Collitalks ”Transformative Conversations”

Hi, it's Colli from Colli Talks Transformative Conversations. I'm going to be brief. I just want to apologize. The scheduled podcast that was to come out tomorrow can't because there was a massive storm and it was a storm that tower outaged for quite some time and that happened during my interview. So I laugh now, but it wasn't funny then, but it is now in a way that I get to enjoy interviewing the person, the lady that is going to be with us. And I get to interview her all over again. So I get a double bonus. I get to spend twice the time with her.

But in the meantime, what I wanted to talk to you about today or to share with you is I have another guest coming on soon who's an expert in codependence. And I just wanted to give a snippet about it. And that's, you know, codependence is the tragic situation where individuals lose their sense of self because they become so absorbed in someone else's life that they can't make decisions even for themselves. They're not themselves anymore, actually. They're the other person. And that's really heartbreaking because there's so much potential within these individuals, but it gets lost when they can't separate themselves from others. They, you know, the behavior often leads to extreme neediness. And it's not just regular neediness, like I need a glass of milk or I need a cup of coffee or whatever. It's a deeper, more intense form of dependency where they literally throw away their sense of self for the sake of someone else. And they become incredibly needy to the point where they rely on others entirely for validation and direction.

And you know, I see it a lot. I get it a lot with regards to parents and their children. They... Didn't lead the life they thought they wanted. They are unfulfilled. They have children. They push their children to extremes sometimes because they think they're doing it for the betterment of their children, to give them the best life in this competitive world. And so actually, they're doing it because their life is so unfulfilled. They're not even allowing for the child to really express their own needs because the parent is so needy to get the child to be what they never became. So this pattern of behavior often goes hand in hand with other issues. You know, it creates a complex and difficult situation. And what makes it even more challenging is that people in this state usually don't realize they have this problem. They assume everyone is like this, so they don't see that anything is wrong. And when you try, like I've tried sometimes to point it out to certain people who have become my clients, they often react with anger or defensiveness because they truly believe their behavior is normal. Well, it's not.

And so the best course of action for someone struggling with this level of codependence is to spend time alone, about six months with no relationships. By being alone, they can start to rediscover who they are without folding into someone else's identity again. And, you know, this solitude is crucial for them to regain their sense of self. And however, you know, that is incredibly difficult for most people in this situation, right? So as they often struggle to be alone, they can't be alone. And even those who are seemingly capable of healthy relationships often end up folding into their partner's identity, convincing themselves that the other person is always right. And then the pattern repeats itself. And when you try to point it out again, they often don't recognize it. It's a very frustrating cycle because if you try to help, they can become angry. And if you don't, they continue to be miserable, often turning to you, or in my case, to me, to vent their frustrations. But that's why with coaching, you know, it's, you pay to talk to me if you're, you know, a client. So, but I don't let people repeat their stories. I'm here to help people sort through and out of and into their truth.

So, My heart goes out to people caught in this cycle. It's a tough situation, and breaking free from it requires significant self-reflection and a willingness to embrace being alone long enough to rediscover who they really are. Now, as I mentioned, this is a short little blurb on not this week's interview that's going to be released, but an upcoming one. And he's an expert on codependency and I'm really looking forward to him sharing this and so much more on this amazing topic. So for now, I thank you for listening and I will talk to you again soon and have a wonderful, wonderful weekend. Lots of love and lots of soul hugs coming your way. Take care and we will talk soon. Bye-bye.

Hi, it's Colli from Colli Talks Transformative Conversations. In this brief podcast, I reflect on the overwhelming response to my interview with Robbie Ames and the importance of radical resilience in times of change.

As we navigate a world on fire, filled with unjust societies and crises, it's essential to respond with wisdom, love, and peace. This episode emphasizes the need to turn inward, reflect, and take full responsibility for our inner selves.

Many struggle with feelings of unworthiness and seek solace outside themselves. I discuss the journey of facing these inner pains and the importance of seeking support when needed. We can rise from our ashes, just as my 99-year-old aunt has done throughout her life.

