Think you’re not hot enough for the lifestyle? Too average? Too old? Not what you think people are looking for? Think again.

In this episode, we unpack how swinging isn't about being the hottest person in the room—it’s about how you show up. Confidence, vibe, and how you make people feel will get you further than abs or a perfect ass ever will.

We will talk about the simple things most people overlook—like grooming, hygiene, and not acting like a weirdo—and share personal stories of pulling people who, in the “vanilla world,” would’ve been way out of our league.

It’s not always cheating, abuse, or betrayal that ends relationships. 

Sometimes it’s boredom, avoidance, and pretending everything's fine.

This episode is about the normal-looking relationships falling apart behind closed doors—slowly, quietly, and often with no one noticing.

What’s even worse, how many of these relationships stay together until someone dies?

Are humans really meant to be with one person forever?

Or is monogamy just a cultural script we’ve all been handed—whether it fits or not?

In this episode, we delve into the biology, traditions, and uncomfortable truths surrounding lifelong monogamy. 

From sex drives and cheating stats to societal pressure and religion, we’re pulling it all apart.

As Chris Rock once said, “Men are only as faithful as their options.”

When we first got into swinging, we had our rules locked in: couples only, same room only, always together.

That lasted… maybe two encounters.

In this episode, we share how our rules and boundaries evolved over 22 years in the lifestyle—from panic attacks at house parties to hotel takeovers, kink exploration, solo play, and even a surprise second round in a hotel room.

If you’re new and trying to figure out your “rules,” this episode will give you permission to take your time, stay flexible, and grow together.

A lot of couples may try swinging once or for a short period of time. So what made us keep going—and keep growing—for 22 years?

In this episode, we share the real reasons we stayed in the lifestyle, from the electric excitement to the deep, unexpected communication breakthroughs swinging created.

We also talk about how swinging gave us new ways to keep things fun, adventurous, and even a little competitive—while our monogamous friends stayed stuck in miserable, disconnected relationships.

If you’ve ever wondered what swinging can really add to a strong relationship—this is the episode that spells it out.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle.

We’ll share:

• Why swinging is not therapy
• A story about a female half of a couple who got pushed into it before she was ready
• How manipulation, imbalance, and desperation lead to disaster
• And what a solid foundation actually looks like before you start

If you’re here to spice things up, great. If you’re here to save something that’s already sinking—listen closely.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the differences between swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and everything in between.

We’ll talk about:

• Why we’re not poly, and never will be
• The show Polyfamily and the emotional chaos it shows
• Why emotional involvement, “second wives,” and relationship triangles almost never work
• And how swinging—with no emotional ties—is what actually strengthens our marriage

If you’re trying to figure out your lane in non-monogamy, this episode will help you get real clear, real fast.

In today’s episode, we’re sharing a real story from a night at our local club.

We met a couple who seemed like seasoned pros—but they were holding onto a fantasy that had never actually happened… until that night.

We’ll walk you through:

• How it all started with a casual bar conversation
• The surprising truth about this couple’s experience (or lack of it)
• The moment Vic set things in motion
• What it felt like to give them their first time—and why it turned us on just as much as them

This one’s about energy, anticipation, and why sometimes, the other couple’s experience is the hottest part of all.

In this episode, we’re going back to our first time.

We’ll tell you:

• How Vic shocked Dave by signing up for an AFF account
• The couple we met from the next town over
• What really went down that night in our house
• And how we both felt before, during, and especially after

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s actually like the first time you swing—this one’s for you.

In this episode, we’re getting real about how we got into the lifestyle.

We weren’t struggling. We weren’t bored.

Our sex life was already damn good—maybe too good.

We’ll talk about:

• How curiosity evolved from Real Sex on HBO (yes, we're dating ourselves lol) to pillow talk and playful boundaries
• Why communication and honesty were the key from the start
• How Dave’s solo habits opened up space for deeper trust between us

Whether you’re already swinging or just starting to have the conversation, this is the story that shows it doesn’t have to start from struggle.