Good Girls Talk About Sex

The road to reclaiming consent is extra-long when it begins at age 3, and even more complicated by undiagnosed mental health disorders. For Deidre, a lifetime of sexual assault and a growing substance problem led to a rock bottom that included a BPD diagnosis. Today she's feeling healthy mentally and in a wonderful new relationship.

Deidre is a 31-year-old non-binary person who uses both she and they pronouns and doesn't have a preference for either one. Deidre describes herself as white, lesbian, monogamous, and partnered. She grew up in Canada and now lives in Germany. She describes her body as average.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/bpd-and-hsv-deidre

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

What do you call a virgin who loves getting head? A comedian!

Kyndra Crump takes a deep dive into heteroflexibility and gets some re-education about why losing your virginity doesn't have to hurt—especially if you already like the rest of the stuff. She also learns about swingers-club protocols when she opens up about her exhibitionist desires.

Kyndra is a 25-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as Black, monogamous with a curiosity about polyamory, single, and heteroflexible (she says she's about 70% into men and 30% into women). She grew up in an evangelical Christian home and she describes her body as an hourglass or a Coke bottle.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/throat-not-virgin-kyndra

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Is it true that sex will become less fun - or even painful 😬 - after menopause? Is there any way to stop the changes that happen to our bodies as we get older?

Today I have a special guest: MY OWN health care provider! She's passionate about women's health and I trust her completely.

My favorite part of this episode: Maya's theory on why women have so few fucks to give as they get into their 40s and 50s (hint: it has to do with their hormone levels).

You can find Maya at www.mayastrom.com.

Full show notes: www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/maya-strom

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They've covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They're now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship.

Stevie is 37 years old and identifies as non-binary or gender queer. They describe themselves as white, gay, monogamous, and married. Stevie grew up in Scotland and describes their body as athletic and pear-shaped.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/double-ended-dildo-stevie

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

When culture tells you that women are sexy, but the church says same-sex attraction isn't allowed, you might try to screw yourself straight. Mia shares how she went from stealing kisses with girls thanks to alcohol-fueled courage while trying to prove to herself that she was straight, to building a lasting love with one of those kissed girls.

Mia is a 23-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, monogamous, not straight, and engaged at the time of recording. Since then, she has married. She grew up in a Catholic home and describes her body as athletic curvy.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/drunk-girls-mia

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Growing up in a conservative church, some kids don't even know being gay is an option. Add that to an ill-kept family secret, and Olivia became scared to orgasm as an adult. She shares how she went from Googling "naked bodies" to discovering assault survivor resources, and why she's now exploring polyamorous dating.

Olivia is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as mixed race with both African and Middle Eastern heritage, and she's gay with an asterisk. She grew up in an evangelical Christian home. She is currently dating and exploring non-monogamy. She describes her figure as an 'hourglass with extra minutes.'

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/kissing-a-vagina-olivia

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

The most important move for a great sexual experience: having the talk.

STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex.

In this episode, Samara and Caleb have the STARS talk. They've been in a relationship for 10 months of serious dating, ready to move in together, and already having good sex. Even so, they uncover several things that surprise them and will help them up-level their sex life.

Samara is a 29-year-old cisgender female who describes herself as white, monogamous, partnered with Caleb, and she describes her body as athletic and curvy. Caleb is a 29-year-old cisgender male who describes himself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, partnered with Samara, and he describes his body as athletic.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/samara-and-caleb

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

It's been a tough week. With the decision in Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization, fully half of the American population has lost the ability to make health care choices for our own bodies.

We are now more regressive on reproductive health than countries like Mexico.

In this episode, we look at the grief many of us are feeling; the frustration of being a cis woman supporting our male partner's grief journey; and tactics to get help to people who need it most.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/post-roe-america

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

While a stutter may seem like an impediment to clear communication, Mia says it helped her identify a perfect partner. She talks about how an early experience of being "the other woman" continues to affect her feelings about relationships. Then, she and Leah discuss how to navigate changing bodies, waning attraction, and mismatched libidos.

Mia is a 29-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, and engaged to be married. She grew up in a non-practicing Jewish home and she describes her figure as tall and busty.

Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/the-other-woman-mia

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak

Purity ring, wedding ring ... cock ring?! After many conversations with people who have religious trauma around sexuality, it's a pleasure to finally welcome someone who grew up in conservative Christianity and has a healthy relationship with sex.

Hannah opens up about how she and her husband navigated abstinence while still building a relationship based on trust and pleasure, and how they continued to nurture both after pregnancy loss. We also talk about sex during pregnancy and in the aftermath of miscarriage.

Hannah is a 26-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as half white and half East Indian, heterosexual, monogamous, married, and her body is curvy.

Find my NBC Op-Ed at https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/learning-sex-education-can-save-kids-from-groomers-rcna26931

Thanks to our episode sponsor:

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Full show notes: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/fingering-blowjobs-hannah

Update: Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

• Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation
• Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game
• All my classes and downloads are at my store
• Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website
• Here's everything I'm up to today
• I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak