In this episode of Color Shift: Transracial Adoptees, Nathan sits down with Sun Mee, a Korean adoptee raised in a white German family in a small town in southern Germany.
Adopted from South Korea at 3½ years old with little information about her biological family, Sun Mee learned early how to adapt. She disconnected from her Korean roots, pushed down difficult emotions, and embraced the role of the “grateful” and well-adjusted adoptee. But beneath the surface was a deeper sense of disconnection and questions about identity and belonging that eventually became impossible to ignore.
Sun Mee shares the identity rupture she experienced at 18, her decision to begin searching for her biological family, and the complicated emotions surrounding DNA testing and her return trips to Korea—experiences that brought moments of recognition alongside feelings of alienation.
We also explore a different side of adoptee healing: the body. Sun Mee discusses how somatic healing helped her reconnect with emotions she had spent years suppressing and ultimately changed the way she understood belonging—not simply as something to find in a country, culture, family, or community, but as something that can also be cultivated within ourselves.
That journey eventually led Sun Mee to found NUMARU, a holistic emotional wellbeing platform and international community for BIPOC adoptees. Through NUMARU, she works to create spaces where adoptees can process their emotions, make peace with the complexity of their stories, and explore what it means to belong on their own terms.
This is a conversation about adaptation, identity, the body, returning to Korea, and the complicated work of finding home—both within ourselves and with one another.
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