Join me in embracing your loved self, walking through your struggles, and becoming whole again. Reach out for support and remember, your wound is your gift. Sending lots of love and soul hugs. Stay tuned for more transformative conversations.

Welcome to another episode of Colli Talks Transformative Conversations. Today, I am honored and delighted to be joined by my guest, Robbie Ames, a visionary leader in the golf and hospitality industry. I have known Robbie since 1997, and I am thrilled to share his inspiring journey with you.

Robbie Ames is currently the creative and highly involved point person for all aspects of club operations at Sea Pines Country Club. With a proven record of leading and developing team members, Robbie has transformed the club with $14 million in new projects and refurbished amenities. His passion for delivering exceptional and memorable golf and club experiences is evident in his impressive career.

Born in Trinidad and educated in the United States, Robbie's journey began as a professional golfer, representing Trinidad and Tobago in international tournaments. Despite his initial dream of playing on the PGA Tour not materializing, Robbie found his calling in club management. From Jamaica to Arizona, and now in Texas, Robbie's story is one of resilience, dedication, and continuous growth.

In this episode, Robbie shares his motivations, the challenges he faced, and the mentors who shaped his career. He discusses the importance of family, the sacrifices made, and the fulfillment of seeing his daughters grow. Robbie's vision for the future includes not only advancing his career but also enriching the lives of those around him.

Join us for an engaging conversation with Robbie Ames, as we explore the transformative power of following your true path and the impact of leadership, family, and personal growth on achieving success.

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In this episode, we are thrilled to introduce Ashley Manso, a dynamic and holistic practitioner based in Southern California. Ashley shares her journey including being in prison to expertise in holistic lifestyle coaching, tuning fork energy healing, hormone guidance, and performance coaching.

Ashley dives into her background, including her extensive training at the C.H.E.K Institute, her passion for helping women with hormonal health, and her commitment to integrative wellness approaches. She also discusses her role as an astrologer and her experience in various athletic fields, including Brazilian jiu-jitsu and professional track running.

Throughout the episode, Ashley elaborates on the importance of understanding and honoring the human body, addressing both physical and energetic imbalances. She also shares her motivational journey, emphasizing the significance of self-awareness and the pursuit of higher consciousness.

Join us as we explore how Ashley's holistic methodologies can guide you towards a balanced and healthy life, and learn how to get in touch with her for personalized wellness programs.

In this compelling episode of "Colli Talks Transformative Conversations," Colli welcomes the extraordinary Netta Gorman, a woman who has transformed her life and the lives of many others through her groundbreaking approach to nutrition. With over 500,000 podcast downloads, Netta is a beacon of hope for those struggling with cravings and health issues. She shares her personal story of overcoming relentless fatigue, joint pain, and digestive problems by making a radical dietary change—eliminating sugar, flour, and sweeteners.

Netta's journey from feeling hopeless to mentoring midlife women through similar transformations is both inspiring and enlightening. She dives deep into her initial resistance, the surprising benefits she experienced within two weeks, and how she now guides others to find freedom from cravings. This episode is a treasure trove of insights into the emotional and physical impacts of sugar, offering practical advice for anyone looking to take control of their health.

Join Colli and Netta as they discuss the power of nutrition, the importance of real whole foods, and the incredible sense of empowerment that comes from breaking free from sugar. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their health and well-being.

Happy Fathers Day to all the amazing Fathers.

In this special episode, join us as we dive deep into the life and wisdom of Dan Millman, a former world champion athlete, Stanford University gymnastics coach, martial arts instructor, and prolific author. Known for his transformative book, "Way of the Peaceful Warrior," which was adapted into a film, Dan shares his insights on living an aware, purposeful, and healthful life.

Discover how a life-altering accident set Dan on a path of personal growth and teaching, leading him to write 18 books published in 29 languages. From his early days teaching martial arts to his philosophy on balancing a peaceful heart with a warrior spirit, Dan's journey is filled with valuable lessons for anyone seeking to navigate life's challenges.

Don't miss this inspiring conversation that covers the importance of action, the role of adversity in personal growth, and practical advice for living a balanced and fulfilling life. Whether you're a long-time fan of Dan Millman or new to his work, this episode is sure to leave you feeling motivated and enlightened.

In this episode of Transformative Conversations, we are honored to welcome a special guest, Doug O'Brien. Doug is the author of The User's Guide to Sleight of Mouth, a certified trainer of hypnosis and havening techniques, and a master trainer of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). Based in New York, Doug's remarkable career includes founding the Department of Integrative Medicine at New York's Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in the 1990s, where he provided pre-surgical hypnosis to cardiac patients.

Join us as we delve into Doug's inspiring transformative journey, from his early days as a musician in New York to becoming a world-renowned expert in NLP and hypnosis. He shares his personal transformation experiences, and his dedication to continuous learning and teaching. Doug also introduces us to the revolutionary Havening techniques, which have shown incredible success in treating PTSD and other traumas.

This episode is packed with insights into the power of the human mind and body, the effectiveness of NLP, hypnosis, and Havening, and Doug's unwavering commitment to helping others transform their lives. Don't miss this chance to learn from one of the best in the field and discover how you can harness these powerful techniques for your own growth and healing.

To contact Doug:

https://ericksonian.com/team/doug-obrien

https://dougobrienhypnosis.com/

Email: [email protected]

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Colli K Christante 

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Join us in this episode of Transformative Conversations as we dive deep into the fascinating journey of Ivan and Mariana Pollic, seasoned strategic growth specialists. They have mastered the art of restructuring, scaling, and exiting small to mid-sized businesses, ensuring ethical and profitable transitions while preserving team integrity and instilling long-term value.

With a background in the aerospace industry, the Pollics successfully navigated complex challenges to quadruple their company's revenue and achieve an eight-figure exit. Over the last 12 years, they've advised on over 300 board meetings and facilitated more than 1,000 successful acquisitions and exits, scaling seven businesses past $100 million with $4 billion-plus in portfolio sales.

Founders of the Systemic Approach Institute, Ivan and Mariana are dedicated to helping leaders and organizations find opportunities in the current transition economy. They support leveraging unique histories and gifts to make the biggest impact in life and business. Concurrently, Ivan serves as the CEO of Lutec, an aerospace manufacturing firm, while Mariana is the Chief Cultural Officer. Together, they co-authored the best-selling book, Bridging Legacy and Innovation to Build a Family Business that Lasts for Generations, and teach at California State University Fullerton.

In this episode, we explore their motivations, challenges, and the incredible experiences that shaped their approach to strategic growth and transformation. Discover how they blend inner world shifts with strategic outer world actions to create sustainable and impactful growth.

Is Transformation Possible in and through Marketing? Join Joey Ragona and me as we discuss this amazing complicated yet simple topic.

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Join Colli from Colli Talks as she delves into the often-undiscussed topic of dealing with Mother’s Day when there is a strained mother-child relationship. Get ready for a powerful conversation that seeks to dispel the societal notion of perfect mother-child relationships, and with understanding, explores the diverse realities in which one might not feel close to their mother. Tune in for an examination of the pressures to celebrate Mother’s Day, despite not having a close connection with one’s mother, and discover you’re not alone. Additionally, Colli opens up about her own complicated relationship with her mother and how she managed to establish a closer bond with her after her passing.

During this enlightening episode, she provides practical strategies for navigating Mother’s Day if you find it challenging. These include acknowledging your feelings, limiting exposure to triggers, focusing on your current family, celebrating other mother figures, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care. She empowers listeners to reclaim, redefine, or boycott the holiday, reminding everyone that their relationship with their mother does not define their worth or happiness.

Hear about Colli's personal journey of reconnecting with her mother after her death, and explore the difficult reality of abusive or toxic maternal relationships, stringent societal expectations, and the resulting feelings of isolation and guilt. With insight and compassion, Colli discusses the various ways in which motherly relationships vary and how different values and personalities play a role in these dynamics. Remember, you are not alone in this, and you have the right to prioritize your mental health and what makes you feel comfortable.