Join us as we tackle what recovering addicts need to watch out for on the journey to sobriety. We’ll give practical tips for those in recovery such as avoiding triggers, the “why” behind choosing sobriety, as well as why YOUR PARTNER IS NOT YOUR ENEMY. Because we include a couple of solutions (including an easy way to see if you’re edging) this video can help you increase your self-awareness and decrease your dependency, and also support your wife’s healing.

Oh, and here is the link to the video we reference: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBrVb9T4Bxk)

Timestamps

0:00 Intro

0:53 1-Sobriety does not heal relationships if... (& re-sensitization)

4:11 2-Visual Sips / Solution: One second=look. Two seconds= …

5:10 Solution: One easy way to see if you might be edging

6:47 3-Doing this for someone else / then they "become the problem" to you

8:01 4-"But no one can get free of this!" / when the little blue pill didn't work

9:25 5-Groups where the leader isn't free / "I'm gonna stumble eventually"

11:17 6-Wanting her to celebrate right away / why she's still leery

13:10 7-Two SIGNS you might be on the slippery slope

15:11 8-My wife can't give me that level of... / how Jay answers that now

18:03 9-She should never be an ‘enemy’ to you / when she's treated as your equal

19:44 Solution: Feel she is your enemy? / she helps with a goal of yours

21:46 10-Impatience might be a sign that… / Solution: one of the first things you can do

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https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website

https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners

https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery

#betrayal

#relationships

#pornaddiction

#marriageadvice

In this video, we discuss a difficult topic, so if you’re not up for that right now, feel free to come back later. But it’s happened often enough over the last several years we thought we would cover it. And that hard reality is this: marriages in this particular helping community have been ending, or there’s been hidden relapse. It’s a serious topic, but we strive to give you some hope.

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Timestamps:

0:00 Intro

0:10 How this season will go

1:41 Marriages in this field are ending (relapsing)

2:17 Jay’s sobriety/our update (how to help)

5:15 If that happened to us (recovery is more than the addiction)

7:46 Regarding those relationships that have ended

8:33 Our marriage therapists divorced

9:24 Solution: avoiding complacency

10:21 Solution: a critical step (healthy community)

10:55 How we strive to help

11:45 Lori’s answer to: It must be so romantic

12:33 What we hope to give you this season (have questions?)

https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website

https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners

https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery

#betrayal

#relationships

#pornaddiction

#marriageadvice

We've shared with various audiences how we nearly divorced, but here's the fun side of our history.

 

Hello Ladies,

This next episode of our podcast covers the fun side of our story. If you're not in a fun mood, then feel free to disregard.

Some of you have heard some of this part of our story, but not all. So here's your chance to find out how all this really got started.

And a big Thank You to those who gave feedback on our first installments. (Please know we've been working hard to correct background noises and sound volume, and should have it all figured out very soon.)

Also please know we've figured out how to keep ladies from triggering from this podcast:

We'll post episodes that all people can listen to here. We'll post the 'funner'/lighter episodes using another route, so you won't even see those out here.

Either way, I hope you enjoy the content--whether by blog or audio.

Take care,

We discuss the importance of fun things only you two share... and let you in on a few of our own.

Talking about the fun side... and the not-so-fun side of relationships (betrayal and broken trust.)

 

Happy Valentine's Day, Everyone!

This is to let you know of a new podcast my husband and I are doing for relationships, both healed and recovering. Episode 1 introduces the podcast and gives a tip to save money on Valentine's Day--no matter who you share it with.

But we're trying to be sensitive to your needs as you heal, so over time we'll develop a 'trigger-warning' type of indication.

Overall it will be a way for you to quickly receive more information, tips and techniques.

Here's the first episode. (The ability to subscribe on iTunes and Spotify is coming soon.)