Come Talk to Me

Come Talk to Me

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Come Talk to Me episodes

  • To Spoil or to be Strict?

    To give, give, give or demand, demand, demand? Tune in this week as Dr. Brown discusses if it is best to spoil your children or to be strict. 

    14 min
  • Mental Health Series Part 3 - Recovery Mindset

    In Part 3 of the Mental Health Series, Dr. Brown talks more in-depth about how you can help your child through mental health illness with real, actionable ideas. 

    Mindset for recovery – the parent’s mindset

    1. Fight guilt/self-condemnation
    2. Help your child fight self-condemnation – best mindset is that this is not my fault, but I can take responsibility for recovery
    3. Communicate with your child’s therapist demand explanation
      • learn the therapeutic intervention

        •     4. Relapse prevention

        • Situations – ongoing stressors
        • Events – stressful one-time events
        • People
        • Places
        • Thoughts
        • Feelings
        • Behaviors

          • CDC website pages about suicide: https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/factors/index.html

          National Alliance on Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/home

          Marlatt, G.A. & Gordon, J. R. (1985). Relapse Prevention: Maintenance Strategies in the Treatment of

          Addictive Behaviors. The Guilford Press. 558 pages.

          16 min
        • Mental Health Series Part 2 - Suicide Indicators

          In Part 2 of the Mental Health Series, Dr. Brown focuses on a tough, but important topic. Suicide. He will discuss what indicators to look for and how you can help your child through this time. 

          In 2019…

          10th leading cause of death in US

          2nd leading cause of death among individuals between ages of 10 and 34

          2.5 as many suicides as homicides

          Indicators that trigger concern about suicide:

          A. Individual

          1. Previous suicide attempt
          2. Discussion or threats of suicide
          3. Impulsive or aggressive tendencies
          4. Mental illness, such as depression
          5. Social isolation
          6. Criminal problems
          7. Financial problems
          8. Job problems or loss
          9. Legal problems
          10. Serious illness
          11. Substance use disorder
          12. Hopelessness
          13. Helplessness

            14. B. Relationship

            1. Adverse childhood experiences such as child abuse and neglect
            2. Bullying
            3. Family history of suicide
            4. Relationship problems such as a break-up, violence, or loss
            5. Sexual violence

              6. C. Community

              1. Barriers to health care
              2. Cultural and religious beliefs such as a belief that suicide is noble resolution of a personal problem
              3. Suicide cluster in the community/school – suicide can be contagious

                4. D. Societal

                1. Stigma associated with mental illness or help-seeking
                2. Easy access to lethal means among people at risk (e.g. firearms, medications)
                3. Unsafe media portrayals of suicide

                  4. E. How to respond

                  1. 1. ASK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
                  2. 2. The only acceptable answer to the question, “Are you thinking of harming yourself?” is, “No, I am not thinking of harming myself.”
                  3. Unacceptable answers:
                    • I wouldn’t do that.
                    • I’m fine.
                    • I’m okay.
                    • I don’t believe in that.
                    • It is against my faith.

                      •     4. If you believe that your child is suicidal, take him/her/them to the nearest emergency department for an evaluation to see if the child needs inpatient care. If they do not, then contact your child’s pediatrician for follow up, or if you child is already seeing a therapist, contact the therapist (after the emergency room visit.)

                      CDC website pages about suicide: https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/factors/index.html

                      National Alliance on Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/home

                      Marlatt, G.A. & Gordon, J. R. (1985). Relapse Prevention: Maintenance Strategies in the Treatment of

                      Addictive Behaviors. The Guilford Press. 558 pages.

                      14 min
                    • Mental Health Series Part 1 - Signs and Symptoms

                      May is mental health awareness month. We want to break down this important topic into a series of 3 episodes. In this episode, Dr. Brown discusses signs and symptoms of mental illness in children and adolescents. Listen to part 2 as Dr. Brown dives into the topic of suicide and Part 3 as he discusses the Recovery Mindset. 

                      Signs and symptoms (We tend to look for changes in these areas and, unless it involves a safety threat, we are almost always looking at several symptoms. A single symptom or even a couple of symptoms are not enough to make a diagnosis unless the symptoms are disrupting a person’s life.)

                      A. Family

                      1.  Violation of the family love, affection, playfulness norm
                      2.  Frequent disobedience
                      3.  Change in relating to the family or time with the family

                        4. B. Behavior

                        1. Change in sleep
                        2. Change in appetite
                        3. Decline in hygiene
                        4. Change in appearance
                        5. Change in social group
                        6. Decline in ability to experience pleasure
                        7. Hyperactive behavior
                        8. Abuse of alcohol or drugs
                        9. Change in sex drive
                        10. Inability to carry out daily activities or responsibilities
                        11. Frequent temper tantrums
                        12. Avoiding friends and social activities

                          13. C. Thoughts/Thinking

                          1. Problems with concentration
                          2. Problems with memory
                          3. Confused thought
                          4. Frequent nightmares
                          5. Difficulties understanding or relating to other people
                          6. Difficulty perceiving reality (delusions or hallucinations, in which a person experiences and senses things that don't exist in objective reality)
                          7. Multiple physical ailments without obvious causes (such as headaches, stomach aches, vague and ongoing “aches and pains”)
                          8.  Thinking about suicide

                            9. D. Feelings

                            1. Excessive anxiety, worry, fear
                            2. Sadness – feeling down
                            3. Extreme mood changes, including uncontrollable “highs” or feelings of Euphoria
                            4. Prolonged or strong feelings of irritability or anger
                            5. Difficulty tolerating frustration
                            6. Intense fear of weight gain
                            7. What to do – if you are concerned that your child is suffering from some of these symptoms, it is healthy to seek help. Your child’s pediatrician is a great place to start.
                            8. That physician can direct the care regarding medical and psychotherapeutic interventions.

                              9. CDC website pages about suicide: https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/factors/index.html

                              National Alliance on Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/home

                              Marlatt, G.A. & Gordon, J. R. (1985). Relapse Prevention: Maintenance Strategies in the Treatment of

                              Addictive Behaviors. The Guilford Press. 558 pages.

                              13 min

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                            In 10 minutes or so each week, we will give you actionable ideas to help you have meaningful relationships with your children and to help those children learn to laugh and smile more, live healthy…