Coffee & Change

On today’s episode, I had the pleasure of meeting and speaking with Dr. Barry Borgerson. Barry is a pioneer in developing a comprehensive theory to understand and manage our many hidden mental mechanisms including those that create involuntary habits (auto-behaviors) and automatic thought patterns (auto-contexts) that control "soft" success factors in business. On this episode we touch on the outlines of 2Selfs Theory, which Barry developed when his old interest became an object of intense study. His intense study became a passion and eventually he became convinced he had to share his insights into how to maximize the effectiveness of our automatic activities, and decided to retire early from a lucrative executive career to pursue creating 2Selfs Theory.

Enjoy the discussion. Learn more at: https://www.2selfs.com/

Contend. This is a word that keeps coming up in my psyche as of late. C-O-N-T-E-N-D. Contend. And for those of you having flashbacks to the spelling bees of our youth, I know you want me to use it in a sentence. So, here it goes. I contend to learn in every conversation I have and host on this podcast. Yeah, see what I did there?

Perhaps it is because I am enjoying the great work of a fellow podcaster, Erick Godsey, who in his latest episode encourages listeners to go back to understand the definition of the word, the origin of the word CONTEND. And so I did. In its Latin root, it means “with stretch, or with strive” and to stretch with or strive with is one of the things I love most about meeting new people and hearing new stories. My guest's story on this episode came to me, and us, because we were both in a time of great stretch and strive personally and professionally. For me, I was attending my first work dinner in almost two years, and frankly I was nervous to be in a restaurant to meet new colleagues in a new job. And so, I stretched myself, and that led to a great conversation with a fellow human across a table, who also stretched himself. And so began a friendship and a kinship when we learned we had more in common than others may realize. Heck, we even surprised ourselves a bit in our ability to stretch and grow. It is joy to share Shannon Dickens' story and inspire him to capture stories of his own with a fishing pole, a lot of faith and family first. Enjoy the listen.

As I am editing a few upcoming episodes, I thought I would take a moment to provide an interlude and tip my podcast hat to a great source of inspiration, who is going through a lot of change at this moment.

As some of you may know, when asked who might be a dream guest to have on this podcast, I often cite the journalist, author and host, Krista Tippett. Krista is the host of my favorite podcast, On Being, which she created in 2014 after a long run of her show “Speaking of Faith” broadcast on American Public Media beginning in the early and mid 2000s. Now, after nearly 20 years of broadcasting and executive producing, change is ahead for Krista, her team and her loyal listeners. Let's unpack it together on this interlude episode.

Imagine you had a great friend who you met in your twenties when you lived in the big city. For six years you and this friend and her friends were pretty much inseparable. You made memories together, experienced heartbreak together and at some point life happened and you went your separate ways, keeping memories, but no longer together. Well, now imagine after nearly 20 years, you get a text from that friend to let you know he or she was in town for a few nights and wanted to see you. What would you do? Would you thumb through the rolodex of old times and try and book that favorite spot you used to go for dinner? Perhaps you would try that coffee spot you loved, if it was still open. Do you dare pull out that old dress to see if it still fits? See, Nostalgia sometimes get the best of you, and just like that, we are reminded that people change…and that is okay. Or is it? My guest on this episode returns to Coffee and Change to join us as the co- host of Coaching Carrie, a podcast that explore the rewatching of Sex and the City and inquires on how things might have gone if only Carrie had a personal coach. And then, flash forward nearly 20 years and we are at it again…only this time, I couldn’t help but wonder…was I the only one who felt this way about a revival?

On Episode 90 I welcome Steven Fielding, who I call the Talisman for Change. I first heard Steven's incredible story and journey in change on Erick Godsey's Podcast - The Myths That Make Us. I felt a resonance right away and knew I wanted to reach out to not only meet him, but also have him on as a guest on my podcast. Together we talk about archetypes of manhood, men's work, healing and hope for the world in times such as these. This conversation was recorded in a space that Steven is creating and curating to host retreats and workshops to re-connect and re-member who we are as men, as myth makers and marauders of the soul.

I guess grief is like fissures. They are like cuts in the earth to allow the pressure to release on this journey everward.

Learn more about Steven on IG at @steven.fielding or @stonewitchtalisman_

On today’s episode, I am honored to welcome David Nour. David has an incredible story rooted in resilience, co-creation and lasting change. David is not only the CEO of The Nour Group, a business he built after 20 years of professional practice, but also a great citizen, father, husband, son and storyteller. We delve into some of his story in this episode, and uncover the many tales we share in common as well as explore the new reality of the world around us both. David has written 11 books and is working on his 12th while rewriting some of his early work to reflect today’s challenges in building relationships and the importance of understanding the indelible imprint moments that make us who we are. I want to extend David a big thank you, or SEPAS, MERCI as they say is Persian, for his generosity and time in joining on the podcast. You can find out more about David at http://www.nourgroup.com

Today’s conversation is one that the universe brought to my inbox and my attention when the world is thinking and wondering about peace in our time. Just this week you have probably heard or read headlines that seem to jump from another era, right out of the pages of our history books. Negotiations, summits, talks, strained diplomacy, war games and alliances tested, it all leaves us with an ever evolving understanding about peace and conflict in our world. And my guest today is someone who thinks a great deal about peace in our time.

Steve Killelea is a global philanthropist and founder of the Institute for Economics and Peace. Steve’s work lies squarely in the intersection of policy, philanthropy and purposeful public discourse. His research looks at the golden thread between business, peace and economic development and what he calls “Positive Peace” - a model that embraces the attitudes, institutions, and structures required to create and sustain peaceful societies in our world.

Steve’s work has been recognized by the United Nations, the World Bank, the Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu and Jimmy Carter. Steve is the creative force behind the Global Peace Index Study, launched in May of 2007, a fascinating report everyone should read to learn where the world’s nations and regions rank in peacefulness. I hope you enjoy this captivating discussion with a man of many talents and passions from surfing, to entrepreneurship and lifelong learning and paying it forward.

On Episode 87 we meet Shani Magosky, Founder of the LeaderSHIFT Project. Shani works with companies to help their leaders become better people. After decades of experience in the corporate arena, Shani decided to take some big shifts in her life toward purpose, joy and legacy. Enjoy the discussion and learn more about Shani at http://www.theleadershiftproject.com

A little out of order, but that is basically what life is these days, so I figured better late than never.

I wanted to share with you all the 2022 Season Preview for the podcast. Thank you for listening. I hope to bring you another season of inspiration, hope and reflection - all rooted from a place of intention and vision.

Thanks for allowing me to do what I do and share in something I love - storytelling and connecting. Here's to another great season together.

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Welcome back and thanks for listening. I am excited to kick off this season with our first guest in 2022 who will inspire you to pursue your passion and chase your dreams across the country and down the slopes. Jane Coughlin is a Change Management Consultant turned Certified Ski Instructor whose story showcases the importance of taking risks, listening to your heart and manifesting joy in your life. Sometimes finding joy means reconfiguring everything you have worked toward and built around you, and Jane reminds us there is always time to make a change and listen to that small voice in your head. Join me in this conversation with a courageous leader and generous heart as we learn how to navigate the turns, twists and jumps in this one wild and precious life. The day we connected for this conversation, Jane had just received her Level 1 Certification as a Ski Instructor. Thank you to Jane for joining to share this story.