https://xoleahcarey.substack.com/p/podcast-questions
• Be a guest: https://www.leahcarey.com/guest
• Archive of GGTAS episodes from 2019 to 2024: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com

• Why I ended the podcast two years ago
• The health crisis that caused the slow down, and eventual end, of the first incarnation of Good Girls Talk About Sex
• Discovering I have narcissistic abuse syndrome
• Reconsidering my mom's role as the "safe" parent
• Why I'm rebooting the podcast now
  • Missing the conversations
  • Wanting to reconnect with listeners
  • Finished writing my memoir
  • Heated Rivalry … because, of course…
• The new podcast format
  • How I'm restructuring it to (hopefully!) make it sustainable
  • There's audio AND video, plus an aftershow!
• Some of my fears about restarting the podcast
• The realities of using the word "sex" publicly in today's political climate
• How you can be part of the show
  • Invitation for YOU to be a guest (https://www.leahcarey.com/guest)
  • Suggest questions to be added to the wheel (just drop them in the comments!)

• Video podcast: https://xoleahcarey.substack.com/p/podcast-the-welcome-back-episode
• Jessica Valenti's Abortion Every Day Substack — https://jessica.substack.com/

• Spin the wheel: https://xoleahcarey.substack.com/p/podcast-questions
• Be a guest: https://www.leahcarey.com/guest
• Archive of GGTAS episodes from 2019 to 2024: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com

In the final episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, I talk about why I've decided to end the podcast and what's coming next.

For those wishing to keep the podcast legacy alive, the archives are available for download at leahcarey.com/audio. Safeguard this invaluable content before any legal restrictions come into play.

A heartfelt thank you for your unwavering support through the years. Though the podcast is ending, our conversation is not. Join me on YouTube, and let's keep working to make a more positive world.

With love and gratitude, Leah 💕

OTHER LINKS:

• Get the archives : 📢📢 leahcarey.com/audio 📢📢
• Leeja Miller's Project 2025 video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9k3UvaC5m7o
• NBC News THINK op-ed - https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/learning-sex-education-can-save-kids-from-groomers-rcna26931

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Jessica's world was turned upside down when her husband died suddenly and she uncovered evidence of his endless lies and a second life that she'd known nothing about.

Had she been blind to the red flags her husband was waving? Or did she know more than she allowed herself to admit?

In this special (mid-hiatus!) episode, Leah talks with Jessica Waite whose book "The Widow's Guide To Dead Bastards" is available today from Atria.

They focus on a pivotal chapter from the book, exploring the questions that still linger for Jessica: What did she know? What was she intentionally blind to? And what could she have noticed if she had known what to look for?

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Some people swear by Dear Abby, others swear at Dear Abby. Today we look at some of Dear Abby's terrible advice.

PLUS: Stay until the end to hear an important announcement about the podcast going on hiatus so Leah can take a well-deserved rest.

Full episode show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/go-to-bed-angry

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

In this Pop Culture Pillow Talk, I talk with pop culture critic Kristen Meinzer about two great movies:

• Joy Ride
• Plan B

You can find Kristen at:

• www.kristenmeinzer.com
• How To Be Fine podcast
• The Daily Fail podcast
• Twitter
• Instagram
• Threads

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/road-trips/

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Plan B - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13172796

Joy Ride - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt15268244

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don't feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her?

Leah works with Sophilia to:

• understand the red flags for this type of relationship,
• the communication skills that will help screen them out,
• rethink her own experience of being turned on.

Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black father. In the past she's been in monogamous relationships, but currently prefers the idea of being in open relationships. She describes her body as curvy and muscular.

Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Sophilia and all listeners to screen potential partners.

Find the turn-on cycle explanation here: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/turn-on-cycles/

Full show notes: www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/red-flags-sophilia

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story.

The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man's abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling you what's going on; it's about shining a light on the dark corners of abuse and systemic failure. It's a call to action for change, support, and understanding for those who have had their voices silenced.

ALSO: I clarify my pricing structure for coaching and how I serve people with financial challenges.

Full show notes: www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/consent-darvo

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you?

In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon. We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present.

Find Julia at: www.askauntiejulia.com @askauntiejulia on socials

Beyond Permission class schedule:

• Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle
• Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah
• Tuesday, March 5 - Sex toys show & tell with Leah
• Thursday, March 7 - Ask a couple with Danielle & Adam
• Tuesday, March 12 - What's wrong with my libido? with Leah

Full show notes: www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/starstruck

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak